Hi All,
I was on Lexapro 4 years, and about 1 yr and a half ago I met my fiance. Things were great - we got engaged... Then I felt that I was strong enough to go off. I stopped taking my 10mg by myself then told my doctor. I was working out, and getting by... eating healthy. Then at work my symptoms came back - constant nervousness, uneasy uncomfortable feelings of despair, little things became BIG things. I was miserable. So I went back on my Lexapro gradually along with Xanax. It was a complete nightmare. My body rejected it - and I was sick, depressed and confused. No sexual desire. The little issues I had with my fiance became huge to me. Now I am contemplating getting married. I am so scared that I may really not love him. My psychologist hasn't been able to get to the core of this with me yet.
Has anyone experienced this before? Help!
Back on Lexapro - now scared to get married!!
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This sounds to me like it is not a Lexapro problem but rather a problem between you and your fiance. Feelings and people do change, you have to do what is best for you, what you feel in your heart.
As for your meds if the Lex no longer works than talk to your doc about switching to another SSRI, there are plenty out there that can make you feel better.
As for your meds if the Lex no longer works than talk to your doc about switching to another SSRI, there are plenty out there that can make you feel better.
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I was recovered from panic and agoraphobia for several years.
I too am about to get married. Everything was good between us, but when it came down to the REALITY that I was getting married, I FREAKED out. (I have had several other things happening at once as well.)
I started getting the panic attacks everyday again and not wanting to go anywhere...out of nowhere!!
I then started all the old obsessive thinking again...are we REALLY in love? What if our marriage doesn't work out? (I had us divorced before we even got married
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Why don't you get one of those "Before you get married/engaged" books? I ordered one this weekend. You can go through all the topics together, the questions.
Perhaps he really isn't the one, but it really could just be a big thing for you and it's scaring you. I believe deep in my heart the mine is right for me...but I still get all nervous and think all those "what-if" thoughts.
Perhaps the book will help you to get a clear snapshot of what you guys are about. It could give you a lot of peace and ease the anxiety about it...and may be a fun little journey as you guys learn even more about each other.
Perhaps once you get a handle on this, the anxiety in your life will subside, if this is one of the main stressors that brought it on.
Be blessed.
I too am about to get married. Everything was good between us, but when it came down to the REALITY that I was getting married, I FREAKED out. (I have had several other things happening at once as well.)
I started getting the panic attacks everyday again and not wanting to go anywhere...out of nowhere!!
I then started all the old obsessive thinking again...are we REALLY in love? What if our marriage doesn't work out? (I had us divorced before we even got married
) Why don't you get one of those "Before you get married/engaged" books? I ordered one this weekend. You can go through all the topics together, the questions.
Perhaps he really isn't the one, but it really could just be a big thing for you and it's scaring you. I believe deep in my heart the mine is right for me...but I still get all nervous and think all those "what-if" thoughts.
Perhaps the book will help you to get a clear snapshot of what you guys are about. It could give you a lot of peace and ease the anxiety about it...and may be a fun little journey as you guys learn even more about each other.
Perhaps once you get a handle on this, the anxiety in your life will subside, if this is one of the main stressors that brought it on.
Be blessed.
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Thanks guys!
Nole - I feel that "what if" right now if he is the one for me.... BUT before all this happened I was ok. We've had our bumps ~ but my depression made me so indecisive, and also so no into my relationship. I think maybe I fear long term commitment and that is truly my core problem.... At the same time I fear I may be making the wrong decision and cannot tell what is right~
Frances - THANK YOU for replying. I feel so grateful that I'm not the only bride on CLOUD 9 planning my wedding. This is a serious commitment, and I want with all my heart for it to be right. Unfortunately my anxiety takes over, and I can get so irrational.
HOW do you know or HOW did you figure out for yourself that he is the one?
I will certainly get one of those books. Great idea!
Nole - I feel that "what if" right now if he is the one for me.... BUT before all this happened I was ok. We've had our bumps ~ but my depression made me so indecisive, and also so no into my relationship. I think maybe I fear long term commitment and that is truly my core problem.... At the same time I fear I may be making the wrong decision and cannot tell what is right~
Frances - THANK YOU for replying. I feel so grateful that I'm not the only bride on CLOUD 9 planning my wedding. This is a serious commitment, and I want with all my heart for it to be right. Unfortunately my anxiety takes over, and I can get so irrational.
HOW do you know or HOW did you figure out for yourself that he is the one?
I will certainly get one of those books. Great idea!
I knew because BEFORE I started the bad panics again and then obsessive thinking, I was happy about it..we fit.
Also, I have know him for several years, there has always been something there, but the timing was never right.
Finally, here we are! I prayed and asked the Lord to intervene if he was not the one for me, and I trust him that He would have done it. Actually, before we got together I was praying for specific things to happen to bring us together, or for that feeling to go away and for me to be able to move on from waiting to see if it would ever happen. Those things actually came to pass. Funny you ask this question...now that I am reflecting on all the specific miracles that brought us together, I can't believe I would have let all that obsessive thinking get to me! Thanks!
Anyway. That is how I know I have God's stamp of approval.
Also, I have know him for several years, there has always been something there, but the timing was never right.
Finally, here we are! I prayed and asked the Lord to intervene if he was not the one for me, and I trust him that He would have done it. Actually, before we got together I was praying for specific things to happen to bring us together, or for that feeling to go away and for me to be able to move on from waiting to see if it would ever happen. Those things actually came to pass. Funny you ask this question...now that I am reflecting on all the specific miracles that brought us together, I can't believe I would have let all that obsessive thinking get to me! Thanks!
Anyway. That is how I know I have God's stamp of approval.
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I am getting married in June. I was slowly building anxiety up and had a full blown attack about a month ago now. I have since been in freak out mode and had to go on Lexapro. I doubt everything! I question everything about getting married. Is he the one? Will we be happy forever? Can I stand him forever? Why do I hate the word forever?! Will I be a good wife? Etc. I doubt everything I have ever known and it's not fair to either of us. I think I am truly terrified of "marriage" and not marrying him. It's a HUGE decision and you'd be crazy not to have anxiety over it! Give yourself permission to freak out. Take it one day at a time. Share your feelings and doubts with your mate. We can't predict the future. We can't know for sure if we will live "happily ever after." But we can make a choice today to try in spite of the anxiety and the unknown. There is no guarantee and that's A-okay! Look in your heart. Do you love him and want to spend your life with him? Do premarital counseling and feel the anxiety and move forward anyway. I hope this helps!
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Hi Ladies!
Thanks again for such informative and helpful advice. I have started to go back to Church (something that I had stopped and truly missed), AND I asked that my fiance go to pre-marital counseling with me.... Actually the pre-marital counseling was for something he did - that upset me - and HE needs some help to realize what he did and is doing wrong. The counseling for me is if I can forgive and forget.... And if he is the ONE for me.
I will keep everyone posted. And THANKS so much!!!
Thanks again for such informative and helpful advice. I have started to go back to Church (something that I had stopped and truly missed), AND I asked that my fiance go to pre-marital counseling with me.... Actually the pre-marital counseling was for something he did - that upset me - and HE needs some help to realize what he did and is doing wrong. The counseling for me is if I can forgive and forget.... And if he is the ONE for me.
I will keep everyone posted. And THANKS so much!!!
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