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Dear JP,
If you are afraid of doing harmful things to hurt yourself, then, just do not give these negative thoughts any weight. The more you obsess over a thought, the more it tends to stick to you like glue. Obsessing is the problem, here. Try replacing those negative thoughts with thoughts that are truthful...Like I know that I would never harm myself, because I care to much about my life, and I love myself...Repeat this over and over, until you believe it...
I suggest picturing these irrational, negative thoughts as just that...Thoughts...Watch as they float out in from of you. Inhale counting...l00l, l002...exhale..counting l001, 1002, 1003, l004...Make sure your abdomen is breathing. As you slowly exhale, imagine your breath as being a radiant soft cloud...
As each negative thought passes into your awareness, imagine that negative thought being really small, about the size of a tiny ball. You may want to label that thought...Such as "a fear of hurting yourself!!!!
Inhale, then slowly exhale...doing the counting...As you inhale, imagine that tiny yellow/orange ball coming into your awareness...Label it...Now, exhale slowly counting...
Imagine your breath as the cloud mentioned above, and watch as your negative thought begins to become smaller and smaller with every exhaled breath you take. Notice, how the exhaling of your breath causes the "orange/yellow ball" which is your negative thought flows furthers from you, and becomes smaller and smaller.
Remember, as you exhale to always use the words "Acceptance and Peace"...You are accepting the fearful thought and making peace with it, as you exhale...Also, make sure you exhale loudly so you can actually hear your self breathing...The more you practice this exercise, the more you will notice the fear dissipating (dissolving)...
You can use this for each and every fear. It really has helped me sooo much!!!
I pray this helps you to overcome your fears!!! God Bless
If you are afraid of doing harmful things to hurt yourself, then, just do not give these negative thoughts any weight. The more you obsess over a thought, the more it tends to stick to you like glue. Obsessing is the problem, here. Try replacing those negative thoughts with thoughts that are truthful...Like I know that I would never harm myself, because I care to much about my life, and I love myself...Repeat this over and over, until you believe it...
I suggest picturing these irrational, negative thoughts as just that...Thoughts...Watch as they float out in from of you. Inhale counting...l00l, l002...exhale..counting l001, 1002, 1003, l004...Make sure your abdomen is breathing. As you slowly exhale, imagine your breath as being a radiant soft cloud...
As each negative thought passes into your awareness, imagine that negative thought being really small, about the size of a tiny ball. You may want to label that thought...Such as "a fear of hurting yourself!!!!
Inhale, then slowly exhale...doing the counting...As you inhale, imagine that tiny yellow/orange ball coming into your awareness...Label it...Now, exhale slowly counting...
Imagine your breath as the cloud mentioned above, and watch as your negative thought begins to become smaller and smaller with every exhaled breath you take. Notice, how the exhaling of your breath causes the "orange/yellow ball" which is your negative thought flows furthers from you, and becomes smaller and smaller.
Remember, as you exhale to always use the words "Acceptance and Peace"...You are accepting the fearful thought and making peace with it, as you exhale...Also, make sure you exhale loudly so you can actually hear your self breathing...The more you practice this exercise, the more you will notice the fear dissipating (dissolving)...
You can use this for each and every fear. It really has helped me sooo much!!!
I pray this helps you to overcome your fears!!! God Bless
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Imagine the negative thoughts floating in front of you as a yellow small ball. Label the fear...Exhale the brilliant cloud....Observe these thoughts as the brilliant cloud you are exhaling absorbs them and carries them further and further away...
I hope that I explained this well enough for you to understand...God Bless!!
I hope that I explained this well enough for you to understand...God Bless!!
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Hey I completely understand the scary thoughts, I just posted on the "scared to be alone w/kids" . I too will have scary thoughts about hurting others, it's a like I have 5 emotions in 2seconds. First the ugly thought enters my head, then I get panicked, why did I think that! Whats wrong with me? Then i start to sweat, and it spirals downward from there.
Sound familiar? I wouldn't wash knives or go near scissors for a while b/c what if I picked them up and hurt someone? Just the fact that the possibility was there, freaked me out enough to not go near them..... made cuttiing my steak pretty hard! Ha Ha! ( come on smile,thats funny!)
So I talked to a counselor and he had GREAT advice, first of all, so called NORMAL people have these thoughts, they're just able to brush them off and breeze throught to the next thought. We however stop dead in our tracks, and stare at it and get stuck. So first of , b/c we are scared, it means we have a conscience, and there fore we won't do it. The fact that the knives and scissors possibility scared me, meant I'd never go through with it, b/c this thought was UNAPPEALING, it sent me into sweats, panic, tears etc. It's when the thought sounds good, and is comforting and we don't realize theres nothing wrong with that thought is when theres a problem.
People with anxiety worry that they're crazy, but Real crazy people don't realize theres somthing wrong with what they do or how they think , ie the crazy guy in garbage bags,pushing a grocery cart speaking to imaginary people. we however are normal, we're just more sensitive than the average bear.
But I truly understand the scary thought train, my got so bad, It was like having nightmares during the day, I'd look at my darling husband and in a flash envision if someone cut his stomach. It was TERRIBLE!!! I'd stop eating, I'd cry and I felt helpless. It was my anxiety running amuck! So get in front of this thought train, per say, and tell yourself, "it's okay, It's my bodys reaction to some stressor in my life, it's not real, I won't do it, I have a conscience, and I am going to be okay. Then distract yourself, and work on the Combatting Stress and Depression Program workbook, log on here, go exercise, watch a funny movie, what ever to distract yourself. Or I like to Journal it to jesus. My pastor says often, "I already know we're all crazy in this room, so don't pretend like anyone is normal, we all have our own issues". Plus noone is normal, you shouldn't compare your insides to everyone elses outsides. it's NOT fair. I hope this helps, you'll still feel a little icky even after talking yourself down, but it's a learned skill. Everyday will get a little easier, and soon you'll catch yourself thinking this way a little faster, and your reaction will be a little smaller and its a LEARNED skill. This time next year you'll be a masters at catching yourself and talking yourself down and then it'll get further and further between scary thoughts. I have great months, and then I have tough months. Depends on my stress, but I pull out of it faster than I did 10yrs ago! =) Good luck, you're not alone, peace and prayers!
Sound familiar? I wouldn't wash knives or go near scissors for a while b/c what if I picked them up and hurt someone? Just the fact that the possibility was there, freaked me out enough to not go near them..... made cuttiing my steak pretty hard! Ha Ha! ( come on smile,thats funny!)
So I talked to a counselor and he had GREAT advice, first of all, so called NORMAL people have these thoughts, they're just able to brush them off and breeze throught to the next thought. We however stop dead in our tracks, and stare at it and get stuck. So first of , b/c we are scared, it means we have a conscience, and there fore we won't do it. The fact that the knives and scissors possibility scared me, meant I'd never go through with it, b/c this thought was UNAPPEALING, it sent me into sweats, panic, tears etc. It's when the thought sounds good, and is comforting and we don't realize theres nothing wrong with that thought is when theres a problem.
People with anxiety worry that they're crazy, but Real crazy people don't realize theres somthing wrong with what they do or how they think , ie the crazy guy in garbage bags,pushing a grocery cart speaking to imaginary people. we however are normal, we're just more sensitive than the average bear.
But I truly understand the scary thought train, my got so bad, It was like having nightmares during the day, I'd look at my darling husband and in a flash envision if someone cut his stomach. It was TERRIBLE!!! I'd stop eating, I'd cry and I felt helpless. It was my anxiety running amuck! So get in front of this thought train, per say, and tell yourself, "it's okay, It's my bodys reaction to some stressor in my life, it's not real, I won't do it, I have a conscience, and I am going to be okay. Then distract yourself, and work on the Combatting Stress and Depression Program workbook, log on here, go exercise, watch a funny movie, what ever to distract yourself. Or I like to Journal it to jesus. My pastor says often, "I already know we're all crazy in this room, so don't pretend like anyone is normal, we all have our own issues". Plus noone is normal, you shouldn't compare your insides to everyone elses outsides. it's NOT fair. I hope this helps, you'll still feel a little icky even after talking yourself down, but it's a learned skill. Everyday will get a little easier, and soon you'll catch yourself thinking this way a little faster, and your reaction will be a little smaller and its a LEARNED skill. This time next year you'll be a masters at catching yourself and talking yourself down and then it'll get further and further between scary thoughts. I have great months, and then I have tough months. Depends on my stress, but I pull out of it faster than I did 10yrs ago! =) Good luck, you're not alone, peace and prayers!