Am I too sensitive?

SongWriter · Post by **SongWriter** » Wed Feb 11, 2009 5:20 am

I ended my facebook account because someone wrote this to me after i asked why they ended their friendship with me

"to be honest, you're kind of a downer -- but i wish you the best of luck and hope you get your issues worked out."

I was so hurt. I thought it was done in humor. Am I too sensitive?
WHEN WILL I EVER CHANGE!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Feb 11, 2009 5:36 am

Wow, that is tough. No, you are not too sensitive. Remember, being sensitive is a good thing, it means you care about others and are a compassionate person.

You could spin this as being the best thing that ever happened to you. Don't let it pull you down. Why don't you go ahead and prove to yourself that you are not a downer. Keep at the program, try to work on your positive thoughts.

Make sure you surround yourself with supportive people.

Don't give up.

Sarah

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Feb 11, 2009 5:55 am

Hi Song Writer!

Boy.....I also don't think you took this as too sensitive! A true friend will stick by you always.....even if you are often in a down mood!

Hang in there......let that one goooo! Keep working on the program. You can pull youself to be in an UP mood. Keep the faith.

Have a good day!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Feb 11, 2009 5:56 am

Songwriter, I'm sorry you were hurt. You ask " Am I too sensitive?" I think a lot of us are too sensitive. If we were not, we wouldn't have the anxiety & panic attacks. I feel we are the type of people who take thigs to heart. Let me say, I am. I worry about other people's feelings, always want things to be right. I'm a thinker, and wonder why did this happen, or that happen.
There is nothing wrong with being sensitive. I rather be sensitive, than a person, who don't care about others.
The person who wrote "to be honest, you're kind of a downer" could have been more sensitive. There are some people who don't want to hear about our problems. I only talk to certain people about my problems. People I truly trust, and know they will be here for me.
I don't understand, why you ended your facebook account, cause of one person. Was your facebook, something you enjoy? If it was, I would reopen it, and not give that person power over me.
You ask, "Will I ever change" Change comes by doing the program.
I hope you are working the program, and learning the tools from it. I wish you well.
Sunshine1960

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Feb 11, 2009 6:08 am

These comments can really hurt, but they can also be a catalyst for change. I remember years ago (before I realized how negative I was) a friend of mine commented to me "Why are you always so negative about everything? You're comments are always "Yes that's nice but-----. You always seem to pick out the one negative thing about the whole situation. Don't you ever see the positive?" I was sooo hurt at first and thought they were a little too unkind, but later saw a lot of truth in it. It became a catalyst for me to change my thinking. I'm not trying to say that you really are a downer, and maybe it was just this one person's perception, which is highly possible but we can ask ourselves if there is any truth in it and if there is, how can we change this. To tell you the truth my friend's rather mean comments were the best thing that happened to me. It opened my eyes to why I was never satisfied with anything - because I was always focusing on the negatives. So ask yourself if there is any truth to it. If there is, work on making some changes. If there isn't - let it go.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Feb 11, 2009 8:13 am

Thanks for the responces.

What hurts most is this is a famous cartoonist/illustrator. I have admired his work for years. So having a comment like the one he gave me really hurt. Oh well, it's time to learn from it.

He was always a bit hot headed on the internet. I remember him getting into fights 10 years ago. He's probably full of himself.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Feb 11, 2009 9:24 am

Songwriter I feel your feel. Do not be discouraged. It made me think of a message that I heard a while back regarding friendly fire. The message was to parallel the battlefield when things go wrong and our soldiers mistake our own for the enemy. It identified that sometimes friends and loved one's shell down on us being blind to the attack itself. Staying positive, falling in love with ourselves and changing our self talk is so vital and proves to be a pathway to victory. We are our safe place and person. Remember, this too shall pass and that our soldiers never retaliate under friendly fire despite the outcome. Keep up the good work, because you have so many more songs to write! God Bless You!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Feb 11, 2009 10:22 am

Songwriter

Don't take it personally. Maybe the person that wrote it has issues of their own. Not everyone is happy and chipper all the time. Let it go and move on from it. If that was the only reason you stopped your Facebook page, you should start it again.

Josh04 · Post by **Josh04** » Wed Feb 11, 2009 10:34 am

I totally agree with the above comments. I think that would bother most of the population would have been offended by that comment whether they said so or not. Whether or not you can be a downer. That is no way to say it and if this person was a true friend they would have never said it like that.
Good luck and dont dwell on someones opinion who obviously isnt a reliable source. Learn from it and move on

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Feb 11, 2009 11:47 am

And the guy was putting it kindly. God only knows what he really thought of me. lol