I am indeed STUPID!

SongWriter · Post by **SongWriter** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 9:32 am

I can't even get 2nd grade homework right with my child! I get confused by things! CAN YOU BELIEVE IT?

I have him too much cough medicine that made him throw up!!! I said to my wife THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH MY BRAIN, NO WONDER I CAN'T KEEP A JOB!!! SHE AGREED THAT THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH MY BRAIN! I AM STUPID! I ALWAYS HAVE BEEN!!!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 9:41 am

cut it out, you are not stupid. If you are depressed that can very easily cause confusion and difficulty focusing on the simplest things. NOw...let me say if that is the way your wife supports(or doesnt) you she has issues of her own.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 10:06 am

SongWriter, Fixme is absolutely right--you are NOT stupid. It's okay to be confused! I teach high school, and I get confused by some of the things that I am supposed to be teaching to my students. There is nothing wrong with your brain. You are a creative, intelligent person. It takes a truly remarkable amount of intelligence and ingenuity to write music. Have you heard about the "multiple intelligences"? Everybody has different areas in which their natural intelligence expresses itself most strongly.

Please don't put yourself down! Everyone feels stupid sometimes, but that does not mean that we actually are stupid. It just means that we need to recognize our own strengths more often and commend ourselves for them. You are a very smart person!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 10:25 am

Thanks guys! It really shook me up that I did not get the counting blocks homework. I am a visual person. It didn't occur to me that each block was counted as a whole 3d thing instead of counting the face of each block. I was stressed out just like I would get in my childhood. It continues to this day but I am trying to get better at no stressing. I really believe my stress while learning was learned while traumatized by my father during childhood. He frightened me while doing homework.

I can write songs up to a point, then I can't. I get stuck with everything in life.

I give the impression that I am stupid sometimes. One guy I am getting to know calls me "professor" as a means of telling me I can be stupid sometimes. I really don't appreciate it, but I try not to show that it bothers me. He doesn't call me professor all the time.

I am a reasonable smart person but there is something missing.

Thanks for your support. I needed to vent.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 10:27 am

you need to learn to be a bit assertive. LEt that guy know not to call you that. LEts make a list of the faults he has and read them off to him....people can be so insensitive!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 10:35 am

Originally posted by fixme:
you need to learn to be a bit assertive. LEt that guy know not to call you that. LEts make a list of the faults he has and read them off to him....people can be so insensitive!

I fear he thinks I'm stupid sometimes. My intuition (or paranoia), tell me him and another married couple think the same thing about me.

He really is a good guy. I just don't appreciate that "title."

I was thinking of saying "you can call me Chris if you like" when he calls me "professor." Chris is my name. That might give him the hint.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 11:01 am

hello Songwriter, and Happy Fathers day

I haven't really posted anything lately, but I just COULD NOT let this one go.

You remind me of myself several years back. I have the nac for poetry and writing, but when it came to helping my children with their homework, I had the hardest timme. I'd beat myself up over being so "uneducated". and the reason why I say that is because my EX father in law said that to me many MANY times. I heard it soooo many times, that I actually started believing it. That family made me feel inferior and "STUPID"...However, AFTER I divorced my Ex, I went on to get my GED(Yeahhhhh) and complete a technical program...certificate and all. And recently became a certified billing and coding specialist.. For the FIRST time in my life, I feel EDUCATED and CONFIDANT, and guess what???? I had it in me ALL ALONG!!!! And SO DO YOU!!!!

It's obvious that you've "LEARNED" this behaviour.
The sooner you realize that YOU have allowed people and circumstances to "control" you're outlook at life and emotions, the sooner you will gain self esteem.

songwriter, it's time to stand up for yourself and be YOU! ASSERTIVE my friend!
We are all unique, and you know that. You cannot write and not understand our individual uniqueness. seriously!!!

I hope you understand where I am going with this, I mean well. I understand it HONESTLY! It all comes down to what you ALLOW. YOU have CONTROL over your thoughts and emotions...YOU give others authority..They can only do what you allow them to do!
I thank God everyday for giving me this understanding, and I am a whole different person today.

God bless you, your a Gem

and I mean that!

p.s. and when you notice the typos, I don't care, I'm human and I think I got the point across

....see, it's okay!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 11:13 am

Originally posted by SongWriter:
Originally posted by fixme:
you need to learn to be a bit assertive. LEt that guy know not to call you that. LEts make a list of the faults he has and read them off to him....people can be so insensitive!
I fear he thinks I'm stupid sometimes. My intuition (or paranoia), tell me him and another married couple think the same thing about me.

He really is a good guy. I just don't appreciate that "title."

I was thinking of saying "you can call me Chris if you like" when he calls me "professor." Chris is my name. That might give him the hint.

Ive dealt with this issue for quite a while and still do. We need to change our thinking, we need to change how we talk to ourselves and think about ourselves or others wont ever do the same.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 1:54 pm

I agree with the others. YOU are not stupid, please!

I have the hardest time with math, basic math skills, if I compute on my own I'm fine, but in a restaurant or around people when I need to get the numbers right I just can't think. I may *feel* stupid, but I know I'm not. I usually laugh it off when I still feel inferior, but it's amazing how many other people have this same issue with numbers and computing.

And guess what - many people who have numbers right are not very good at things like poetry and writing.

We just all have different strengths and weaknesses is all, nobody's stupid.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 6:53 pm

just LISTEN and "be still"...what are all of us trying to convey here??? It's up to YOU!!!