Break up

Shalini · Post by **Shalini** » Wed Jun 04, 2008 9:39 am

Has anyone been through an intense break up and it was the cause of the panic attacks/depression?

Craw · Post by **Craw** » Sat Jun 07, 2008 2:24 am

Hi
I think every break up I have is the cause of the depression/Anxiety I experience. I am so tired of relationships, but I keep getting myself back into them. It is crazy...They seem to control my life. I think I want to be loved so bad and have a family, that I just would do anything for it. The relationships continue to start and end leaving me losing weight with depression/anxiety and unable to function at work...It is a miserable state. I wish I could get off the rollercoaster of relationships. I wish I could not let my heart get involved and just say forget it. Break ups are a sure cause of depression/anxiety. Hang in there...I hope the right one comes for you.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Jun 07, 2008 3:31 am

I had dated this guy in high school who broke up with me. I was an absolute mess for a long time. I cried everyday I didnt think I could work, It took me a while to get over him, and then the anxiety subsided. I am with a guy now who is the perfect person for me, but sometimes I wonder if i am with him because this is my chance for a family and I love him, or if I just love him and Im not in love with him anymore.
I think every break up can be hard but it is especially hard for us with anxiety and depression. The best thing I can tell you is that you will get better.. Time will heal

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Jun 07, 2008 3:37 am

I always have problems with relationships, which with they end I become a mess too. I have ended up in the hospital and even gone through shock therapy. I am in a relationship right now that is so wrong for me. I cant seem to let him go because of the fear of going through all of this again.

The I slowly starting to let go emotionally, but still cant tell him to move out. He uses drugs and has several other problems. I trying to turn my life to God, but even having a problem with that relationship. So I can understand all of you. I just have not figured how to love God above all things and love myself too. Help!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Jun 07, 2008 3:44 am

Originally posted by Anna Burrell:
I had dated this guy in high school who broke up with me. I was an absolute mess for a long time. I cried everyday I didnt think I could work, It took me a while to get over him, and then the anxiety subsided. I am with a guy now who is the perfect person for me, but sometimes I wonder if i am with him because this is my chance for a family and I love him, or if I just love him and Im not in love with him anymore.
I think every break up can be hard but it is especially hard for us with anxiety and depression. The best thing I can tell you is that you will get better.. Time will heal

Thanks for the advice...I just wish that time would go by fast and that my thoughts would not be on him...I wish I had a key to turn my brain off...Thank you for the encouragement.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Jun 07, 2008 3:51 am

Originally posted by Maria Angie:
I always have problems with relationships, which with they end I become a mess too. I have ended up in the hospital and even gone through shock therapy. I am in a relationship right now that is so wrong for me. I cant seem to let him go because of the fear of going through all of this again.

The I slowly starting to let go emotionally, but still cant tell him to move out. He uses drugs and has several other problems. I trying to turn my life to God, but even having a problem with that relationship. So I can understand all of you. I just have not figured how to love God above all things and love myself too. Help!

Wow...we sound like long lost sisters. I think the best way to end the relationship is to cut it completely and then you can heal. I didn't want this relationship to be over, but it was his decision. He said I had emotional ups and downs and trust issues and our religion was different. Ohhhhhh...how I don't want to be going through this either. My heart is so heavy. You know what will come when you end the relationship with him...but don't be afraid...Your better than that. He might be treating you badly also...I don't know...but please remember you are worth a whole lot to God. And God loves you no matter what. Find the courage to stand on your own and face it before God takes him out of your life like happened to me. If you know he is wrong for you...be obedient and love God first and then yourself. I've ended up in the hospital too...It really is awful...you think it will never get better and the pain in your chest will never go away...but it will one day! I am looking forward to that day....Be strong.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Jun 09, 2008 7:53 am

i have not been in a really serious relationship for a while. i went thru a bad divorce a few years ago. one thing i have grown with re; relationships is that if i dont feel it is right, i break it off and go on. would much rather not be in a relationship than in one. it is helpful to me to come home to my dog , who is always happy to see me. i have been using alcohol to numb my feelings in the past. maybe once i learn to work through the anxiety and depression without it, i will be happier with myself and then i can find someone to be happy with. i am finding as i go thru this program that i am saying i deserve to be happy versus " i feel good right now, wonder what is going to go wrong" the exercising is helping, so is my ability to find joy in little things. went to a park this weekend, just to embrace nature, was a big help.