Crying relate-need advice or suggestion

BePositive-Amy · Post by **BePositive-Amy** » Wed May 14, 2008 2:58 am

I am curious, I know myself am oversensitive person. One major thing that is now bug me is my crying. Seem I cry really easily and also once I start crying it tend to last for long time maybe 1 hour or more. Even I use skills try to break my crying most of the time it didn't success. This is becoming frustrating for me. Sometime it prevent me from able to do things I need to do. Also I look in back I had problem with crying at work too and now I am concern about jobs if I get what can I do about my crying I don't feel safe or secure. I know Crying is health and good to vent out but I feel that my situation its too much and difficult to control. Any Idea what to do? Thanks

Barb G. · Post by **Barb G.** » Wed May 14, 2008 3:45 am

Try diverting your attention to something happy.
Treat yourself to something you like.
Go shopping, get a manicure, pedicure, go for a
nice brisk walk and listen to your favorite music.
Anything you enjoy to keep your mind off of your
anxiety. If this doesn't work and you are crying
a lot you should see your doctor about your
depression.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed May 14, 2008 4:04 am

Amy, I struggle a lot with this too. Some of us are just more sensitive than others. If it seems like you're breaking down more over nothing and more frequent than usual you should see a Dr. about an anti-depressant. Are you taking time for the things that are really important to you or are those things not seeming important any more. If you've lost desire for things that were once of interest that could mean depression that needs treatment.

As far as being at work and crying, try not to worry. There may be a day it happens, so..you're a sensitive person but again, if it happens too often, see a Dr.

I will be praying for you Amy. IT WILL GET BETTER!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed May 14, 2008 4:26 am

DebDeb I did tried the skills include distract myself, do something i like, etc it doesnt work.

And about anti-depression I was on meds few different one it doesnt make any difference in my crying. It still same

TMc · Post by **TMc** » Wed May 14, 2008 5:14 am

Hi Amy, What are you thinking when you cry? It would be helpful, I would think, to write down your thoughts when you cry. Write as much as you can and see what comes up for you.

It's also very possible you need to welcome this in. Go to the mirror with the onset of crying and look in your eyes and simply welcome the tears. Soothe yourself by telling yourself that you can handle this. Don't go into future thinking about your employment. Just stay present with the tears. Make them OK. They may just stop sooner by allowing them to be there.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed May 14, 2008 7:18 am

I think this is pretty normal considering what your going through. I cry daily myself. Right now your body/mind/soul are being completely over taxed, so naturally your brain is hard wired to express emotion to this, for you it's crying, for some it's other things.

I look at crying as shedding layers of skin. It's a very therapeutic process that cleanses. Sure, it's not fun when your worried about doing it at work or doing it all the time, but as you progress with your issues I believe the crying will progress as well.

I disagree about distracting yourself- that will most likely make you more tense and frustrated, leading to more crying, which will then make you feel guilty or frustrated with yourself. Allow yourself to express your emotions freely without judgement. I know it's painful now, but as you heal it will get better.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed May 14, 2008 9:56 am

Amy, that was a really interesting question. I'm curious if you find anything that helps you with this?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed May 14, 2008 11:18 am

I struggle with crying also. I am very tenderhearted and I have never been comfortable with that. It makes me feel like I am weak. I am coming to realize that is not true - crying is just a healthy way to release adrenaline or other toxins that build up in your body. It feels like such a great release to cry but I still don't like it. I don't like how it makes me feel like I am not in control. I don't like how it makes me stand out and seem weak to others. And I don't like how it causes my eyes to swell and I feel like a blowfish for 2 days afterwards.

Anyway...I just wanted you to know that you are not alone. I do feel that being oversensitive is probably a gift - I just have to learn how to look at it that way. We're ok! PS. I'm glad to see that I am not alone!