high stress scary thoughts need advice

[noname_3244]

hi everyone ive had anxiety and depression for a while and right now my stress has increased so much since my son has been in the hospital for 5 months due to unknown seizures. only now he's starting to get better. it has been very scaring time for me and my wife to see what he is going threw. before this happened i was doing alright i did struggle with the depression. but now i feel so overwhemled i'm always dizzy and constant headaches. i feel like i'm losing it sometimes and my mind feels out of control. i have alot of repetive thoughts that seems hard to control like if a hear a song on the radio i get it stuck in my head and play it over and over again in my mind. has this happen to anyone when your mind is all over the place it feels scary. im scared im gonna lose it and i have to be there for son its so hard right now. my doctor gave me apo-lorazepam 0.5 mg to relax but i think it's to mild sometimes it works. any advice

[newrunner]

I'm sorry that you are going thru this hard time with your son and family. It seems normal to me that you would have symptoms of anxiety when you are in the middle of this. Really- what can you control? Not the seizures, not the hospitalization, not when he gets well, etc. So there you have huge adrenaline squirts due to the "what if" part of all this and no where to go with it.

Have you tried praying? Just give up the yucky feelings to God and ask Him for help. And take it easy on yourself by eating well, sleeping as well as you can and getting rid of extra responsibilities that don't matter so much. I always think of my anxiety as being in a bucket, sloshing around. If I do self care measures ( for me it's eating right and exercising and not thinking I control the world) then I effectively poke a hole in my bucket and the junk drains out even though it may still be flowing in. The point is that when I slosh the bucket by having stressful things happen, the anxiety is lower and doesn't spill over the sides. If I don't do the self care, the bucket just keeps on filling and finally overflows with every little thing and I just can't get a handle on anything.

I'd cut yourself some slack. You are doing the best you can, just for today. Don't beat yourself up, don't dwell on the feelings since they are just biochemical byproducts of stress not indicators of how "tough" you are. Take help if good people offer it and take time for yourself. Your son and your family and mostly importantly YOU need you to be healthy, so take care of that. It's not greedy, it's being healthy. I wish you God speed.

[ydial trujillo]

Yes, pray about it and ask God for guidiance. u know he is our only hope. being dizzy is not a good feeling cause i feel like that alot. but i take a xanax. it helps . I try to do things not to think about it, like work outside or goo for a walk ect....
hope u feel better

[Paisleegreen]

Very good advice, Newrunner! Also ydial trukillo! I like the bucket full of water and having a drain in it to keep it from overflowing. I was not feeling so great today, my stomach slightly churning a bit. Can't tell if it is due to the extra physical work I did in my garden with the wind blowing or maybe not getting enough sleep. I might just be overdoing it because of my thoughts. Thinking that I need to do these things or else.... my mind going into overdrive...thus I make myself overdo it.

I don't feel crummy enough to take a Xanax and I've been eating my protein meal that usually makes me feel better, the only other thing is that I added whole wheat bread to the mix, so that might be agitating my stomach besides being overtired and possible hay fever of some sort. I really did overdo it working in my garden, digging, pulling weeds, cutting weeds, watering, thinking Thanks again for the advice! Paislee

[ydial trujillo]

You r very welcome . I know the feeling of the mind thinking and trying to take control. I have suffered this awful sickness for about 30 years. Thanks to my daughter that bought Lucinda Basset program. I started and it and did what it says on the tape. So good luck. ill pray for u also We just have to try and stay focus.