This is something that interests me. Please, answer honestly regardless of which side you're on.
I'm including options for both sides for fairness.
Relationships and gender
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Hi Minn,
This is a really strange and tough question to ask. Your poll answers are a little ambiguous. I do not agree with your reasoning or theory at all- I think both genders struggle equally. I believe women are easily judged for being 'crazy b!tches' or 'nuts' when we are emotional and most men complain their women are 'nagging' or 'overemotional' - its almost become slang or a social norm for women to be relized as more flippy and moody. I would think men with these problems would be able to find a strong understanding women to respect and appreciate that he actually has feelings unlike most 'regular' men, and men struggle with their own negative thoughts about not being 'man' enough, bring home the bacon, being the stronger one etc. its a way of thinking. Its like anything, adjust your perception and thinking and you will be satisfied and get what you want. This might be a controversial subject..
This is a really strange and tough question to ask. Your poll answers are a little ambiguous. I do not agree with your reasoning or theory at all- I think both genders struggle equally. I believe women are easily judged for being 'crazy b!tches' or 'nuts' when we are emotional and most men complain their women are 'nagging' or 'overemotional' - its almost become slang or a social norm for women to be relized as more flippy and moody. I would think men with these problems would be able to find a strong understanding women to respect and appreciate that he actually has feelings unlike most 'regular' men, and men struggle with their own negative thoughts about not being 'man' enough, bring home the bacon, being the stronger one etc. its a way of thinking. Its like anything, adjust your perception and thinking and you will be satisfied and get what you want. This might be a controversial subject..
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monty'smom
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I don't think it's a strange question. It might be controversial, but if everyone here is mature enough, they will be able to answer from a neutral standpoint. I've taken my reasoning out, since I think it
might have turned people away.
I think you might have misinterpreted my post. I was trying to find out how many women in comparison to
men are able to find a significant other when they have this problem. It's pretty cut and dry and doesn't
include the subtleties of relationships after they've been established.
Creating a more detailed option selection would have taken longer, but if anyone has any suggestions on what I could include in the poll as options, I'd like to hear them.
Really, I just want to know the ratio of attached men compared to attached women with anxiety.
I'm glad it's getting some interest.
Does anyone else have any input?
might have turned people away.
I think you might have misinterpreted my post. I was trying to find out how many women in comparison to
men are able to find a significant other when they have this problem. It's pretty cut and dry and doesn't
include the subtleties of relationships after they've been established.
Creating a more detailed option selection would have taken longer, but if anyone has any suggestions on what I could include in the poll as options, I'd like to hear them.
Really, I just want to know the ratio of attached men compared to attached women with anxiety.
I'm glad it's getting some interest.
Does anyone else have any input?
BELIEVE YOU CAN CONQUER ANYTHING~ AND YOU WILL !! I DID IT, YES !!!!!
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I personally don't think it's healthy at times to seek a romantic relationship when you are suffering from an emotional disorder. Please don't send me letters or emails. lol.
I'm not saying always, but in my case specifically, I didn't realize how emotionally dependent I was on the opinions of other people. Such dependency is not healthy for a romantic relationship. It takes two partners who are reasonably emotionally healthy to make a relationship work. If you are dependent, or needy emotionally, you can easily drive your significant other sway from you by seeking to be too involved with them or seeking to control them in order to get your own needs met. Been there and done that. Self esteem issues are involved, mainly lack thereof. Seeking to gain self esteem through dependence on another person, i.e. being in a relationship, is not healthy.
I'm not trying to offend, just stating what has happened to me and what I've learned as a result.
I'm not saying always, but in my case specifically, I didn't realize how emotionally dependent I was on the opinions of other people. Such dependency is not healthy for a romantic relationship. It takes two partners who are reasonably emotionally healthy to make a relationship work. If you are dependent, or needy emotionally, you can easily drive your significant other sway from you by seeking to be too involved with them or seeking to control them in order to get your own needs met. Been there and done that. Self esteem issues are involved, mainly lack thereof. Seeking to gain self esteem through dependence on another person, i.e. being in a relationship, is not healthy.
I'm not trying to offend, just stating what has happened to me and what I've learned as a result.
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Although I am recovered, I've had a partner when I was anxious and depressed. I think that, because every relationship is different, it is very possible to have a successful relationship while going through this. As long as you're with someone who can, or is willing to, deal with their partner with anxiety and depression, in a loving, caring, and understanding way. There are a lot of people who can't, but there's also a lot of people who can.
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So far it's looking like I thought it would, maybe a little different.
See, the reason I believe men have a difficult time is simply because, by social expectations, they are nearly required to ask the girl out.
Women rarely ask the men out. It just doesn't happen. I think it should.
I'm going to get a little in depth here, but I think it applies.
American society is becoming less and less patriarchal driven. Women are taking over many positions that they wouldn't have before and men are sometimes being displaced.
I think things may come around as women are more comfortable in their newer roles as some of the leaders of the country, and I think they can do an excellent job (PMS aside) JOKING!.
There have been Matriarchal societies in the past, and they succeeded. Maybe we're coming upon a new age where the society is neither patriarchal or matriarchal in terms of business and family matters, but shared between the two.
I would be OK with that, as long as women are willing to take some of the more 'subtle' responsibilities from men (such as being the ones who approach the other for a date and being understanding in terms of the shifting emotions between the sexes).
My god, I didn't think I was going to write my dissertation, but that right there must be at least part of it!
Please, keep taking the poll and if you have anything to add to my posts go ahead.
See, the reason I believe men have a difficult time is simply because, by social expectations, they are nearly required to ask the girl out.
Women rarely ask the men out. It just doesn't happen. I think it should.
I'm going to get a little in depth here, but I think it applies.
American society is becoming less and less patriarchal driven. Women are taking over many positions that they wouldn't have before and men are sometimes being displaced.
I think things may come around as women are more comfortable in their newer roles as some of the leaders of the country, and I think they can do an excellent job (PMS aside) JOKING!.
There have been Matriarchal societies in the past, and they succeeded. Maybe we're coming upon a new age where the society is neither patriarchal or matriarchal in terms of business and family matters, but shared between the two.
I would be OK with that, as long as women are willing to take some of the more 'subtle' responsibilities from men (such as being the ones who approach the other for a date and being understanding in terms of the shifting emotions between the sexes).
My god, I didn't think I was going to write my dissertation, but that right there must be at least part of it!
Please, keep taking the poll and if you have anything to add to my posts go ahead.
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Who really knows...but I bet if they did a "study" on it (wich I'm sure has been done somewhere) they would find that it was easier for Women to find a partner dispite their problems. This may be in part to the fact that women are known to be more emotional anyhow and it may also have something to do with the fact that often men with depression and anxiety tend to deny or hide from it...women are more open and expressive, men feel like a failure or a wuss for being in such a situation so they won't admit it and may never even try where as women tend to reach out for help more often...that's my 2 cents. I don't think your question was stupid at all...it made me think...
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