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I am now on week 7, and have had such a range of emotions week by week in facing my obstacles. My husband has hit the wall with me...I have been battling anxiety for over a year now. I have tried conquering this thu drs, meds, and now this program. Day by day I do feel and see small improvements, and feel like I am my only cheerleader. My husband is starting to distance himself, feeling "left out" and says it is like I am wrapped in a cocoon. I never meant to push my family or anyone out, but I have been so focused 24/7 on recovery. I really am at a crossroads and need some advise. I love my husband and girls more than anything, but at the same time, I am having a hard time balancing me, my relationship with the Lord, and recovery. HELP
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Hi,This is difficult enough to deal with even with the encouragement of family.How much more difficult it must be without their support.You desserve a lot of credit for having pressed on under your circumstanses.
You,re strong and the small improvements you said you,ve made are worth celebrating!You have determination,keep moving forward.If ever you begin to feel like giving up come here where ther are plenty of listening ears,hearts of compassion, encouragement and those who can empathize with you.Many here share your same struggles.
You mentioned your relationship with the Lord.Know He is with you and that He is our strenghth in our weakness.
This is especially encouraging and comforting to me;1 Corinthians 2:9 No eye has seen ,no ear has heard, no heart has imagined what God has prepared for those who love Him.
Noes on this verse; We cannot imagine all that God has in store for us,both in this life and in eternity.He will create a new heaven and a new earth(Isaiah65:17 Rev21:1)and we will live with Him forever.Until then,His Holy Spirit comforts us and guids us.Knowing the wonderful and eternal future that awaits us gives us hope and courage to press on in this life,to endure hardship,and to avoid giving in to temptation. This world is not all there is.The best is yet to come!!
Be encouraged Liz
You,re strong and the small improvements you said you,ve made are worth celebrating!You have determination,keep moving forward.If ever you begin to feel like giving up come here where ther are plenty of listening ears,hearts of compassion, encouragement and those who can empathize with you.Many here share your same struggles.
You mentioned your relationship with the Lord.Know He is with you and that He is our strenghth in our weakness.
This is especially encouraging and comforting to me;1 Corinthians 2:9 No eye has seen ,no ear has heard, no heart has imagined what God has prepared for those who love Him.
Noes on this verse; We cannot imagine all that God has in store for us,both in this life and in eternity.He will create a new heaven and a new earth(Isaiah65:17 Rev21:1)and we will live with Him forever.Until then,His Holy Spirit comforts us and guids us.Knowing the wonderful and eternal future that awaits us gives us hope and courage to press on in this life,to endure hardship,and to avoid giving in to temptation. This world is not all there is.The best is yet to come!!
Be encouraged Liz
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Thank you, Liz. Your encouragement and verses today have brought me to tears...good ones of release.
love Erin
love Erin
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Your very welcome,I can certainly empathize with you. Mine has been a 35 year battle.I don,t discuss the matter with family very often. I know life around here has been difficult because of the depression.Of course I feel horribly guilty about it.I give my family a lot of credit for what they,ve had to put up with.They,ve been patient with me.
I know I should make a point of sitting down with them and explainig exactly what is wrong but I just don,t feel comfortable about it.
They have a pretty good idea but as I said,we,ve never sat down as a family and had a serious discussion abou it.
I,ve just kept hoping that some day it will go away.
I,m now on the program (session 2).I have a really tough time with negative thoughts That definatly is a huge stumbling block for me.I,m stubborn,don,t want to let them go even though they make me sick.Got some anger issues.
I truley believe this program can help those of us who are willing to give it all that we have.We,ve got to learn and use the skills and the tools we can aquire from the program.
Keep up the good work.Look ahead and never back.You know you can complete this program because of the progress you,ve already made and under difficult circumstances.
There,s a scripture verse that says God walks our path before us.
He knows what lies ahead in our future.And whatever He allows to happen,there,s a reason for it.We simply must trust Him.
I,m glad to have met you.Any time you need to talk,I and the others will be here for you.Blessings to you,Liz
I know I should make a point of sitting down with them and explainig exactly what is wrong but I just don,t feel comfortable about it.
They have a pretty good idea but as I said,we,ve never sat down as a family and had a serious discussion abou it.
I,ve just kept hoping that some day it will go away.
I,m now on the program (session 2).I have a really tough time with negative thoughts That definatly is a huge stumbling block for me.I,m stubborn,don,t want to let them go even though they make me sick.Got some anger issues.
I truley believe this program can help those of us who are willing to give it all that we have.We,ve got to learn and use the skills and the tools we can aquire from the program.
Keep up the good work.Look ahead and never back.You know you can complete this program because of the progress you,ve already made and under difficult circumstances.
There,s a scripture verse that says God walks our path before us.
He knows what lies ahead in our future.And whatever He allows to happen,there,s a reason for it.We simply must trust Him.
I,m glad to have met you.Any time you need to talk,I and the others will be here for you.Blessings to you,Liz
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Hi Erin,
Everything that you are doing to help yourself is good. The signs your are seeing and your husband may have indicated are helpful notes for you to remember that ll things are good, when done in moderation.
There is a time for everything. You will find or set aside time for each. You are making good progress, but if you pressure yourself to perform on accomplishing each weekly goal, it will serve to create the kind of anxiety you are experiencing.
We all do the same thing when we develop the determination of achieving goals. Learn to float or relax through those times when household and family demands on your time and your studies conflict, just side your study goals aside for a few moments.
If you feel you have fallen behind; don't worry about it. It is more important for you to have a stress-free environment in order to follow through on your studies. Does that make sense?
The goal is not so much to stick to the time frames suggested in the program, and thus, creating more stress. That is not the goal of the program.
Relax, you have made very good progress and you are nearly half way there. Relax and float through and you will see your way through the rest of the program.
I hope this little bit of guidance helps you to achieve with less stress. >:D<
Everything that you are doing to help yourself is good. The signs your are seeing and your husband may have indicated are helpful notes for you to remember that ll things are good, when done in moderation.
There is a time for everything. You will find or set aside time for each. You are making good progress, but if you pressure yourself to perform on accomplishing each weekly goal, it will serve to create the kind of anxiety you are experiencing.
We all do the same thing when we develop the determination of achieving goals. Learn to float or relax through those times when household and family demands on your time and your studies conflict, just side your study goals aside for a few moments.
If you feel you have fallen behind; don't worry about it. It is more important for you to have a stress-free environment in order to follow through on your studies. Does that make sense?
The goal is not so much to stick to the time frames suggested in the program, and thus, creating more stress. That is not the goal of the program.
Relax, you have made very good progress and you are nearly half way there. Relax and float through and you will see your way through the rest of the program.
I hope this little bit of guidance helps you to achieve with less stress. >:D<
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Hey Erin,
I haven't yet started the program but your words rang true to me as I've been on a path to better manage my emotions and negative thoughts. It sounds like others have said really encouraging things.
I've always been cynical about prayer and I keep going back to it. A few years ago, I had a revelation that I felt like a victim of my own family and I think it cycled around the house causing distance between my husband and my children. Once I realized this and knew that the only thing I could change was my beliefs, then I could move on. There was a shift in my house after I prayed that I wanted to be closer to my family. I still struggle at times but it's not like it was before.
I need to still get back on track and that's why I'm hoping the program will instill daily practices to replace 40 years of negative and stifling beliefs that have limited me.
I think periods of "yuk" are par for the course for all of us. I've had bouts in the cocoon which I think sometimes we need. Remember the good of your husband and try to look past his reactions to you. That helped me a lot.
Good luck to you! We're all in this together!
I haven't yet started the program but your words rang true to me as I've been on a path to better manage my emotions and negative thoughts. It sounds like others have said really encouraging things.
I've always been cynical about prayer and I keep going back to it. A few years ago, I had a revelation that I felt like a victim of my own family and I think it cycled around the house causing distance between my husband and my children. Once I realized this and knew that the only thing I could change was my beliefs, then I could move on. There was a shift in my house after I prayed that I wanted to be closer to my family. I still struggle at times but it's not like it was before.
I need to still get back on track and that's why I'm hoping the program will instill daily practices to replace 40 years of negative and stifling beliefs that have limited me.
I think periods of "yuk" are par for the course for all of us. I've had bouts in the cocoon which I think sometimes we need. Remember the good of your husband and try to look past his reactions to you. That helped me a lot.
Good luck to you! We're all in this together!
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