Feeling sad and guilty for missing church

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Staying Positive
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Post by Staying Positive » Sun Apr 27, 2008 6:21 am

Hi, I just needed to get this out in the hopes it make me feel better. This is the second week I've missed church and it bothers me. I feel guilty about not going. :roll: The house has been sick and right now I'm the worst, but I still hear myself saying, "You still could've gone." I know deep inside that He understands that me and my little ones are sick, but the thoughts are still there. I guess I could be expecting too much of myself and some rest is exactly what I need to kick this cold and make it to church next week. Well, I guess any cheerful comments would be helpful, thanks for listening :)

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Post by Guest » Sun Apr 27, 2008 6:47 am

Hello Staying Positive!
I think you should be praising yourself for keeping that cold at home and not exposing many people in church. There are often Old people in church who have dreadful time with colds. And the infants.
There is no room for guilt in protecting those people at risk.
Compliment yourself.
I'm sure that God respects you for staying home with your babies.
One can worship God at home.
As someone wrote on here the other day: God lives in you, not at the church house.
You can call someone at their homes and share with them that you love the Lord. On the telephone.
Please don't feel guilty. since you did a very kind thing by staying home.
Bless you!
MaryJnae

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Post by Guest » Sun Apr 27, 2008 7:36 am

Remember that the true temple to God and Christ is in our hearts.

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Post by Guest » Sun Apr 27, 2008 8:17 am

thanks for the posts :)

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Post by Guest » Sun Apr 27, 2008 9:35 am

I feel bad about it too. I've missed more this year than I have in my whole life. I have missed b/c of my anxiety. It keeps changing though. I either don't want to go and feel trapped or I don't want to go and start obsessing over what is wrong with me. (I'm a hypochondriac.)

I know that God wants me to go to church and that I am only hurting myself by not going. It isn't like he will punish me for not going but I miss the fellowship with such loving people and I miss the encouragment. It makes me sad that I let anxiety stop me from doing things I love and want to do.

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Post by Guest » Sun Apr 27, 2008 9:47 am

Hi, last year when I first started having the attacks, my body was so weak and fatigued I couldn't do much of anything. I had to miss Mass for about two or three months; and then when I was able to start functioning again, I had to fight the fear and make myself stay inside church. Sometimes I couldn't do it and had to leave. Up until last Sunday (almost a year later), I decided I had put too much on my plate for Sundays. I usually go to church and then do grocery shopping afterwards. Yesterday I decided to go to Saturday Mass instead. It's later in the evening and less people go at that time of the day. My anxiety level is more susceptible during the morning hours rather than the evening. It worked out much better. I will also do my shopping later this week instead of doing it all on Sunday. Hopefully I can come up with more things to relieve the anxiety.

Jendaysxo247
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Post by Jendaysxo247 » Sun Apr 27, 2008 10:21 am

I do agree with Cornflower and Artistguy.God does live within us. We can talk to God any time any where. Louie Angelone

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Post by Guest » Sun Apr 27, 2008 11:52 am

CornFlower and Artistguy are correct. The truth of how you love and cherish God is in your heart! He looks in your heart. Guilt plays tricks on us, it is part of anxiety. In the matter of attendance because the scripture says not forsake the gathering, but if you think about this it means Don't stay away from church forever. This same thing of attendance can become legalism too quickly, therefore putting us in the 'works' mode rather than being saved by the Blood of Christ and we knkow we are not Saved by Works!
I speak all this from my own experience because I used to stay so tied up with guilt of the scriptures, but once I learned the truth of how I had mis-read the scriptures I listened to the words of Jesus, 'Seek and you shall find' and also 'To set at liberty those who are oppressed', also 'For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. And by him we cry, "Abba, Father."
That says it all dosen't it? God has put us under the Blood Covenant for FREEDOM NOT BONDAGE!

Take care,
Rod

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Post by Guest » Sun Apr 27, 2008 12:37 pm

Shakey Susie, you and I are in the same booat. I have missed church most of this year because of anxiety. I feel so guilty and of course my mother doesn't help. I have gone once to a funeral and did well. but that was for a boss at work not a real loved one. What if someone in my family dies, I don't know that I could handle that let alone going to a funeral.
I feel like I can't handle sitting still for an hour, I feel like I'm trapped. Does anyone else feel this way? How can I stop it. I am doing alot better at work. I just can't be in a situation I can't control. Like I said, I feel trapped sitting still surrounded by people.

Are we being silly or what. It just occured to me, church should be the safest place there is, right! You don't even have to talk to people. Like my mother says, you just sit there for an hour. I think I will try this Sat., Maybe that will be easier. Good luck to you and GOD BLESS!!! :)

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Post by Guest » Sun Apr 27, 2008 3:26 pm

You might could watch a service on tv if you have to miss. There are some really good tv preachers out there.

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