ended relationship, very sad, very difficult

cuttingirl · Post by **cuttingirl** » Wed Jan 14, 2009 2:14 pm

Hi, just wanted to let some of this out. I ended a 3.5 year relationship only weeks ago. Even though I know this is the right thing (known it for a long time, just finally acted on it) I feel very bad. The world got so small (only me and him) that I have no friends to confide in, nothing to do. I actually went to Wal-Mart just to be around people; held up the line asking the cashier questions. The house is void of a lot of furniture, it echoes. Working the program helped me to finally do this thing I needed to do, but I am having trouble now accessing and using the skills I learned. I think I am just sad and it will pass. It always passes, as they say on tape 2/3. Any words of advice?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 14, 2009 2:52 pm

I have the same exact problems. My husband and I are divorcing and the entertainment items in the house are gone (tv, dvd, etc.) The noise is nothing. I miss that more than him. Ihave not got tv arrangements yet. My husband was a afrida of dying and started giving large sum of money to his mother and sister. Now they have all the rest. I also am recovering from cancer. I tell myself I am thankful for this time to get to know me. I am benefiting from the program. good luck to you.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 14, 2009 2:53 pm

Knowing a relationship is doomed is an insight filled with all the emotions you have listed, and then some. Actually ending it is courageous. You mention doubts. Keep moving forward now that you have made this decision. Don’t slide back to the same old stuff, which you know, brings the same old results. When you begin to doubt yourself, and consider resurrecting this relationship, ask yourself why. Why would you start something up again that was doomed from the get-go?
Cultivate some friends. PM people in this community who are working through the same sessions you are working on. And don’t nail your feet to the floor again, especially after you pulled the nails out.
Bad relationships are like frogs. They don’t turn into something else.
Make your life better because you can and because you are.
I have faith in you. You are so courageous.
If I could redo my own life, I would throw out all the frogs. I didn’t have the courage.

PS: janibenson, so sad to hear you are going through this, too. If you have thrift stores where you live, those are great places to find televisons for cheap.

Sandra L. · Post by **Sandra L.** » Wed Jan 14, 2009 3:17 pm

Cuttinggirl:
Oh please just keep hanging in there!
I know it is hard. It is hardest thing there is but you'll make it.
Pecus gives such good advice.
I'm thinking of you and saying a prayer for you.

Janibenson, the same for you. Hang on!
It is gonna be okay. I just wish you so well.
I have extra little radios. Wish you were near I'd give you one. That would be a start.
You are a strong woman.
Keep posting so we can all pray for you and encourage you.
Bless you.
MJ