This is my first post here, and I'm not sure if I'm posting in the right place. I went through Lucindas' program 4 years ago, I'll tell my story at another time. In 1999 my mom died on Jan 5th after battling liver cancer for 8 months. In 2007 my dad died on Dec 8th after a year and a half battle with metasticised bone cancer that had resulted from prostrate cancer. So now when Christmas rolls around, I find myself thinking back to when my folks were so very sick through the holidays. I'm sure that other people have to cope with this same issue.
It's a little better this year but those old thoughts are still there. This year I keep telling myself that it's not Christmases' fault which acctually throws a little humor into it, and makes me feel better.
Does anyone else feel this way? And if so what do you do to cope during the holidays?
Christmas issue
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I know exactly what you mean. I just purchase the anxiety program. Before winter came I was so positive I felt good. Then something happened when winter came, its like those old anxiety thoughts came back. Its almost like I'm living in my head. I know what to do, but these recurring negative and analytical thoughts have came right back about myself, its hard to even move hand without thinking something negative. This crap disturbed alot of my years when I was younger. One thought that is recurring is: "how will this go away if I know what thoughts bother me." I'm and so sick of it.
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Hi Cymbals, I lost my mom to cancer in November, seven years ago so I know what it is like to lose someone near the holidays. I miss her more this time of year. When she was alive, the whole family got together but ever since she passed, everyone goes their separate ways for Christmas. My dad remarried and moved two states away. It was hard at first to adjust but now it is better. I kind of like the peace and quiet. And I have my memories.... Hope you have a peaceful Christmas this year.
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Thanks for your replies. Ms. Hopeful I guess we have to hang on to the memories of happy Christmases of the past. Like you, my family no longer gets together for Christmas, so we spend it with friends. Mike 0123, by purchasing the program you have made the most positive move in your life. I know exactly what you mean when you say that you "feel like your living in your head". As you move through the progarm, you may feel a little more anxieous to start with, that's normal. But you will learn ways to make yourself feel better. Above all be good to yourself.
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Cymbals I know exactly how you feel! I lost my Dad to Cancer when I was almost 12. The first Christmas after his death, I had my first panic attack. Every Christmas since then I usually suffer more severe anxiety than normal. It's like it's just programmed in my brain now. It's like when that time of year starts to roll around I can feeel the anxiety coming. This year I decided to be pro-active rather than let the anxiety symptoms consume my holidays. So I started seeing a therapist the end of Oct. So far it has helped alot! I wasn't expecting to be completely anxiety free my first year of doing this but so far it's such a huge improvment. I'm so glad I did it. Just try and relax and remember Christmas is just another day of the year. It will come and go and you'll be fine.
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Man, my dad died when I was 51. I can't imagine losing your pop at such a young age. I look at it this way, whatever we can do (as long as it's somewhat healthy)to get through, and hopefully enjoy the Holidays. Is what we need to do. It is a great time of the year. I'm not an overly spiritual person but this year I am grasping god a little bit more. I loved my parents with all my heart, and I guess I was lucky to have them as long as I did.Originally posted by mtdeffend:
Cymbals I know exactly how you feel! I lost my Dad to Cancer when I was almost 12. The first Christmas after his death, I had my first panic attack. Every Christmas since then I usually suffer more severe anxiety than normal. It's like it's just programmed in my brain now. It's like when that time of year starts to roll around I can feeel the anxiety coming. This year I decided to be pro-active rather than let the anxiety symptoms consume my holidays. So I started seeing a therapist the end of Oct. So far it has helped alot! I wasn't expecting to be completely anxiety free my first year of doing this but so far it's such a huge improvment. I'm so glad I did it. Just try and relax and remember Christmas is just another day of the year. It will come and go and you'll be fine.
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So true cymbals. It's amazing how much we take for granted what is right there in front of us for as long as it is. I am also reconnecting with God more lately, and just learning to be grateful for all that I DO have. I used to dwell way too much on things I did not have and THOUGHT I wanted. Now I realize that all I REALLY need, I already have... And I thank God for that.
Peace.
John
Peace.
John
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i totally hear you.. my mom died back in 1996. i have 2 older sisters whom to be honest i know it sounds bad but don't like. its so hard. I feel so many fears of mothering when i get together with them. they still treat me like a 11 year old child sometimes. i really want to divorce my family,when i am around them all they do is frustrate me. i think it is more the fear itself of worrying they are going to mother me when i walk in the door, judge me or
want to be in my face about my business. i just don't know what to do. i dread holidays more and more. it depresses me.. can someone help or have anyhing to say. I have so much anxiety. can someone help me?
want to be in my face about my business. i just don't know what to do. i dread holidays more and more. it depresses me.. can someone help or have anyhing to say. I have so much anxiety. can someone help me?
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