I'm really struggling today! I was feeling a little "off" this weekend but kept myself busy. Last night while waiting for dinner I had a bit of an anxiety attack. I don't know if I was having a weak moment or what but it seems to have set me back. This morning I woke up at 5 AM to a stomach ache and very hopeless thinking. I tried to use positive self dialog but I just couldn't get the feelings to subside. I'm at work now and feeling very upset that I'm going through this again.
My scary thoughts are that my wife is getting sick of this problem and will leave me and I'll loose everything I hold dear in my life because of this condition. I hardly ever say anything to my wife and she has never expressed frustration so I think it's all in my head.
Tough day!!!
John, we all get scarry thoughts. it is how we react to them that counts. Have you toldyour wife how you feel? ask her how she feels. Are you doing all you can to over come this? let her know this and mean it. keep with th epositive dialogue. it all takes time. once you ahve a negative thought, right away, counteract it with a positive thought. right thigns down. listen to soothing music. Excercise, I cannot stress this one enough. find something positive to do. shower and get dressed,e ven though it is early. make the coffee, if you drink it, feed the dog, etc....do a chore, or sometihng for yourself. go for a walk...do something positive, EXercise. exercise and talk. write it down. read the cards that come with the package/program. and remember, you are not a lone.
John
Its ok to have bad days and I know what you mean about feeling the frustration and worry. I think that too...if Im frustrated what must my husband be feeling? Its so hard the more we stress about this the worse it is. I can be sitting at the table and just think of something and get that sinking hot feeling......
I feel like the last few weeks have been hard for me too.....I wake up several times a night feeling sick but simply laying a different way makes it go away which of course I think about and wonder is this some crazy illness? I have had to turn around and come back home two weekends ago on our way to a birhtday party for my son....I was so miserable about having to do that AGAIN...Its been a long time since that happened. But you know what it does and its ok.
I spend so much of my life trying to outrun or hide my feelings to others and its so unbelievably draining. The program is wonderfull when I feel like this I put in lessons and listen they always seem to say what i need to hear.
Hang in there John....love your wife and show her often how you really feel for her...take advantage of the good times when your feeling well and she will have no reason to be angry with you when your feeling a bit down. I have tried to do this and it helps....remember everyone gets to feeling sick or have bad stretches we arent going to feel good every single day!
You will feel better this is just a bump in the road of life. It too shall pass.
Hang in there John.
Dodger
Its ok to have bad days and I know what you mean about feeling the frustration and worry. I think that too...if Im frustrated what must my husband be feeling? Its so hard the more we stress about this the worse it is. I can be sitting at the table and just think of something and get that sinking hot feeling......
I feel like the last few weeks have been hard for me too.....I wake up several times a night feeling sick but simply laying a different way makes it go away which of course I think about and wonder is this some crazy illness? I have had to turn around and come back home two weekends ago on our way to a birhtday party for my son....I was so miserable about having to do that AGAIN...Its been a long time since that happened. But you know what it does and its ok.
I spend so much of my life trying to outrun or hide my feelings to others and its so unbelievably draining. The program is wonderfull when I feel like this I put in lessons and listen they always seem to say what i need to hear.
Hang in there John....love your wife and show her often how you really feel for her...take advantage of the good times when your feeling well and she will have no reason to be angry with you when your feeling a bit down. I have tried to do this and it helps....remember everyone gets to feeling sick or have bad stretches we arent going to feel good every single day!
You will feel better this is just a bump in the road of life. It too shall pass.
Hang in there John.
Dodger
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Charisteas
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John,
Hang in there and try to keep things positive... I find that the best way to do that is to focus on the goal ahead, the prize. When you overcome your problems with anxiety and panic, what is going to be different, what are you looking forward to.. Think about these things, and have the desire to perceive things in a positive way. Every action, everything that happens can be perceived in a manner you want. Rather then perceive it negatively, perceive it positively and have a great day...
Its not easy, but with practice it can be done.. I just started my week 2 today and I woke up to a note I had wrote myself last night this morning that told me that I have a choice when I wake up on how my day is going to go. Clearly you can see I chose to have a positive day..
Good luck
Hang in there and try to keep things positive... I find that the best way to do that is to focus on the goal ahead, the prize. When you overcome your problems with anxiety and panic, what is going to be different, what are you looking forward to.. Think about these things, and have the desire to perceive things in a positive way. Every action, everything that happens can be perceived in a manner you want. Rather then perceive it negatively, perceive it positively and have a great day...
Its not easy, but with practice it can be done.. I just started my week 2 today and I woke up to a note I had wrote myself last night this morning that told me that I have a choice when I wake up on how my day is going to go. Clearly you can see I chose to have a positive day..
Good luck
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alexsei521
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I know what you mean about your fears about your wife leaving you. I would really like to talk to my husband right now about how I am feeling. But I know he's busy at work and I think he doesn't want to hear all this again. We have been married for 16 years so I just try and tell myself he would have said something a long time ago if he was sick of me. So I sure do know how you feel!
Yea, we've been married about that long also. I get sick of listening to myself but I really don't talk to her about it very often. It's all in my imagination. I guess that's the general problem with everything, my imagination or thoughts. I'm really going to give this program a shot and commit myself to it.
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bevhembree
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angela chriss
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hey john,
i can totally relate,i had a bad weekend too. my anxiety popped back in out of no where, i was feeling good, laughing, then boom, dizzy spells, i got nervous, i called it a night early, one minute im on cloud nine, and the next, im the most negative thinker ever, of the "what ifs", ALL BAD THOUGHTS TOO. anyhow, how long has this been going on for u, that u feel as though ur wife will leave, is this something that she has expressed to u, and she mentioned how she feels about it. if so, than i could see why u would feel like this. if not, u should sit her down and express how u feel and how u need her help, to help u get through this. there shouldnt be any hold backs with the ones u love. i too have the program. ive had it since nov of last year. and im still on lesson 4. i too dabble in things and dont attempt to see it all the way through, and what ive noticed, the ones that do it continuously, and correct, are the ones who really benefit from this program, and the ones, like US. are still dealing with this anxiety, and bad thoughts, and we tend to blame the program. in actuallity, its US. i truly belived, that no one can truly help us, cause we have to help ourselves, but they can support us, in all that we do. she is ur support system, she needs to be included, once u know that ur not a burden, and she is going to see this thing through with u, maybe, ull feel better and thats one less thing to worry about and it will get u on the right path to start the program for good this time.
good luck
ang
i can totally relate,i had a bad weekend too. my anxiety popped back in out of no where, i was feeling good, laughing, then boom, dizzy spells, i got nervous, i called it a night early, one minute im on cloud nine, and the next, im the most negative thinker ever, of the "what ifs", ALL BAD THOUGHTS TOO. anyhow, how long has this been going on for u, that u feel as though ur wife will leave, is this something that she has expressed to u, and she mentioned how she feels about it. if so, than i could see why u would feel like this. if not, u should sit her down and express how u feel and how u need her help, to help u get through this. there shouldnt be any hold backs with the ones u love. i too have the program. ive had it since nov of last year. and im still on lesson 4. i too dabble in things and dont attempt to see it all the way through, and what ive noticed, the ones that do it continuously, and correct, are the ones who really benefit from this program, and the ones, like US. are still dealing with this anxiety, and bad thoughts, and we tend to blame the program. in actuallity, its US. i truly belived, that no one can truly help us, cause we have to help ourselves, but they can support us, in all that we do. she is ur support system, she needs to be included, once u know that ur not a burden, and she is going to see this thing through with u, maybe, ull feel better and thats one less thing to worry about and it will get u on the right path to start the program for good this time.
good luck
ang
"when u know better, u do better"
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nervousmervous
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john,
We all have these feelings. I for one find this one to be me my hardest to deal with. I think sooner or later my husband is just going to get sick of it and leave. But i have learned to check in with him. I remind myself to ask how he is doing with all my behaviors when i have a good day and he loves it. Just remmber too breath and its all in our heads.
We all have these feelings. I for one find this one to be me my hardest to deal with. I think sooner or later my husband is just going to get sick of it and leave. But i have learned to check in with him. I remind myself to ask how he is doing with all my behaviors when i have a good day and he loves it. Just remmber too breath and its all in our heads.