I haven't seen this topic addressed anywhere in the program or even here on the boards. I am
having a hard time trusting people with my
practicing time. For example it is common for me to get very nauseated in the car while I am driving or as passenger. How do I go ahead and face the willingness to possibly throw up with others in the car with me? Yes I have been car sick and had to pull over with dry heaves. I cried so much. I was alone too and had I been with others in the car? Who knows? But how do I get to the point of being willing to trust anyone and be vulnerable?
Jill~
Vulnerability and Trusting
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Jill,
This seems like one of those situations or examples where you can practice being gentle and loving to yourself. It's about practicing being Ok with however others react/respond, being willing to put yourself out there with the possibility of being embarassed, etc.
I keep finding that I put too much weight into others and now have to say, "human; they're human, just like me", when they don't respond like I want them to.
Hope that helps some.
This seems like one of those situations or examples where you can practice being gentle and loving to yourself. It's about practicing being Ok with however others react/respond, being willing to put yourself out there with the possibility of being embarassed, etc.
I keep finding that I put too much weight into others and now have to say, "human; they're human, just like me", when they don't respond like I want them to.
Hope that helps some.
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I'm glad you kicked this back up, I didn't see it before.
I think my problem is the opposite, I tend to trust and then set myself up for failure and disappointment.
I do remember though, as a young child, when my dad would take me into the pool in an inner tube, and I would scream bloody murder afraid that he'd let me go. I hadn't learned to swim yet. It was the worst feeling in the world, being dragged into the middle of the deep end.
I would suggest baby-stepping it. One block at a time. Next time 2 blocks and so on.
Just know you are going to be scared and sick. Just be prepared that you will feel like this and talk yourself through it. Tell yourself it's just anxiety, and it will pass. That is my mantra sometimes.
I think my problem is the opposite, I tend to trust and then set myself up for failure and disappointment.
I do remember though, as a young child, when my dad would take me into the pool in an inner tube, and I would scream bloody murder afraid that he'd let me go. I hadn't learned to swim yet. It was the worst feeling in the world, being dragged into the middle of the deep end.
I would suggest baby-stepping it. One block at a time. Next time 2 blocks and so on.
Just know you are going to be scared and sick. Just be prepared that you will feel like this and talk yourself through it. Tell yourself it's just anxiety, and it will pass. That is my mantra sometimes.
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Thanks for the feedback. Honestly I never even thought about the fact that I am giving so much worry and time to what someone else is thinking of me? It seems so obvious..duh Jill!
Thanks KD and Shif I do have to practice more and not let this stop me from recovery.
Yes Human they are human just like me.
Baby steps is crucial for me..even if everytime I say that to myself I picture Bill Murry in What about Bob? haha
Thanks for sharing. I appreciate you both.
Jilly~
Thanks KD and Shif I do have to practice more and not let this stop me from recovery.
Yes Human they are human just like me.
Baby steps is crucial for me..even if everytime I say that to myself I picture Bill Murry in What about Bob? haha
Thanks for sharing. I appreciate you both.
Jilly~
