Do you ever feel like noone helps u??

lau_von_c · Post by **lau_von_c** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 10:07 am

Sorry this is going to be a rant but if i dont have a moan ill explode on someone or burst into tears!!!
I am trying my damnest to feel better and it is exhausting! And it really annoys me (avoiding swearing lol) when I come home and my bf has a face on him like a smacked bottom because "he's tired" and my mum says things like "you better go round to your brother in laws tomorrow cause its his birthday, or u will have everyone talking about you" this REALLY doesnt help when one of my biggest problems is thinking ppl dont like me and talk about me!!

I just wanna get in the car and go for a drive before I totally lose it but I cant cause my bf is staying over tonight and he lives like 10 miles away. I can't deal with someone being lazy and miserable over a bit of tiredness and wanting their tea when I am going through mental hell and fight just to get dressed, look nice and put a chirpy face on!!

Sorry rant over.. had to express that x

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 10:16 am

and now im thnking "maybe i should break up with him" i know i love him but he is so involved with work recently and i feel like he is getting sick and tired of having a girlfriend with these problems. im 21 and in relationship with no cuddles, kisses or other stuff. i think its just making me dislike myself and my life even more, and maybe i would be better alone although being without him would break my heart ..

sorry again to moan i dont have anyone to talk to tho and feel it all building up in my throat x

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 10:21 am

and now my mum just forced herself into my room without knocking and when i asked her to get out she just went "youve got a problem you rly have" in a really mean voice.
im starting to think maybe what i think is in my head ie. the paranoia is not so much in my head and is more like real life?? thats what i think anyway

kvsdiva · Post by **kvsdiva** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 10:53 am

The self esteem lesson in the program will help you with feeling self conscious. You need to tell yourself "Who cares if someone talks about me"? There are going to be people that will talk about you, if you keep doing the program, you will get to that point where you wont care.

But it's another thing when you tell your mother to "get out of your room". Because it's HER house, it's really HER room. That's disrespectful to talk to your mother like that. That is the woman who takes care of you.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 11:27 am

I think we've all been there at one point or another. Once you start to get further in the program the "need" to get help outside of your self dimishes and you'll start to grow stronger and see you are the only one who can help you. You will also start to not care what other peple think (as Deedee has metioned). Although I know it's hard, try to over look these feelings. A lot of people in your life may actually have a hard time with you trying to change yourself. They mention that in the program as well. Try not to get discouraged, and keep going. You can always come here to vent any time!

Oh, I I love the doggy

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 11:54 am

hey deedee ,

i asked my mum to get out cause i was naked at the time but she just walks in on me every time. she doesnt look after me either. she probably has more issues than me, she just doesnt admit to it. she can be very nasty, however, whereas i am not

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Mar 25, 2008 2:45 am

Hi,

I CAN RELATE to all of your feelings, I am a little older but had the same issues with my mother also until I realized I couldnt have a relationship with her for awhile until I got my own head sorted out. Once I was able to separate my disorder from my feelings towards her, I began to build I relationship with her again. Not that I am suggesting that but I personally had to do that, perhaps you should evaluate and try and separate your feelings from hers..? just a thought..

Next, I agree 100% with Tammy, you will eventually see that what you are looking for you will not find as it does come from within YOU.. I struggle with this daily, I even spent 4 hours in the hospital yesterday begging for help and relief.. however, I am in a relationship that sounds like the same as yours.. although we've been living together common law for 4 years, there isnt much support from him, he also is a major workaholic.. I am always last on his list, however, I do know that when I am feeling better we are better when Im not we arent.. I am lost on that one as well!

I just wanted to relate and tell you, you arent alone

Best wishes and feel free to PM if ever necessary!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Mar 25, 2008 2:54 am

hey,

its so good to hear when ppl can relate to your situation. im moving out in september to study abroad for a year so i cant wait til i have my own space in a way.

my bf is a lovely guy he just doesnt deal with work stress well. i guess i just go really bad when he rejects me all the time but im not going to ititiate anymore cause i dont think the rejection is doing me any good at the moment!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Mar 25, 2008 9:34 am

Hello Lau.

I have a daughter your age and one close to your age, and I've had anxiety for over 15 years. If my daughters had ever spoken to me that way, THEY would have had a REAL problem with me. That's your mom, and if she lets you get away with treating her that way, you should be grateful.

Maeggie- It doesn't matter how old you are, you should NEVER treat your mother disrespectfully or condone it when people younger than you do.

Mau, you said that your mother has more problems than you, but Remember, you both have anxiety, and when or if you have children you may have children that treats you like you do your mother. And if you live in your mother's house, believe me, she IS looking after you.

NinjaFrodo · Post by **NinjaFrodo** » Tue Mar 25, 2008 1:32 pm

hey deedee

just to clear up because this has gone way out on a tangent, i didnt speak to her disrespectfully at all? maybe it seems that way in my post but i didnt, i just asked her to close the door because i was standing there naked doing somethng a bit embarassing to do with personal hygeine and that was that... my mum makes comments like that regardless of whether someone is disrespectful or not cause she's like that.
And it's not her house, it's actually mine