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Golf4Life · Post by **Golf4Life** » Thu Mar 12, 2009 9:11 am

I know the program tells you to use these forums to your advantage, but one thing I found is that whenever I come to these discussion areas, I leave feeling worse.

I felt like I was really moving forward, but after reading some of these posts, I went backwards.

This same thing happened this past weekend when I watched Lucinda on the QVC channel. I was looking forward to watching it until one lady called in and talked about her daughter having anxiety and that she tried to take her life twice. Not something I wanted to hear.

Started optimistic, left feeling scared.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 12, 2009 9:22 am

Hi Golf:
I'm so sorry that the forum hasn't helped you.
But I believe it could.

I do have a question ?

If someone was feeling very low and felt on the verge,(not suicidal yet, but on the verge of it)
Of being suicidal, where would you want them to go?
Who will help them?

Maybe you could help.......?
Instead of getting afraid and fearing for yourself, maybe you could give them some of your optimism. Maybe you could give them just a hint of hope. Maybe......?

I can be feeling lower than a snakes belly - but then if I try to help someome, I might get lfted up.

Just a thought.
It might not help - but just a thought.
Best wishes.
Stay positive!!!
In His love!!!
MJF

New Found Hope · Post by **New Found Hope** » Thu Mar 12, 2009 9:26 am

Golf4Life

I felt the same way as you. As I moved on in the program and began to regain my sanity, it was easier to read all of the posts. Maybe you could just go thru the "triumphs" posts for now. That's what I did. I know that if I went back to read some of the earlier posts I typed in, it may bother me ! Stick to the positive posts for now.

vanitykills · Post by **vanitykills** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 5:02 am

Golf4Life - What is happening is that you are a sponge. We are so sensitive and tend to pick up other peoples feelings and emotions. This will not hurt us but it certainly is uncomfortable. How you are feeling is very natural. As you begin to heal you get stronger and more positive and are better able to separate yourself from others problems, and when you do find yourself being a sponge at times you are better able to shake it off. Right now you are probably holding on to it.

Use your breath to keep you present, for one thing. Remind yourself that this or that person is not me and their issues have nothing to do with me. This will help to keep you focusd. Remind yourself that you are sensitive and the "sponge" is showing itself. If you stay put with your feelings and breathe into them AND at the same time continue on with what you are doing, those feelings pass. They go. They are gone and you have learned that you can indeed handle those anxious feelings.

Now you are in a good position to perhaps help others, inspite of your fears, and lend the support that is very much appreciated. If you aren't able to do that for now, that's OK. That time will come.

Practice allowing your feelings to be there instead of resisting them. It's a great lesson in acceptance that is needed for our healing.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 6:04 am

Thanks Boon!
My reply as slender Reed , I can see was not helpful at all.
I have still so much to learn.
I'm not near there yet.
I better watch my input to other people.

Thanks again. You are so smart!!
Love,
MJ

hopehound · Post by **hopehound** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 6:44 am

Boon,

You are right on. I too felt anxious after reading some posts and in fact avoiding reading most of them. Yes, we are sensitive and we can feel others pain, at least I can. But as we move through the program, you become stronger and want to help others. I really enjoyed reading your comment to Golf and it helped me too.

Thank you,

Leopolda