Worrying about every single thing I say and do.

mtdeffend · Post by **mtdeffend** » Tue Mar 31, 2009 8:20 am

Hi everyone! First of all I have been doing really good and far as my anxiety but I cont. to stuggle in this one area. I posted about it a few weeks ago but didn't get much response. I just need to know that I'm not the only one who has felt this way or had these worries!
When I am around people I obsess about what I say and do like while I'm talking to someone I'll be thinking "Does this make sense?" "Do I sound like a weirdo?" "Am I crazy?" I might worry about saying something to hurt someones feelings by accident. Alot of times I will leave from being with someone and I will spend hours analyzing every word of our conversation to make sure I didn't say anything weird or dumb. Or if I do think I said or did something weird I will obsess and get anxious about it....Ahhhhh why do I even care? Please tell me someone understands what I'm feeling!

derfy · Post by **derfy** » Tue Mar 31, 2009 9:02 am

The other day, my best friend and I were having a conversation about this very thing. It's one of the reason I feel awkward in social situations. I keep thinking, "Do they even care what I'm talking about?"

My best friend will analyze and beat herself up all day long about something small and irrelevant that she said at the beginning of the day to a complete stranger.

The moral of the story is...you are definitely not alone.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Apr 02, 2009 6:59 pm

These are just "obsessive thoughts"....Sounds like you suffer from low self-esteem...I think you need to work on your obsessive thinking, as well as, your low self-esteem...

It seems to me like you are overly concerned about what others think about you. And it has actually become an "obsession" with you.

At the end of the day...ask yourself...Does any of these things really even matter?????

You are over-analyzing every word and action...
Try under-analyzing for a while, and see if that help....

I suggest you work on all these areas in the program....Remember...You are fine just the way you are...You are a very "unique" human being....God Bless

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Apr 02, 2009 7:01 pm

Also, remember, it is healthy to be yourself...
No need to sit around and think about what others think of you...Just a complete waste of your time and energy....

Emma Rose · Post by **Emma Rose** » Thu Apr 02, 2009 9:13 pm

Hi mtdeffend, in this day of political correctness and over sensitivity I think most of us to varying degrees have this same worry about offending someone accidentally. With this program and its lessons of possitive thinking the chances decrease as we learn to have positive and happy thoughts. We say what we think so it only stands to reason. The fact is we DO care what others think but I dont believe you have to worry. You write intelligently so you must also think that way which is the way orthers see you. I do!