scary thoughts

jp4life87 · Post by **jp4life87** » Wed Nov 12, 2008 9:51 am

some times i get scary thoughts of hurting myself i know i would never do that but why does this happen?? i love my life and my family and everything i would never wanna end my life

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Nov 12, 2008 10:16 am

I all too well understand as i spent 6 days this past week feeling that way. This time it was due to a medication I was taking but have been there other times during the past 40 years and all I can tell you is that for me it comes from just feeling so tired of all the physical pain and the inner sadness. I just feel I can't take it anymore. our lives can feel desperate at times but just believing that doing harm to ourselves is wrong and would cause so much pain to our loved ones generally keeps us from acting out. If you feel you can't stop the feelings and are worried about doing something it might be best to talk to your doctor or a helpline as they know what is the best way to treat this. You are amoung friends here and many are or have been where you are right now or have been in the past.
Please don't ever feel alone in this.

((((Hugs))))

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Nov 12, 2008 10:17 am

This is a very common fear among phobics - as well as hurting other people. If you can come to an understanding with yourself that the content of your thoughts is really not the issue, it will help you to dismiss these thoughts as quickly as they appear. Your emotional attachment to the thoughts is what keeps them coming back. You can actually have these thoughts without attaching to them. When this occurs they come and go like a passing cloud with you being completely unaffected by them. There are a number of exercises you can do to help speed this along and they are described in the program. Your ultimate goal is to dismiss them and move on with your day. Stop trying to find out the "why do I have these thoughts". We have very creative imaginations and conjur up all kinds of things. You are not in the present moment. The present moment is where you want to be. You resisting these thoughts (and trying to figure them out, which is also a form of resistance) keeps you from the present moment.

Practice watching your thoughts - like you would a passing cloud. They are not you. There is no need to entertain them. This takes time and practice and patience. People who are not phobic have these thoughts as well but they dismiss them, and that is what I am asking you to do. Let them come and go. The can not hurt you.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Nov 12, 2008 10:19 am

thank you monty it doesnt get that bad where i need professional help i have my pycitrist and pyscologist i could tell. i had said to them that it makes me nervous knowing that that is one of the side effects.

~*schnauzermom*~ · Post by **~*schnauzermom*~** » Wed Nov 12, 2008 10:20 am

of my medicine