first post, why I'm here

[AP2884Moss]

Just wanted to share my story after reading several people share theirs and hear the positive feedback. I'm a 27 year old man who started getting the physical symptoms of anxiety about 6 years ago. It started out as pain in my stomach and back, then came the tingling in my left arm and leg, breathing problems, dizziness, heart palpitations, etc. I believe my anxiety is closely related to having terrible acne in high school and beginning the negative self talk about not being attractive, which led into negative self talk about other things. Consequently, although I've been told I'm attractive (the acne has cleared up), I still struggle with approaching women I find attractive and I've never had a girlfriend because I fear rejection. I struggle with being assertive at work (I'm the lead of a department which requires me to assign tasks to people). It's hard for me because I have the "need to be liked" which is so common for us. The main things I've focused on is positive self talk and assertiveness. That being said, I feel like I've made several good steps in the past couple months. I speak up more when I feel like I should and I'm generally happier but I still have a ways to go. I also took advantage of the "life coach" which has been super helpful for me. I still get anxious episodes now and then but I try to tell myself it's excitement about trying things that I avoided before. I know I'll get through it, it just takes hard work and patience. I could go on and on but you guys have been through everything I have. Any feedback or comments are welcome and best of luck in your "fight" against anxiety and depression!

[Paisleegreen]

Welcome APMOSS-Glad to hear your story and the challenges you have faced and overcame. Paislee

[Molly77]

I have had difficulties with the need to be liked and assertiveness as well! You are not alone! I am feeling better and doing better in this area even though it is a bit of a struggle for me.. I AM making progress! Keep on keeping on!!