Obsessed with Time

Soldier Of Panic · Post by **Soldier Of Panic** » Sun Nov 28, 2010 9:48 am

I have noticed since i turned 30 ive become majorly obsessed with time and how fast its going,and its been causing panic attacks. Getting older and not having kids or a steady relationship that could even bring kids. I also have been to 5 close friends weddings in the last few month and half of them are having kids in the next 6 months which has this on my mind even more now. Anyone have advice or feel the same way?

karmatism · Post by **karmatism** » Mon Nov 29, 2010 5:41 am

I feel this way for different reasons. It happened right about 30 too. I'll be 31 next month and I have 2 kids and 2 step-kids, but I'm obsessing about losing my youth. I feel like I've spent so much of my life feeling this way and I worry that the best years are slipping by me. I don't want to be too old to enjoy anything before I feel better.

You are a man so you have more time than a woman your age would. Generally the man is older than the woman. My husband is 39. Even if it takes a few years to meet someone and get things started, she can easily still be in her child-bearing years! I know it's hard when everyone around you seems to be progressing to a different life stage. It will happen for you. Most people have more than one child too, so maybe when you get started, your friends will be working on their second child and they can still grow up together.

Paisleegreen · Post by **Paisleegreen** » Mon Nov 29, 2010 5:58 am

I'm like that and I'm 56! Which to some people is a "spring chicken"! My Aunts and parents all lived past 85 and 90. I guess I'm noticing it more now, because I've have had many life experiences and some losses of loved ones that make me feel more anxious thus more like my life is passing me by.

My DD turned 30 and she isn't married yet either and she would love to have some children and a husband. All her old friends are married w/children as well. So it is hard, I know.

My Dad was 28 when he met my mother started his family when he was around 30. So you have lots of time and since men are more the ones to who traditionally ask for dates. Let's see how we can help you start the dating process.

Some couples marry and never can have children. So you have a lot going for you...I think as you relax and think positively at your situation things will get better.

I made a list of the characteristics of I wanted in a husband and how many children I would like to raise. My husband came pretty close to that ideal list.

Sam A. · Post by **Sam A.** » Tue Nov 30, 2010 6:24 am

I feel like this occasionally. Sometimes I can't believe how fast my life if passing by. My husband works until about 7 every night. When he gets home, we eat, watch some tv, and we go to bed. It's the same thing every night. I feel like I have no variety in my life and I know my husband feels the same way. Sometimes I get really depressed thinking about it. Recently I have tried living in the present instead of thinking about the past or future!

Sam, Health Insurance Advisor

Molly77 · Post by **Molly77** » Thu Dec 23, 2010 9:49 am

hmm maybe this is why I feel stressed about my poor time management skills. Well one reason.. I know many of my other reasons for feeling stressed about that..but this is a thought I have not considered. I am 33 and have no bi-ped children of my own.