Dear Diary

[tina martin]

Go for it, go for it. If you don't get it, fine. There can be any number of reasons why you might not get it, none of which is likely to be personal. People who succeed are people who prevail. They try, maybe don't make it; they try again. This is what makes a person stronger. You know I support whatever you decide; just my 2 cents.

Can you go into another room if the snoring bothers you? I sleep through lightning, thunder, hail, downpours, trees cracking. Never remember dreams either. Not normal I suspect, but so it is. Love...........T

[bunny rabbit]

Hi Tina: I say go for the job. There is no failure except for the failure to not trying. You are qualified. This is what you want. Life is so very very short. I am so well aware of that with 3 recent deaths close to me. I can't look back on my life and say "If only", or "If it weren't for ...... I would have.....".

I'm taking a week or more off the program to do the hard work of mourning my loss of my best friend in all the world. I'll keep doing the relaxation tape but I need to focus on healing from grief right now. I'll keep you posted. Love and Blessings from Bunny

[Loveslife]

Dear Diary,
I made the call. I called the director of volunteers and director of hospital development (one person) and told her that I was interested in the job. I told her my concerns but that I wanted to apply and "go for it".

She was very receptive and honest. She told me that it is a great fit for me but that there has been a volunteer handling the position for 6 months, who has also applied. She is going to call the Head of Hospital Development and let him know that I am going to apply and sort of feel him out. I told her that I would hate for my supervisor to hear that I applied for the position from anyone other then me, and she agrees. I think the volunteer will get the job, but either way, I am still going for it and Karen, the women I spoke with thinks it's great. She is going to phone me after she has the convo with the head of development.

I've filled out my application and will turn it in once I receive the green light from Karen. (this is tricky, as we don't want my supervisor to know, etc.)

Thank you for the push....THANK YOU AGAIN. I WOULDN'T HAVE MADE THE CALL IF I HAD NOT READ TINA'S NOTE.

So, I probably won't get the job, but now they know how I feel and am determined to move forward.

It's a win/win, even if I lose.

Love,
J.

[tina martin]

Hi Bunny. Your message is for Loveslife which was also my message to her. So sorry for your losses. Do attend to your grief. Relaxation, meditation, time all help a great deal. Best to you.

J, that's the way to look at it. Not sure about supervisor no knowing. My general rule is, no secrets. Things tend to leak out. But your judgment comes into play too. It would almost stand to reason that the person doing the job might get it. Fine. You've put HR on notice you are interested and something will come through.

This is a lot of responsibility, wah, wah, wah. I'm just cry baby, he,he, as R might say. Love...........T

[seniyajw]

I'm not involved, so I did not have much control. My most important responsibility I have is to keep the house and yard. But still no control over what happens in the house or yard, and is part of why I'm here. It is only because of family relationships, to work on ... or we can trudge along.

All about gold:Cheap Tera Gold Tera Gold

[Loveslife]

Dear Diary,
Well, my youngest daughter has been being abused by her former boy friend since last december. He has broken down her door, she changed the locks. His voice messages are vile, he broke into her place in the middle of the night and pushed her around.
On and on and on.
She just told me about it. She went to the police station, filed a report, and we are going to the court house to have the restraining order put in place. I'm proud of her. She is a very strong girl.
Love,
Me.
PS
Thank God she is doing the smart thing.

[tina martin]

This is awful to read, J. So horrible for her. But she stood up for herself and has taken action. That's what counts. It could happen to anyone. There are slick creatures in this world who can fool and entrap anyone.

She will emerge a new, strong person, a better reader of others. Your support is wonderful, Love.........T

[bunny rabbit]

Dear J: Your post brought back memories of when my son was in an abusive relationship. My first question after the dust settled is "Why were you attracted to this person? What was it about her that caused you to stay in an abusive relationship? What were the red flags that you ignored?" My son was attracted to the same type of woman that a relative who he takes after married. It was uncanny. These were both women who were extremely angry. Fortunately the engagement ended for my son when this girl attacked him and then phoned the police when my son used his karate training to defend himself. The flesh was torn off his arm and he ended up in the police car. It was horrible. A week or too later she was all sweetness and light doing everything in her power to manipulate him back into the relationship. Wow!!! She was a master manipulator. It was so difficult for me to stand back and watch this drama unfold without getting involved by telling him he needed to break up with her. He needed to find that on his own. Blessings from Bunny

[Paisleegreen]

I'm sorry to hear about the news of you DD, J. I hope things get better for her.
Bunny-I appreciate your comments about grief. I've lost a son to suicide, father to Lymphoma, mother to devastating stroke, two sis in laws to breast cancer, MiLaw to Leukemia, and more. I'm not afraid of dying, it is the pain before dying.

I only fear not getting things done at home before I leave this earth. I would like to have things in "order" and find it is harder as I'm aging. I'm not as disciplined as I use to be and I think part of that is due to grief and partly b/c family members are thwarting my efforts to organize myself.

Otherwise, I'm plugging away, realizing that time is a luxury I don't want to waste on past interests. Bunny, I've also had dreams of my son and he was happy. He comforts me when needed as well as the Comforter.

J I hope you get the job. And as for hubby's snoring, that is why mine sleeps in the guest room. It has caused all kinds of havoc as you know, but all he has to do is see a Dr and see what he has to say about his snoring and/or get rid of the server in the guest room that disturbs me and buy me the twin or queen bed I wanted in the first place before he went and bought a king size used bed from Craig's list.

We have different schedules for sleeping anyway. Paislee

[bunny rabbit]

The Grief Journey Continues: If people could see me bleeding to death they would certainly be a lot more loving, supportive, kinder and sympathetic but because I am bleeding emotionally they expect me to go on as normal. My mother said "You're still sad", four days after my best friend in all the world died. If grief is everywhere and we all go through it, why don't people get it? Why do they have to say such lame comments as "keep your chin up", or "well she was old, her death was expected", in other words it's not that bad. Why can't people just say "I am so very sorry for your loss and keep it at that". Instead they want to discount, minimize, avoid me all together, or worse. My father often repeated over and over again before he died in his dementia "When you laugh the whole world laughs with you, when you cry you cry alone". I guess that's why online support groups are the success they are. Blessings from Bunny