Does anyone with OCD also have issues with anger? There are many things going on inside me right now (also suffering from post pardem) but I have been angry with my husband so often over the last few months and he is really not doing anything wrong for the most part! I get upset because he is gone a lot, he's very busy and he coach's and now during the summer he is busy at night coaching and goes back to our home town a couple days a month to help on his family's farm or help's another guy roof. Today and tomorrow he is home roofing and was planning on staying over night as it is an hour away. I will be at our home with our one year old and I do not like to stay home alone with out him. I need to do it I know to get over it. He just called and said that he did not roof today but that he was home farming all day instead and will also farm tomorrow and tonight he was going to visit a cousin that is also back home visiting. I instantly got mad because first of all, he didn't roof (which is why he had to go home these two days - not to mention we had to get daycare figured out since he is home with her during the summer otherwise) and now I am stuck home alone tonight. And he gets to go have fun tonight with his cousin. I know it is wrong of me to be angry over this but I cannot help it. Is it because I can't control things totally or because I have to stay by myself or because I am just plain selfish? He has really stepped up lately around the house and with our daughter but I continually want more from him. (please keep in mind he coach's 3 sports year round...it leaves me alone with our daughter most night's and saturdays and I also work full time). I am overwhelmed and my anger comes on in a snap. And I know all of this sounds so totally stupid. Any one else experience this with their spouse? How do you learn to deal and just accept that it is how it is? We've been married 3 years and our daughter is one.
Any suggestions, related stories is appreciated. I of course worry that if I am angry like this, does it mean we are doomed? I do love him and know he works hard....i just constantly want more than I am getting right now.
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I understand how you feel. My husband is the same way and I am a very angry person. Part of the reason I am taking these classes. My husband of 9 years is gone all the time to. We have 2 children. We were married young and he wasn't ready for a family so he wasn't around much for out first he was busy out having fun with his friends and family. I would get so angry, I would leave and go stay with my parents for weekends. I also had a hard time trusting him with our son. I didn't feel he would take good enough care of him so I wouldn't let him take him anywhere. My husband has done some changes which is great but I am the same way I always want more. We argue alot because I HATE being home alone. He knows this. I know how you feel and I also would like to know how to "fix" or control this....
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