Hi, I'm Kim I ordered the program about two weeks ago, and I soooo wish it'd get here. I am 40 years old and have been dealing with anxiety in some form at least half my life. Lately it's been hitting me really hard. I've been given extra responsibilities at work, where there is an extraordinary amount of deadline-oriented work to do. I also look after my elderly father, who no longer drives. My sister and family are coming to visit in several weeks, and this house looks like a cyclone hit it! To top it off, I'm also dealing with a pinched nerve in my back. Sometimes I feel like I'm going to crack! I know I can't do everything on my own, but it's so hard for me to ask for help. I've been doing meditation at night, which seems to help some. I'm also trying affirmations at the suggestion of a former therapist. I want to cry, but I'm afraid I won't stop! I'm trying not to take on everyone's problems as my own (I'm so good at that!) Thank you for letting me vent, I know you understand.
God bless,
Kim
New and really stressed...
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It sounds like you have plenty to be stressed about, that's for sure! And you are right...we all understand what you're going through. I think you'll find the program to be a great resource to help you cope with your anxiety.
When my anxiety is bad, I cry all the time. I find that it's one of the only things that really makes me feel better sometimes. It's a really good release and I'd recommend letting yourself do it!
Affirmations are wonderful too. I'd recommend that while you wait for your program, go buy the book What To Say When You Talk To Yourself by Shad Helmstetter. Just reading it makes me feel more calm and makes me realize that I totally CAN get better if I just learn how to be nice to myself!
You have a lot going on, Kim. I'm glad you're here and I wish you the very best of luck in finding your inner peace.
When my anxiety is bad, I cry all the time. I find that it's one of the only things that really makes me feel better sometimes. It's a really good release and I'd recommend letting yourself do it!
Affirmations are wonderful too. I'd recommend that while you wait for your program, go buy the book What To Say When You Talk To Yourself by Shad Helmstetter. Just reading it makes me feel more calm and makes me realize that I totally CAN get better if I just learn how to be nice to myself!
You have a lot going on, Kim. I'm glad you're here and I wish you the very best of luck in finding your inner peace.
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Hi Kim
Yeah I feel you on the stress about family coming over. When my bro and his wife came to see me two yrs ago I cleaned like a crazy woman. But I did about a 30 to 40 mins power clean each day. That included the oven and deep cleaning of windows and walls and the fridge. The rest I put away or tossed. How do you do that? Well you get 3 large bins or trash bags. One labeled TOSS, One labeled KEEP and the other DONATE or SELL. then you go quickly thru the items and put them in the matching bag. It should be a quick response and first gut reaction. Then put the toss bag in the trash and the others can go into storage till they are gone from their visit. You can totally do it. Start with the easiest room and work your way up.
One of the things that makes us ANXIOUS and crazy is unrealistic expectations we put on ourselves. I cleaned like a crazy woman and my brothers didn't even notice the house, they were so glad to see me. It was an awesome visit.
Also making a list of things I you can do now in a few minutes and a list of things that can wait helps too. The small managable things "to do" help us feel so great when we get them done and can check them off. You mentioned about your neck so you can do some small paperwork stuff maybe that wont require any lifting and such? I hope you take it easy on yourself and remember that most of our anxiety come from scary things we tell ourselves about things that might happen, that actually NEVER happen.
I wish I could run over and give you a hand. Sorry about your neck and I hope that gets to feeling better real soon.
You can do this.One day at a time. One hour at a time if you have to.
Take care,
Jilly~
Yeah I feel you on the stress about family coming over. When my bro and his wife came to see me two yrs ago I cleaned like a crazy woman. But I did about a 30 to 40 mins power clean each day. That included the oven and deep cleaning of windows and walls and the fridge. The rest I put away or tossed. How do you do that? Well you get 3 large bins or trash bags. One labeled TOSS, One labeled KEEP and the other DONATE or SELL. then you go quickly thru the items and put them in the matching bag. It should be a quick response and first gut reaction. Then put the toss bag in the trash and the others can go into storage till they are gone from their visit. You can totally do it. Start with the easiest room and work your way up.
One of the things that makes us ANXIOUS and crazy is unrealistic expectations we put on ourselves. I cleaned like a crazy woman and my brothers didn't even notice the house, they were so glad to see me. It was an awesome visit.
Also making a list of things I you can do now in a few minutes and a list of things that can wait helps too. The small managable things "to do" help us feel so great when we get them done and can check them off. You mentioned about your neck so you can do some small paperwork stuff maybe that wont require any lifting and such? I hope you take it easy on yourself and remember that most of our anxiety come from scary things we tell ourselves about things that might happen, that actually NEVER happen.
I wish I could run over and give you a hand. Sorry about your neck and I hope that gets to feeling better real soon.
You can do this.One day at a time. One hour at a time if you have to.
Take care,
Jilly~
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Thank you both...
Missgsr, it's funny you should mention crying, because shortly after I wrote that post, I had a good cry. It does help! Unfortunately, I've always been a feeling "stuffer." I will definitely look for that book!
Jilly--cleaning has never been my strong suit. Part of my ADD nature. I always find something more interesting to do! I'm trying to do a bit at a time (I love my shredder!) as my back allows.
I'm glad I found this group...or maybe it found me!
Blessings,
Kim
Missgsr, it's funny you should mention crying, because shortly after I wrote that post, I had a good cry. It does help! Unfortunately, I've always been a feeling "stuffer." I will definitely look for that book!
Jilly--cleaning has never been my strong suit. Part of my ADD nature. I always find something more interesting to do! I'm trying to do a bit at a time (I love my shredder!) as my back allows.
I'm glad I found this group...or maybe it found me!
Blessings,
Kim
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Oh my gosh, I am a TOTAL stuffer! If something is going on and I don't want to deal with it, I just stuff it to the back of my brain and not allow myself to think about it. I think that's one of the reasons I get anxiety. I stuff everything away and then all of a sudden it all comes rushing in at once.
I hate cleaning too. I get SO bored! I'm not even good and getting myself to do a little at a time though. You should see my kitchen...
I hate cleaning too. I get SO bored! I'm not even good and getting myself to do a little at a time though. You should see my kitchen...
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Hey ladies
Hi again. I think our inner dialogue applies to cleaning too. I don't look at it as a chore usually. I just say it has to be done so I do it. I put on my Billy Idol's greatest hits. I crank it up and just GO.. I don't stop and think deeply about stuff I just dust it or toss it or whatever. And when the CD is done? So am I. And I will get a little workout in between cause I mean really how can you not dance when Mony Mony comes on hahaha? I make it as fun as I can. I know that sounds nuts to some but when the house is tidy.. I feel so much better and can think so much clearer and I feel less stressed out and much calmer about everything. It really helps lift the spirit too.
J~
Hi again. I think our inner dialogue applies to cleaning too. I don't look at it as a chore usually. I just say it has to be done so I do it. I put on my Billy Idol's greatest hits. I crank it up and just GO.. I don't stop and think deeply about stuff I just dust it or toss it or whatever. And when the CD is done? So am I. And I will get a little workout in between cause I mean really how can you not dance when Mony Mony comes on hahaha? I make it as fun as I can. I know that sounds nuts to some but when the house is tidy.. I feel so much better and can think so much clearer and I feel less stressed out and much calmer about everything. It really helps lift the spirit too.
J~