Is there anyone else out there that suffers from:
Genophobia - fear of sexual intercourse,
Erotophobia — fear of sexual love or sexual questions,
or Haptephobia — fear of being touched.
...or is it just me?
SexualPhobia
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This is an interesting topic. My disclaimer is that I have absolutely no real experience with this and am just giving my two cents..
My older sister was molested as a child. As she went through puberty there were things about her that I noticed were different.. she did not want to be touched, ever. She commonly expressed that she found sexual organs, both male and female disgusting. Anyhow, this is basically all I can think about regarding this topic. She was greatly affected by the sexual abuse she endured as a child and in her adoloscence she became confused about her sexuality. She came out her first year in college and that actually alleviated her symptoms, for a short period of time anyway.
Hope this helps a bit.
My older sister was molested as a child. As she went through puberty there were things about her that I noticed were different.. she did not want to be touched, ever. She commonly expressed that she found sexual organs, both male and female disgusting. Anyhow, this is basically all I can think about regarding this topic. She was greatly affected by the sexual abuse she endured as a child and in her adoloscence she became confused about her sexuality. She came out her first year in college and that actually alleviated her symptoms, for a short period of time anyway.
Hope this helps a bit.
I'm not really sure if I am a sexphobic, but it is possible.
I do have a background with being molested by an elderly woman when I was in my early teens, but I never let that take hold of my life or outlook on relationships. I know and understand some sexual relations can be beautiful and some can be harmful.
I think my possible phobia probably developed when I was in middle school. All around me kids kept talking about sex this, sex that. They kept trying to be or act more "mature" than they really were, and I always saw that as ridiculous to be so wrapped up in boys at those ages. So I stayed as far as possible from that path to uncovering and exploring my own curiousity sexuality.
I am 22 and still a virgin (it have anything to do with religion, I'm just not ready yet.) Part of me is very sexual and feels like when the time is right I can completely trust my judgement and have no problem letting it happen. But the other side feels like I have my guard up, to the point where if any guy trys to get in my pants I'd shoot em'. (Not literally of course =)
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My phobia isn't really about me I think. It's about my worry for my sister. She's 13 and I can already tell she's a VERY VERY sexual person. She's been homeschooled and is still intact but she wants to go to high school soon and it kind of scares me. She just now had gotten her "birds and bees" speech, etc. She had gotten some of her information from a pedifile (but that's another story). And possibly some other sources on the internet.
And now my mother is allowing her to read more sexual books. Older teen books, not 13 yr old books. And the content inside of them gives me panic attacks. I am afraid that it'll fuel her curiousity before she's ready, to the point where she will end up another underaged teen getting pregnate.
I can't stop her from reading the books since my mother keeps buying them for her. So I let that go. But now my mother won't stop calling me a sexaphobe even though I'm working hard to digress from being that.
I don't think I'm sexphobic, but now I question myself.
I do have a background with being molested by an elderly woman when I was in my early teens, but I never let that take hold of my life or outlook on relationships. I know and understand some sexual relations can be beautiful and some can be harmful.
I think my possible phobia probably developed when I was in middle school. All around me kids kept talking about sex this, sex that. They kept trying to be or act more "mature" than they really were, and I always saw that as ridiculous to be so wrapped up in boys at those ages. So I stayed as far as possible from that path to uncovering and exploring my own curiousity sexuality.
I am 22 and still a virgin (it have anything to do with religion, I'm just not ready yet.) Part of me is very sexual and feels like when the time is right I can completely trust my judgement and have no problem letting it happen. But the other side feels like I have my guard up, to the point where if any guy trys to get in my pants I'd shoot em'. (Not literally of course =)
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My phobia isn't really about me I think. It's about my worry for my sister. She's 13 and I can already tell she's a VERY VERY sexual person. She's been homeschooled and is still intact but she wants to go to high school soon and it kind of scares me. She just now had gotten her "birds and bees" speech, etc. She had gotten some of her information from a pedifile (but that's another story). And possibly some other sources on the internet.
And now my mother is allowing her to read more sexual books. Older teen books, not 13 yr old books. And the content inside of them gives me panic attacks. I am afraid that it'll fuel her curiousity before she's ready, to the point where she will end up another underaged teen getting pregnate.
I can't stop her from reading the books since my mother keeps buying them for her. So I let that go. But now my mother won't stop calling me a sexaphobe even though I'm working hard to digress from being that.
I don't think I'm sexphobic, but now I question myself.
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Amazon,
I feel the same way towards my little sisters. I'm so scared for them and the mistakes that they might make, especially when it comes to drugs or sex. I feel like I need to protect them from getting hurt. What's helped me is realizing that they're growing up and the best I can do is express my concern to them and most importantly be their friend, so that they can come to me if they need to.
What do you mean when you say your sister has gotten some of her info from a pedophile? If you know someone that is sexually abusing children you should report this to the police. This is a serious crime and should be treated as such.
I'm sorry your mom called you a sexaphobe. From what you say it sounds like you're just holding off until you find the right person and have a bit of anxiety about sex.. I don't think there is anything strange about that.
I feel the same way towards my little sisters. I'm so scared for them and the mistakes that they might make, especially when it comes to drugs or sex. I feel like I need to protect them from getting hurt. What's helped me is realizing that they're growing up and the best I can do is express my concern to them and most importantly be their friend, so that they can come to me if they need to.
What do you mean when you say your sister has gotten some of her info from a pedophile? If you know someone that is sexually abusing children you should report this to the police. This is a serious crime and should be treated as such.
I'm sorry your mom called you a sexaphobe. From what you say it sounds like you're just holding off until you find the right person and have a bit of anxiety about sex.. I don't think there is anything strange about that.
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Thank you for your kind words Couturesugar.
It's nice to hear someone that understands my position as a sister and it has eased my mind greatly.
About the pedofile, it's unfortunate that it happend but thank goodness it was an internet pedofile. He was asking her VERY personal questions about what she looked like naked so he could draw her in his nude comic, and he KNEW she was 12. I'm glad I came across the emails in time before she could answer him back. And yes, there is no more contact with the guy anymore.
I'm glad that you think my personal situation about sex is normal, because I was beginning to doubt and question myself. So thank you once again.
It's nice to hear someone that understands my position as a sister and it has eased my mind greatly.
About the pedofile, it's unfortunate that it happend but thank goodness it was an internet pedofile. He was asking her VERY personal questions about what she looked like naked so he could draw her in his nude comic, and he KNEW she was 12. I'm glad I came across the emails in time before she could answer him back. And yes, there is no more contact with the guy anymore.
I'm glad that you think my personal situation about sex is normal, because I was beginning to doubt and question myself. So thank you once again.