sorry if this is a long story... but it here goes...
I can understand this. I've had a similar situation myself. Two things to remember are that because you don't see this man in your daily life you only see and hear the good abouthim you dn't see him a a reall person with flaws etc. He is an obsession in yor thoughts but not really a real person to you.
I think that if you put yourself in the place of his girlfriend it will also help. Imagine if you left your fiance to be with him and you were together and found out that he had a secret friend that he had feelings for. Imagine how hurt you would be. How would you feel about him then. You may need to actually sit down and meet with him in person in order to end the obsession. If you have a therapist you need to reveal this to him for help.
I think that if you put yourself in the place of his girlfriend it will also help. Imagine if you left your fiance to be with him and you were together and found out that he had a secret friend that he had feelings for. Imagine how hurt you would be. How would you feel about him then. You may need to actually sit down and meet with him in person in order to end the obsession. If you have a therapist you need to reveal this to him for help.
Jannnacle
jess,
it seems that you are torn between the two of them in one sentence you said your husband so that threw me off for a minute.
i know t hat you are going through alot and needs some answers. i have been in your shoes bt it has been awhile ago.i could write a book but i will let yo read my profile and it will help fill you in..
what youhave to decide s who you want to bewith and not drag the one that you aregoing with now through the mud.like the other one said your other friend that you have known you only know from what you heard and have not seen what he does in the back ground.if he is going with someone he might be trying to get with you to make the other one mad..
i do not know the real story but that is just my thoughts.i do not want to see you hurt. if the situation with him is what put you in the hospital look what it will do if you let go of the other one..
you are just starting the program. lucinda said do not make decisions while you are doing the progrm. i may be wrong but i thought she said that.
let things lie for awhile and see what happens. donot rush and make snap decisions..i hope that helps you some. let me know how you are doing and thanks for your time..be blessed
don
it seems that you are torn between the two of them in one sentence you said your husband so that threw me off for a minute.
i know t hat you are going through alot and needs some answers. i have been in your shoes bt it has been awhile ago.i could write a book but i will let yo read my profile and it will help fill you in..
what youhave to decide s who you want to bewith and not drag the one that you aregoing with now through the mud.like the other one said your other friend that you have known you only know from what you heard and have not seen what he does in the back ground.if he is going with someone he might be trying to get with you to make the other one mad..
i do not know the real story but that is just my thoughts.i do not want to see you hurt. if the situation with him is what put you in the hospital look what it will do if you let go of the other one..
you are just starting the program. lucinda said do not make decisions while you are doing the progrm. i may be wrong but i thought she said that.
let things lie for awhile and see what happens. donot rush and make snap decisions..i hope that helps you some. let me know how you are doing and thanks for your time..be blessed
don