Worried about my son?
I have 2 children, a boy 5 and a girl 2, My daughter is outgoing and has no fear, my son is like me shy, wears his heart of his sleave and is overly sensitive, he is turning out exactly like myself and I am worried about it, I don't want him going down the route I went down/my father went down with anxiety, painfully low self esteem, he is already starting to show signs at just 5 years old, At the min he is getting bullied and I am doing something my father never done for me I am standing up for him, but I can't be there all the time, what do I do? I was thinking about sending him to football training to try and harden him up a bit at least. Parenting is just so hard, advice appreciated
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Hi:
I hope you will let the boy be himself.
My son spent a lot of his young life trying to please his father, to be what his Dad wanted him to be.
He was put into pee wee football, little league baseball. And he never excelled at those things
and his Dad never failted to let him know that he was a disappointment.
But the day finally came that his Dad accepted him for who he was. It took a long time. My son is fine these days but it was hard for him growing up.
By the way, I've heard many, many people say that little girls usually are a bit more "agressive" in child-hood than little boys.
Wishing you and both your children the very best.
SR
I hope you will let the boy be himself.
My son spent a lot of his young life trying to please his father, to be what his Dad wanted him to be.
He was put into pee wee football, little league baseball. And he never excelled at those things
and his Dad never failted to let him know that he was a disappointment.
But the day finally came that his Dad accepted him for who he was. It took a long time. My son is fine these days but it was hard for him growing up.
By the way, I've heard many, many people say that little girls usually are a bit more "agressive" in child-hood than little boys.
Wishing you and both your children the very best.
SR
Hi UKGUY
I am the youngest of 4 and the only girl and my younger brother and I were both picked on alot
and pretty shy growing up. My parent's did very little to help us with our self esteem or confidence. We had no music lessons or anything ike that. My brother did excell in gymnastics and then went on to Karate and that helped him very much as far as protection from those who were more hostile or a threat. I would strongly suggest getting your child in some sort of basic Martial arts. Just to build up his self esteem and confidence and the discipline will be a help too. My brother's children all have been very active and have had musical training and or some sort of sports they do as well. Not for the purpose of scholarships or anything like that but just to keep them well rounded. It's always good to let kids try out for many things to help them find their niche' in life.
Best of luck to you.
Jill~
I am the youngest of 4 and the only girl and my younger brother and I were both picked on alot
and pretty shy growing up. My parent's did very little to help us with our self esteem or confidence. We had no music lessons or anything ike that. My brother did excell in gymnastics and then went on to Karate and that helped him very much as far as protection from those who were more hostile or a threat. I would strongly suggest getting your child in some sort of basic Martial arts. Just to build up his self esteem and confidence and the discipline will be a help too. My brother's children all have been very active and have had musical training and or some sort of sports they do as well. Not for the purpose of scholarships or anything like that but just to keep them well rounded. It's always good to let kids try out for many things to help them find their niche' in life.
Best of luck to you.
Jill~
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I have three son's...all grown 2 show some strong anxiety. It does worry me too, the last thing I ever wanted to do was pass this disease on to my children. I've spent a lifetime building their self esteem. I believe with all my heart you can't make a child feel too loved. I think the best thing you can do is be very open with what your feeling, so that your child is never afraid to express how he is feeling. I surely don't have all the answers, but I do believe we all have the power within ourselves "to win" over this disease. "physician heal thyself" always rings back to me as true! As a mother don't be too hard on you...your probabley more amazing then you realize!
Re: Thyroid update
Hello all,
I have not posted on here in some time. And I apologize if I hijack this thread.
And I just ordered the program for myself today.
I have been dealing with bad anxiety and panic attacks since 2005, when I was originally diagnosed w/HYPOthyroidism. But I've always had anxiety. I think that I may have always been a hypochondriac as well- in that I can remember being a kid and agonizing over taking aspirin for fear that it would upset my stomach- and God help me if my stomach was upset...that was my biggest fear.
I've always been scared of doctors. So you can imagine I struggle with talking to them, dealing with them, and getting them to listen to me. Forget about blood tests every 3 months or so.
I'm seeing a new Endocrinologist whom I really like- but I seem to be so sensitive to any changes in dosage. I just can't seem to win. I take smaller dosages of both Armour and Levothyroxine, and have recently only increased the T4 by 6.25 mcg every other day. It was an adjustment. I started taking it every day on Wednesday (doctor wants me to go up by 12.5 mcg, but I'm too scared), but my blood work is only in the middle of the range (2.1 TSH) and have room to go up.
I've been taking a small amount of Klonopin (.25 mg) every night before bed to help me sleep.
What I have noticed is that all of the symptoms that I always struggle with on a dosage change (flushing, frequent waking, anxiety, irritability, increased heart rate) all seem to be normal with the Klonopin.
I went through a dosage change back in July 2010 with the same thing. Added 12.5 mcg to my current dose, and within 4 days was freaking out! Hyperventilating upon waking up in the night, anxiety, it was terrible!
Apparently I am sensitive, but now it would seem as though anxiety is the chief culprit causing all of these issues.
But 5 years later I am not any closer to determining if thyroid is causing my distress and anxiety, or if I am driving it. To me, it would seem that if it were thyroid, then it should be happening Klonopin or not.
Anyways, this is such a tough process to go through, and I am constantly praying for mercy from God.
I have not posted on here in some time. And I apologize if I hijack this thread.
And I just ordered the program for myself today.
I have been dealing with bad anxiety and panic attacks since 2005, when I was originally diagnosed w/HYPOthyroidism. But I've always had anxiety. I think that I may have always been a hypochondriac as well- in that I can remember being a kid and agonizing over taking aspirin for fear that it would upset my stomach- and God help me if my stomach was upset...that was my biggest fear.
I've always been scared of doctors. So you can imagine I struggle with talking to them, dealing with them, and getting them to listen to me. Forget about blood tests every 3 months or so.
I'm seeing a new Endocrinologist whom I really like- but I seem to be so sensitive to any changes in dosage. I just can't seem to win. I take smaller dosages of both Armour and Levothyroxine, and have recently only increased the T4 by 6.25 mcg every other day. It was an adjustment. I started taking it every day on Wednesday (doctor wants me to go up by 12.5 mcg, but I'm too scared), but my blood work is only in the middle of the range (2.1 TSH) and have room to go up.
I've been taking a small amount of Klonopin (.25 mg) every night before bed to help me sleep.
What I have noticed is that all of the symptoms that I always struggle with on a dosage change (flushing, frequent waking, anxiety, irritability, increased heart rate) all seem to be normal with the Klonopin.
I went through a dosage change back in July 2010 with the same thing. Added 12.5 mcg to my current dose, and within 4 days was freaking out! Hyperventilating upon waking up in the night, anxiety, it was terrible!
Apparently I am sensitive, but now it would seem as though anxiety is the chief culprit causing all of these issues.
But 5 years later I am not any closer to determining if thyroid is causing my distress and anxiety, or if I am driving it. To me, it would seem that if it were thyroid, then it should be happening Klonopin or not.
Anyways, this is such a tough process to go through, and I am constantly praying for mercy from God.