Missing my Brown eyed girl!!!

o2Bme · Post by **o2Bme** » Tue Jan 13, 2009 7:34 am

I am on Session 4 and read Lucinda's letter she talked about the song Brown eyed girl. That was my song for my little girl that was killed by a drunk driver just 2 years ago. Now the flood gates are open and I can't stop crying. I miss her SO much.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jan 13, 2009 8:02 am

I am so so so sorry for your loss, there is no gerater loss than a loss of a child. It is funny how we relate to things, that was my nana's song as well she had the biggest brown eyes and when I read your post it reminded me of her, it will be one year on thursday. I will be praying for you, its great you started the program, it has helped me so much. I hope it will help you as well. Here is a big HUG ((())))

Debbie

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jan 13, 2009 8:06 am

*HUGS*

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jan 13, 2009 8:09 am

Thank you!!! I definately needed the hugs!!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jan 13, 2009 8:12 am

o2Bme. I am so sorry for your loss. Maybe you can look of it as a sign. That song was mentioned for a reason. Your little girl is still with you and I'm sure she wouldn't want to see you like this. I know its hard. I lost my mom when I was young. No it is not the same as loosing a child but I can still relate. There is no bond like a mother and child. I wish I could just give you a big hug. You know though, its okay to cry your eyes out. Let it out but then get up and pull yourself together and be strong.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jan 13, 2009 8:41 am

Whatever triggers strong emotion like that in regard to your loss is good grieving. Do not be afraid of it. Allow it to flow. It will come and go throughout your entire life. Welcome it. Embrace it. I recommend watching movies that make you cry and listening to songs that make you cry. Don't ever believe anyone who tells you that your grieving "should" be over at any given time. It does get easier but it will never be over. Allowing the tears to flow whenever they arise is healthy grieving. When the tears dry up, thank them and move on with your day.

My deepest sympathy for your loss. I understand this kind of pain.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jan 13, 2009 9:01 am

I dedicated that song to my wife 18 years ago, I play it loud and proud everytime she and I are in the car and it pops on the radio, just a glimmer of happiness
in an otherwise anxiety ridden life, i know this wont take away your pain but celebrate the life she had and celebrate that song as a gift

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jan 13, 2009 11:20 am

O2BMe - I am so sorry for your loss. We are here for you.

Lisa

Ld26angell · Post by **Ld26angell** » Wed Jan 21, 2009 1:42 am

Boon,
Thank you so much for your support. It's amazing how much better I feel after just letting myself cry, cry, cry...It is very healing. Trying to hold it in and be strong for my boys only created more anxiety. They see me cry and know it's okay to feel "yucky" and know that it is possible to pick yourself back up and move on. You have no idea the power your words have given me. Thank you again. Sha la la la la la la la la la la tida....