Guys

[Martha Meighan]

I have been divorced for two years. I immediately got into a bad relationship. It ended last summer although he called to wish me Merry Christmas and it deteriorated into a fight again. Meanwhile, I had been spending time at a local coffee shop and met the owner and we started a friendship no relationship thing. He introduced me to a guy who has a bad marriage and wants to be with me because we have a spiritual link. I am 61 years old and told that i look a lot younger maybe late forties early fifties. The coffee shop owner is opting out of our threesome right now and this guy, I will call him John says his wife isn't threatened by me at all which I am one, not sure is true and two, if it is true, am I not attractive enough to have someone want me or be attracted to me and what is the relationship amoung the three of us? Anyway, depression, loneliness and obsessionary thoughts are all part of this equation. I am asking for some clarity. Am I too old to be attractive? Does John like me more than just as a friend or should I not be alone anywhere him and what does Francesco the coffee shop owner think of me. All of the above and anything else please comment.

[SoWhatif]

Nothing wrong with being hot and 61.

I would let him do his mating calls and watch and listen carefully. What is his intent and long term outlook. Getting involved with a married...... Beware and be carefull.
Trust only after verifacation and time.

Bless ya for being on gaurd.
Plot your trek carfully.