Reality Check... Is this really anxiety????

Mistybloo2 · Post by **Mistybloo2** » Fri Feb 20, 2009 1:16 pm

Good evening all, Even though I have gone through the program and have made great strides in the effort to alleviate anxiety from my life, recently due to the death of my child, I feel like my anxiety is coming back

Here are my symptoms, please just tell me if this is really my anxiety??:

Heart is RACING!!!
Chest is tight
I am soooo Shaky
Stomach is in knots
Feel very dizzy

I haven't felt this in a long long time

Misty

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Feb 20, 2009 1:42 pm

Dear Mistybloo!
Of course you are probably having some anxiety.
But no doubt about it, you are experiencing grief.
How could you not?
I am so very sorry for your loss.
I wish I could give you comfort.
Grief is hard. But with a loss we must go thru' it. We do get to a point where we can function a little better.
Please except my empathy.
God bless you!!!
I hope others answer with some better offerings on how you can cope with this.
Just know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.
MaryJane

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Feb 20, 2009 2:03 pm

I am so sorry to hear this about your child. No wonder you are having these symptoms. These can all be symptoms of anxiety, but it's always a good idea to see your GP if you're concerned. I had all of those symptoms at one time, and mine were all due to anxiety and grief. Maybe you could consider grief counseling. It helped me quite a bit.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Feb 20, 2009 2:28 pm

Hi Mistybloo2,
It sounds like anxiety to me. I am sorry for your lost.
My Daughter lost her twins last year. The year before that she had a miscarriage when she was three months pregnant. It is a hard thing to lose a child. I know, I had anxiety and depression when she lost the twin's. I feel it is normal when you are experiencing grief. My daughter's twin's live only a couple of hours. A lot of people don't know how to deal with it when a child dies. To be honest, you feel all alone. Some people feel like you just need to get over it. Yet, it is something that takes time. I think of my grandchildren a lot, I talk to God about them.
I'm sure you are asking what could I have done different, my daughter does. I tell my daughter, she did all she was supposed to do. There is a lot of why questions, that we will never have answers to. As Cornflower stated, we have to move on. Every night when I say my prayers, I ask God to tell my grandchildren, I love them, and give them a hug and kiss from me and I will see them again. This does give me peace. I cry to God, and let Him know how I feel.
I hope you have someone that you can talk to about the lost of your child.
When we keep things inside us, it makes anxiety worst. I wish you the best, I am so sorry for the loss of your child.
Sunshine1960

Carolyn Dickman · Post by **Carolyn Dickman** » Fri Feb 20, 2009 3:20 pm

Misty,

I am very sorry for your loss. I can not imagine what that must be like. Without a doubt anyone, with or without any anxiety disorder would feel the same feelings you are feeling now. This is a very traumatic, and stressfull event for anyone to go through. Try and remember to take care of yourself, and also let yourself feel the pain, grief, and loss of your child. Denying the feelings, the loss, and everything associated with it will manifest itself in other means trying to come out. I am soo sorry for the loss you have suffered, and saying a prayer for your comfort. I also agree if you have no one to talk with, that some counseling, or some type of other support system would be of great help to you.

God bless you, and comfort you.

Michael

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Feb 20, 2009 3:58 pm

I can't tell you all how much I appreciate the responses. I really do need to speak to a grief couselor because it is becoming unbearable for me to deal with my loss. Thank you so much for your prayers and words of comfort. God Bless you

Misty

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Feb 20, 2009 5:43 pm

I cant tell you how sorry I am for your loss. You will definetly be in my prayers. You have every right to feel what you are feeling. ANYONE would on your situation. A grief therapist would probaly be very beneficial. I could not imagine how painful it must be. My heart goes out to you and your family. If you ever need someone to talk to just send me a messgae. I will never tell you I know how you feel because I dont but I will be here to listen if you need anything.

T-twins · Post by **T-twins** » Fri Feb 20, 2009 5:53 pm

Misty, I believe I have experienced all of those symptoms plus a few after the death of my son almost 2 years ago. There have been some improvements thanks to some councilling and this program. Myheart goes out to you Misty but just know you will over time feel better. Bruce

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Feb 20, 2009 10:14 pm

Hi Neighbor,

My heart and prayer go out to you and your entire family. Dealing with death of a loved one is one of the most difficult things we will ever do in our lives.

Yes, what you are experiencing are signs of anxiety and the depression that follows such an experience. However, I agree with another post here that you should get those physical symtoms checked out to make sure that there is nothing physically wrong with you.

In fact the grief and sense of loss that many often feel is so overwhelming and dangerous that we really need the support that other loved ones and dear friends can provide.

My mother died in late 1994, and even today I have trouble coping with that loss. It seems that the hurt and pain never really goes away. When it happened, I was so devastated and upset with God, that I put on the boxing gloves and had an all out fight with God for taking my mom. There were times that, during the wake, if it were not for the loving and timely hugs that I received, that I thought I would die. It hurts so very much. I also agree that you and your family should either visit with your Pastor or get grief counseling.

I used to belong to a true New Testiment Philadelphia style church of brothers, sisters, moms, and dads that would rise to such occasions to surround those that suffered such a loss with their unconditional and never ending love. I had to move at that time and that was before my moms death, to be closer to my mom. I really miss that little church family. I wish all churches were as united in the sense of purpose and love.

I pray that you and your family surround yourselves with people that love you just because you are you, laugh with you when you experience humor, cheer you on when you have successes, and cry with you in your darkest hours. The internet is a great place and resource for staying in touch with friends, family, shopping and is a great resource library of information, but you need the physical contact that other loved ones can bring to help you along this terrible rough patch of your life. It's the physical and emotional part, that makes humankind so unique. We crave and need that physical contact of true fellowship.

What you are going through is very tough and could be the most traumatic time of your life, but if you seek out your true friends and God's help, you can make it to another day. He will not abandon nor forsake you, and you are not walking this walk alone. Try setting the phrase Don't Let Me Walk This Road Alone in this community's search or in the goggle search and see what you come up with.

Here's my contribution:

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I was touched by this very song when my mom died. I hope that it will help as much as I was helped for make it to another day, one day at a time.

I want to pray for you, I really hope that you and others don't mind if I do.

Heavenly Father, Abba God, Daddy God. Incline your ear to hear and answer your humble servants prayer. Daddy God, I lift up this broken heart of our dear friend Misty. I don't know his or her real name, but You do Daddy, because you made all of us. It is with a humble and contrite heart I pray.

Daddy God, may Your Love, mercy and loving kindness, be ever present in their every day walk, and my your strong arm be a shelter of safety and security, comfort and consolation to Misty and all of her/his family, as they struggle to move forward from this very painful time in their lives. We don't know or understand why all these things happen,we only know that You love all your children, and have taken this child to be in your loving arms until the day that they shall be reunited.

Lord, we thank you so very much for the sacrifice that both You and Your Son made for all of us. We also prayer that Your comforting Holy Spirit fill Misty's home and provide their family all that they need to return to the Joy that you have in store for all of us, even in our darkest hour.

Daddy God, I pray that these prayers rise up to you as a sweet fragrance that pleasing and acceptable to. For Your honor and for Your Glory. I raise this sacrifice of praise and set them before You and Your precious son, in whom I trust will serve as my advocate before You.

Daddy God, I pray that if in anyway I am guilty of anything that may offend You, that You extend Your hand of mercy, friendship and loving kindness and forgive me.

All these things I pray in precious Son's holy name, Yeshua.

Friends, I pray that you all forgive me if I offend any here, and forgive me if you find that this post is or seems long to you.

TC and Hugs, In His Love,

Gman5256

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Feb 21, 2009 2:40 am

Hi Misty;
I so very sorry for your loss. So many times you read a post and you just wish you could hold the person and make it all go away. Here is a BIG HUG from me. Your symptoms sound just like my anxiety and of course, how can you not feel the way you do after all that you have been through? Can I also make a couple more suggestions? There are other things that can exacerbate your anxiety and they did for me. One is, your adrenal glands can be worn out from the stress (have you checked your thyroid also?)and you may need some adrenal support. There is a test that you can do through the Broda Barnes Foundation to check out your whole system. They can provide information at 203-261-2101. Also, have you ever been told that you might possibly have the benign condition Mitral Valve Prolapse? Well, in times of stress you can have symptoms associated with this that are not widely recognized. There is a Mitral Valve Prolapse Syndrome and that can cause your symptoms or magnify them. If you google MVPS you will find some good information that will help you feel better. This was a problem for me that added to my anxiety and I had to find out on my own. I wish someone would have told me about these two things and I hope this helps you too.
Another BIG HUG, Beachcatt
P.S. Just googled MVPS. That won't work. Actually google Mitral Valve Prolapse Syndrome