My mind off self

Barb G. · Post by **Barb G.** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 4:51 am

Over and over again in all the lessons we hear how we gotta take time for ourselves. Over and over again I realize how much my mind is on myself! Way....too much! Yes I need time for myself and when stressed relaxation CD, a nice warm bubble bath, curl up with a good book etc. All these things are important but not to the point we're so focused inwardly that we're not giving out. As I begin to focus on others needs I often see mine are nothing in comparison. I can offer a prayer for someone else even when I'm not feeling well myself and end up encouraging myself. Just a comment to say let's not be so focused on self that we don't take time for others. I love each and everyone of you and see the importance especially in a help chat to not only get help but give it as well.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 5:17 am

Amen!!!! Before I joined the prayer group I too was to focused on myself. I now pray for others and I take it on like it was my problem directly. God is amazingZ! He is going to move in our lives and he is going to go and give you the ability to fix your house. He is going to make your marriage strong, he is going to keep people from sending you letters in the mail that make you angry and you are going to rejoice in all that he does! Your house isn't going to be a money pit any longer and you are going to have the means and support you need to fix everything in it. We are going to break the curses of our words and they are going to have no power. You can't say that it is a money pit because God is going to make it a blessing and is going to get it fixed for you! You are a child of the most High and you are not going to let Satan take what is yours and turn it against you! In the name of Jesus it stops right now!!!! I pray for you with your writings and I pray that you will have much comfort in all that you do. Your house will be fixed and you will find joy and peace in life! Lord knows that we all have obsticles to overcome but the Lord will bring us out of them all! In Jesus' name! Amen and amen! Love you!

Jennifier

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 6:01 am

Absolutely - we need to give and do to others. And, the point on the CDs is that you need to give time to yourself so that you have the energy and feel like giving to others. If you don't want to, it becomes resentment and 'down you go'.

The most important thing we can do is to recover so that we can focus on the needs of others out of our own desire to - not out of guilt or obligation that we should.

I think you're right on the money! Good luck in your recovery.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 6:21 am

I can relate about having my mind way too much on myself! I think one thing I had to learn was not seek approval from others, but give it to myself. In that way, I need to take care of myself. It's really hard to give to others when you are so focused on getting their approval! It's almost giving at a cost... Giving to others when you don't expect anything or need anything in return is a blessing though and is truly not being selfish. I have found that when I am fulfilled by my faith and am grounded in who God has said I am, then I can truly give to others. When I'm not, then my mind is totally geared toward my fears, my needs, my insanities...But of course, sometimes you have to 'act' your way to believing. In other words, begin helping and looking to others for their benefit, and then find yourself fulfilled and healthy-minded.

Best to all!

*Kat (KP)* · Post by ***Kat (KP)*** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 8:11 am

Thank you all for your responses. Jennifer thank you especially for what you said about the house. I know there are people which much bigger problems than this but for some reason my husband and I have been totally stuck on this issue. I found it very interesting today that the bank called and said the builder dropped off a check to them that we shouldn't have paid the taxes on the land we bought from him that he was going to pay it the first year. Hmmm....he said nothing about this a month ago when I questioned about the taxes. He doesn't even talk to us, sends a certified letter, not works thru the bank??? So much very wrong in the construction here like God parting the red sea. My husband said maybe they'll have to give us a new house and tear this one down! Ha! I don't think that will happen. Well one day at a time. Gotta remember the precious present.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 10:14 am

I tell ya what - I am humbled as never b/4 @ my recovery & all which I was given to help me help myself. Recovery for me included therapy & the program. Lord have mercy, lol(I am laughing y'all) I analized myself every which til Sunday - I tell ya what - I AM DONE THINKING ABOUT ME, TALKING ABOUT ME, WHAT I'M THINKING OR FEELING - oh so tired, lol

I'm never a selfish person - although recovery required I become a little selfish for the 1st time in my life. Mission accomplished. <span class="ev_code_RED">I say, LET'S TALK ABOUT YOU - LOL LOL how is your day, how are you feeling? & heck, you need a laugh - I'll do something silly, lol</span>

Enjoy your evening folks

LENORE