All the bad, low self-esteem, neurotic, evil, self-destructive thoughts that I thought I've already addressed all come back, again and again. Why aren't they just going away? I write, I journal, I respond with positive, yet the same thoughts keep surfacing.
HELP ME!!!
I'm Hopeless!!!
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Minnchad,
Do you make sure you are not talking to or speaking of yourself negatively? Make a "grateful" journal. Everyday write down everything you're grateful for on that day. That will keep you in a positive mindset and you'll think less about the things that are "wrong" in your life. It'll make you think more positively and make you a happier person. Try it.
Do you make sure you are not talking to or speaking of yourself negatively? Make a "grateful" journal. Everyday write down everything you're grateful for on that day. That will keep you in a positive mindset and you'll think less about the things that are "wrong" in your life. It'll make you think more positively and make you a happier person. Try it.
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Hi,
You just have to hang in there... it takes a while (longer than we like it to) to effect change. You'll get it as long as you are doing the positive things in your life to make change. We'll all have bad days but maybe take time to reflect and think of the things that could turn that around... Enjoy your moments as much as you can. Keeping a journal of positives or things you can do when you aren't feeling positive can be helpful. Best of luck!
You just have to hang in there... it takes a while (longer than we like it to) to effect change. You'll get it as long as you are doing the positive things in your life to make change. We'll all have bad days but maybe take time to reflect and think of the things that could turn that around... Enjoy your moments as much as you can. Keeping a journal of positives or things you can do when you aren't feeling positive can be helpful. Best of luck!
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You don't address a negative thought once or twice. It's an ingrained habit to have "automative" negative thoughts. I used to have them without even trying. You have to keep working on not accepting the negative thought at face value, not accepting it as true, until it begins to subside. But, your own mind will test you again and again after that to see if you continue to challenge it. That's called a "growth spurt" in the program. Keep practicing the skills of the program and eventually you will begin to see progress and feel better.
It's more than writing, journaling, saying positive. We have to find loving, compassionate thoughts that we BELIEVE. Once we do that the negative one will lose its power. What you are saying is that you still believe the negative ones. Find replacement thoughts which you BELIEVE are true.
Deedee and Trinity have given some very good advice. Combine it all and you're on your way.
One more suggestion, stop beating yourself up!!!!! The title of your post is, "I'm Hopeless!". Keep telling yourself lies like this if you want to continue to feel bad. Saying you are hopeless is total CRAP, it isn't true!!!!
It's more than writing, journaling, saying positive. We have to find loving, compassionate thoughts that we BELIEVE. Once we do that the negative one will lose its power. What you are saying is that you still believe the negative ones. Find replacement thoughts which you BELIEVE are true.
Deedee and Trinity have given some very good advice. Combine it all and you're on your way.
One more suggestion, stop beating yourself up!!!!! The title of your post is, "I'm Hopeless!". Keep telling yourself lies like this if you want to continue to feel bad. Saying you are hopeless is total CRAP, it isn't true!!!!
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When I feel like I'm backsliding or having too many negative thoughts I listen to the appropriate CD again..as many times as I need too..until I feel like I'm back on track..it really helps me. It's really nice that for the price of a few visits to a Therapist I have access to whatever I need whenever I need it. I do see a Therapist but only once a month...I have this program at my fingertips whenever I need it!
Don't give up!! You are on the right track..hang in there and use the program as much as you need to until you develop new,healthier thinking habits
It will happen..it took many years for you to develop negative habits and it will take a while to "undo" the negative habits and replace them with positive habits.
Don't give up!! You are on the right track..hang in there and use the program as much as you need to until you develop new,healthier thinking habits
It will happen..it took many years for you to develop negative habits and it will take a while to "undo" the negative habits and replace them with positive habits.-
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MinnChad,
For me something that helps me to start a new day, fresh and to avoid negative thoughts, its what Lucinda does. "Everyday start your day with a prayer thanking for everything good you have going in your life." It can be for the smallest thing as having a pair of shoes to wear to a big one like having a place to sleep,etc... Also follow the six steps to see what really is bothering you, you can find those in Session 3. MinnChad I don't know what is your situation or what is making you have all those negative thoughts but probably something is trigging them would a good idea to find what it is. Once you found out you can do this: something that helps me too is, when I get really mad and angry about soomething or with somebody and the negative thoughts just doon't go away, and I can't even go to sleep, I have to write in a journal what is bothering me, and let me tell you what I write is not nice, but at least I take all me anger out, and believe it or not after I'm done, I feel so tired that I forget about it, or at least I'm way more relax. Try it, it works!!!! I wish you the best!!!
lovelysmile
For me something that helps me to start a new day, fresh and to avoid negative thoughts, its what Lucinda does. "Everyday start your day with a prayer thanking for everything good you have going in your life." It can be for the smallest thing as having a pair of shoes to wear to a big one like having a place to sleep,etc... Also follow the six steps to see what really is bothering you, you can find those in Session 3. MinnChad I don't know what is your situation or what is making you have all those negative thoughts but probably something is trigging them would a good idea to find what it is. Once you found out you can do this: something that helps me too is, when I get really mad and angry about soomething or with somebody and the negative thoughts just doon't go away, and I can't even go to sleep, I have to write in a journal what is bothering me, and let me tell you what I write is not nice, but at least I take all me anger out, and believe it or not after I'm done, I feel so tired that I forget about it, or at least I'm way more relax. Try it, it works!!!! I wish you the best!!!
lovelysmile
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