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by Guest » Sun Jul 29, 2007 6:29 am
Brooke,
First of all, yes, it's one of those scary thoughts. It's just a thought. Like Ken says in one of the tapes,"thoughts, just thoughts".
Sometimes we have to keep reminding ourselves of this. That's OK. It's all a learning process.
We've spent so much time convincing ourselves that the negatives are true, and now it's time to do the opposite. Make the positives a reality and repeat the positives over and over until we believe them.
Takes time, but you'll get there and then all the relief will wash over you. It will.
It's such a feeling of freedom and you WILL get there. It's peace of mind and it's precious.
You're not going to lose control and you're not going to do something that you know is wrong and will leave your daughter without her mommy. You just won't do this because it's just a thought, only a thought.
If we were to post on this site all the scary thoughts we've had over the years that never were true, never became a reality, WOW
now that would be a very long list.
The most important thing to remember is that they are NOT true, they're not reality.
We're intelligent, creative, imaginative people and our minds are on the go all the time.
We CAN learn how to take up all that negative scary thought time and replace it with time spent on realistic positive thoughts.
The first few weeks in the program can be stressful. Keep going forward, that eases up.
Try saying to yourself every day -
"I'm doing pretty good already, and I've just started"
So, you don't believe this yet. That's OK.
Keep saying it anyway and say it out loud, and say it often.
Before you even realize what's happening, your brain will accept this and it becomes true.
That confusion, it's just resistance to change.
That's all it is.
It's just thoughts.
You're doing nothing wrong.
You're just moving forward and not used to it yet.
What you're saying makes perfect sense.
Now,
Stop convincing yourself that this isn't worth it.
Start convincing yourself, because it's true, that you're worth taking the time and effort to make these changes.
You're on your way to recovery, take those self inflicted roadblocks down and go for it!!!
As we go further along in the program, we begin to notice, more and more, that most everyone with anxiety has these doubts and scary thoughts. Some people have tons more.
We also realize that we CAN do something about it and ARE doing something about it, and
everything makes more sense ----
And there ARE ways to get that nasty anxiety and depression under control, wipe most of it out of our lives, and with good coping skills we CAN handle life's curve balls--
And that lots of things in life that used to stress us out big time are -
NO BIG DEAL.
That's the point you're getting to.
Yes, you are.
It's just frustrating at the moment, but this will pass.
God bless and many hugs to you.
