NOSTALGIA
I feel like my life is all about the past. like i always think about the past and miss it so much. i think too much , first off.. but i miss my old boyfriend... in fact.. since i always have nostalgia i keep going back to my ex's. it just feels comfortable. but right now i really miss my ex of 4 years. lived together in an apartment for 3 years...i miss the apartment, our cats, my old life..Jon. i am very depressed right now thinking of the past...its hard to move on cause i dont want to let go. My heart, it burns with sadness...i dont know.i need more sleep too.thanks all
"Come to me, all who are tired from carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest. (Matthew 11:28)"
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Hi Holly.
When we are stressed out we tend to seek comfort in the past and what we remember as good times, because it's familiar and makes us feel good. But what you have to realize is that our memories always create pictures that are more wonderful than the real thing actually was. Think about it; if the past happenings were so wonderful, you'd still be with those people and things.
When I was very anxious, I use to feel nostalgic a lot. I use to watch old music informercials from the 60s and 70s. I use to like that music back then but never really paid attention to it. I remember listening to it on the radio, but I never really knew who most of the singers were. But when I started feeling nostalgic, I'd sit and regret not listening to it and enjoying and appreciating it more back then. There was a real sadness in me about the music. I'd even try to get everyone around me to enjoy it too.
Although I was not even born when some of the music was recorded and a very young girl with the other music, I longed to see performances of the old music and use to watch them on channel 11 often. I'd also buy the cds. I felt like I had missed something. Maybe we miss certain things that we connect us with happier times in our lives.
As my anxiety got better, I began to see things more clearly and the nostalgia went away. I realized that I was just longing for something that made me feel good and I realized that the music sounded good; but not THAT good. I think that was because now, after I started feeling happy, I didn't need that music for my happiness anymore, therefore, I started seeing it just the way it was and I wasn't creating that false beauty of it.
It may sound strange but believe me it's common in people with anxiety and depression, and you're definitely not alone.
DeeDee.
When we are stressed out we tend to seek comfort in the past and what we remember as good times, because it's familiar and makes us feel good. But what you have to realize is that our memories always create pictures that are more wonderful than the real thing actually was. Think about it; if the past happenings were so wonderful, you'd still be with those people and things.
When I was very anxious, I use to feel nostalgic a lot. I use to watch old music informercials from the 60s and 70s. I use to like that music back then but never really paid attention to it. I remember listening to it on the radio, but I never really knew who most of the singers were. But when I started feeling nostalgic, I'd sit and regret not listening to it and enjoying and appreciating it more back then. There was a real sadness in me about the music. I'd even try to get everyone around me to enjoy it too.
Although I was not even born when some of the music was recorded and a very young girl with the other music, I longed to see performances of the old music and use to watch them on channel 11 often. I'd also buy the cds. I felt like I had missed something. Maybe we miss certain things that we connect us with happier times in our lives.
As my anxiety got better, I began to see things more clearly and the nostalgia went away. I realized that I was just longing for something that made me feel good and I realized that the music sounded good; but not THAT good. I think that was because now, after I started feeling happy, I didn't need that music for my happiness anymore, therefore, I started seeing it just the way it was and I wasn't creating that false beauty of it.
It may sound strange but believe me it's common in people with anxiety and depression, and you're definitely not alone.
DeeDee.
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Hey Holly,
I understand exactly how you feel. I have myself done the exact same thing, missing an old relationship, a home, animals and friends. While a good part of me knows that situation was left behind me for good reasons, I still find that I regret the loss of it.
I've started dating ex's again many times, and for years believed that I had loved one of my ex's so much it hurt to breath when I'd think about him. It wasn't healthy though, not for me, and not for you.
I decided to try going outside of my normal circle, the people I know and look elsewhere. I went to some conventions, made new friends and traveled a little. I met someone new, someone without the lingering history of prior relationships, and I wouldn't trade this one for anything.
I wish you many blessings and much love.
~AP
I understand exactly how you feel. I have myself done the exact same thing, missing an old relationship, a home, animals and friends. While a good part of me knows that situation was left behind me for good reasons, I still find that I regret the loss of it.
I've started dating ex's again many times, and for years believed that I had loved one of my ex's so much it hurt to breath when I'd think about him. It wasn't healthy though, not for me, and not for you.
I decided to try going outside of my normal circle, the people I know and look elsewhere. I went to some conventions, made new friends and traveled a little. I met someone new, someone without the lingering history of prior relationships, and I wouldn't trade this one for anything.
I wish you many blessings and much love.
~AP
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Holly,
I can definitely relate to how you feel. I always lived in the past and longed for it also. Every picture I would look at, every scent I smelled, etc. would remind me of something in my past that I longed for and then major depressing thoughts would follow right along with it. It happened to me everywhere I went and all the time. I couldn't even enjoy the outdoors or going to the beach because I was too effected by those nostalgic feelings/thoughts.
I am almost to session 4 now and I actually was able to go to the beach the other night for the first time ever without experiencing any major depression/nostalgia. I was shocked to be honest. The very same can happen to you, of that I am certain. Keep your head up and focus on what makes you happy. You will not fail.
Peace & Love
-Dustin
I can definitely relate to how you feel. I always lived in the past and longed for it also. Every picture I would look at, every scent I smelled, etc. would remind me of something in my past that I longed for and then major depressing thoughts would follow right along with it. It happened to me everywhere I went and all the time. I couldn't even enjoy the outdoors or going to the beach because I was too effected by those nostalgic feelings/thoughts.
I am almost to session 4 now and I actually was able to go to the beach the other night for the first time ever without experiencing any major depression/nostalgia. I was shocked to be honest. The very same can happen to you, of that I am certain. Keep your head up and focus on what makes you happy. You will not fail.
Peace & Love
-Dustin
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