good or bad?

[KDlady]

In your opinion, is this a good thing showing growth or not so good?
I'm not experiencing big batches of anxiety much anymore, but have a blah, dragging bit of it every day that has a lot of disappointment, frustration, discouragement and unease. Now whenever I overreact to a feeling or thought, I tend to get mad and feel the above feelings. I'm expecting to be completely over this and when I think or feel how I don't want to, I overreact. I know I'm still stuck on expectations.

growth? am I stuck? suggestions?

I'm trying to underreact to anything I feel, because I see I'm scared of those feelings (sad, unease, disappointment, etc.), too.

[Guest]

No. Your perfection trait is rearing its head. I do that. If I have worked really hard on a homework issue that addresses one of my fall-downs, and I go on to next session, then have something come up, my first thought is that I have to go back and review and re-do that old homework ( , but I pull out my reminder card that says: I cannot have a feeling without first having a thought.
Basically, I thought I was not good enough, had to redo the previous homework. Feelings of being discouraged and disappointed followed. So. I realized, I am progressing. I caught the thought that made me feel bad, and I was able to just see it for what it was. A thought. And it wasn't even true.

[Guest]

so...no, you don't think it shows progress or no, you don't think I'm stuck?

I can hear my perfectionism talking to me and telling me that it's not perfect and not good enough yet. I want to be totally over this bad habit and it's not coming quickly enough. That's my problem area, I think.
I think you're saying you and I tend to not give ourselves credit for growth...yes?

[Guest]

I mean no, I don't think it shows lack of progress at all. You are obviously progressing in that you can sort this out at this level of specifics. And yes, you are correct, we don't give ourselves enough credit. So, today, maybe give yourself a B+. You did good.