Needing friends !?!

lynn in florida · Post by **lynn in florida** » Mon Jan 03, 2011 5:29 am

Hi, I'm looking for someone who is sort of a secure mentor. I am a poor person, who tries to make changes, has made many past mistakes which I still pay for and I need a therapist but can't afford one! Very few friends- social anxiety-a wreck of a life- and need for change. someone please help!!!!!!

Molly77 · Post by **Molly77** » Mon Jan 03, 2011 9:40 am

I'll be your friend...but I can't be your mentor since I am new to the program...

Paisleegreen · Post by **Paisleegreen** » Mon Jan 03, 2011 9:48 am

I can help you out somewhat...you can PM me if you'd like. I've been down with either a really bad cold or the flu, so haven't been posting too much. You are my first post for the day. Paislee

lynn in florida · Post by **lynn in florida** » Mon Jan 03, 2011 2:02 pm

Hello Molly and Paisleegreen,

Thank You for your offer. I've tried the online chat but really don't like it much or feel that it does anything for me, because it's fast and confusing, and seems to be a few people who know each other better just chatting back n forth. I don't have time to sit with it all day. I have 5 "living children ages 10-24 and a 7yr old grandson. I am an emotional wreck most of the time, and have few friends due to some social anxieties. I'm trying to make improvements in my life but always seem to get stuck in ruts where I'm unhappy with my choices. One choice I'm not unhappy with is my choice to start college. I started six months ago (Online with DeVry) and I'm High straight A's so far-Made the dean's list and surprised myself! Looking forward to chatting with you more later on. Thank You again-Lynn

Molly77 · Post by **Molly77** » Tue Jan 04, 2011 9:29 am

GOOD for you!! YAY

That is a HUGE step when one is struggling so with emotional stuff!

lynn in florida · Post by **lynn in florida** » Wed Jan 05, 2011 4:31 am

Hello Molly, Thank you for the congrats! I'm trying very hard and feel there is no one to help me but myself, but I know how I am and how my anxiety reacts on me. I do have some problems when I have big papers to do- I sorta freeze up, even though I am a really good student and writer, and have received A's on the papers I've done. Motivation for school is not a problem, motivation for life is. I think I need to find some time to start working on my program again. Talking to people seems to help with my social anxieties. I do often find myself helping other people though. Can you tell me a bit more about yourself and why you became a part of this program so that maybe we can draw similarities and help each other more?

Michael · Post by **Michael** » Wed Jan 05, 2011 4:52 am

Hey Lynn,

Glad to hear you are on your way to recovery. I've been affiliated with the program the past ten years and am employed as a coach for the StressCenter.com. I do alot of peer support as well so feel free to e-mail anytime for support. God bless and go for it!!!!!

lynn in florida · Post by **lynn in florida** » Wed Jan 05, 2011 5:11 am

Hello Michael and nice to meet you! I'm trying to get tabs on my problems once and for all- there's a lot to it and to me! When I first started to program I considered coaching-still can't afford it. It's amazing how the poor get further repressed and depressed do to being financially limited! I have a lot of social phobias and am a headcase- need all the help I can get and I'm finally at the point to reach out for it. I too am originally from Cleveland, Ohio- just started talking to my cousin up there after 20 yrs! If you can help me as a coach without a charge- please! You may send me some private messages too, later on I'll give you my personal emails- we'll see how it goes- I think I need daily chats with people.

I will add you to my buddy list. Thank you again-Lynn

lynn in florida · Post by **lynn in florida** » Wed Jan 05, 2011 5:21 am

Hello Everyone and Thank You!

I just want you to know, I've worked on updating my profile info a bit and put a real picture of me- even though the avatar I had seemed to fit well- my life has been cold and frosty and I feel "frozen" in my mess of a life. I also added the email I use most.

Thank you again-Lynn