How Do You Deal with Disappointment, Frustration, Feeling Down, Minimal Expectations

manofmusic · Post by **manofmusic** » Fri May 07, 2010 10:11 am

Hey Chuck !

I read that in our newspaper online today ! It seems like it's one thing after another. There will be a heavy police presence there from now on ! Are you close to Times Square ????

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Fri May 07, 2010 11:27 am

Hey man, thanks for checking in.

No, I am not near Times Square. While watching the incident unfold on the TV, I recalled one or two companies that I applied to that were on Broadway near Times Square.

They never replied.

Terrorists can hit anywhere, but I prefer not being in/being in as little as possible one of their target areas. Unfortunately, the borough of Manhattan is still tops on their list.

manofmusic · Post by **manofmusic** » Wed May 12, 2010 10:34 am

Hey Chuck !

It's been a little while. Hope you're keeping your spirits up ! Have you been slipping and sliding around the apartment ?

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Wed May 12, 2010 1:02 pm

Originally posted by manofmusic:
Hey Chuck !

It's been a little while. Hope you're keeping your spirits up ! Have you been slipping and sliding around the apartment ?

You can slip and slide--but are you wearing the threads?

My spirits have been neither up or down, if you can believe it. I guess if I'm not down, that's good. I've been putzing around with graphics, flash files, and another part of my project.

No responses yet. Tomorrow I am hitting a bunch of personnel agencies in the 'burbs for temp work.

Actually I am up about being down--my weight. I've been losing 2-3 pounds a month since the start of the year. I am now 200. Fifteen or twenty more to go. I've been applying stuff from my glycemic diet book and getting more consistent with aerobics.

Hope all is good with you.

manofmusic · Post by **manofmusic** » Mon May 17, 2010 1:43 pm

I'm watching my weight too. I've been doing a lot of work out in the front and back yard. Better than going to the gym, I think. I've said that I want to be at the weight I need to be by the end of the year. That gives me time to lose it slow. I make sure to eat right, stay away from the restaurants as much as possible and drink plenty of water and get the exercise in.

All is pretty much the same ol' same ol'. That's ok for me for now.

I got the summer course book in the mailbox today for night courses at the college. This is it Chuck !!!!! I'm going to go thru it and see what it offers. The course book is much thinner that the one in September, but it's a really good start.

How's the job hunting going with you ? Doing much sliding lately ????

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Tue May 18, 2010 6:38 am

Originally posted by manofmusic:
I'm watching my weight too. I've been doing a lot of work out in the front and back yard. Better than going to the gym, I think. I've said that I want to be at the weight I need to be by the end of the year. That gives me time to lose it slow. I make sure to eat right, stay away from the restaurants as much as possible and drink plenty of water and get the exercise in.

All is pretty much the same ol' same ol'. That's ok for me for now.

I got the summer course book in the mailbox today for night courses at the college. This is it Chuck !!!!! I'm going to go thru it and see what it offers. The course book is much thinner that the one in September, but it's a really good start.

How's the job hunting going with you ? Doing much sliding lately ????

Hey! If you can get a workout at home/in the yard and save money--that definitely works! Eating right and water are definitely key. I've enjoying alot of fish: tuna and salmon, and veggies.

Awwwwesome on getting the course book

! I kind of know about slim pickings in terms of thickness. When I've bought the Sunday news paper, the want-ads are sooooo much thinner than they used to be.

My spirits actually dropped a few hours after my last post. They remained down for the next day, but then the following day they were back up and have remained up (sometimes neutral but never down). I just recognized that we--all people, those with and without anxiety and depression--all have downer days. Like that old song says: Mamma said they're would be days like this.

I also recognized the valid source for being down. Other than reading constantly a scripture on trusting God, I really didn't do anything. My disappointment kind of worked itself out. I am glad it lasted only a day. (They should always be like this: quick and self-repairing.

)

I am going to a job fair tomorrow. Then my wife and I are spending Thursday thru Sunday at my brother-in-law's.

P.S. I just read Pfizer is trimming six thousand and closing 8 plants worldwide.

P.S.S. I heard the Times Square terrorist was also targeting Rockefeller Center, Grand Central and two other NY locations. Funny: One company I applied for is 4 blocks from Grand Central, and I had applied for another sales gig whose company is in Rock Center. I mention this because, again, perhaps it was just as well I didn't get a Manhattan sales job.

can'tdanceandcan'trelax · Post by **can'tdanceandcan'trelax** » Tue May 18, 2010 6:02 pm

Hello Charlie Brown! Just checking in - I believe something wonderful is in store for you, it will come. You sound like you are doing really well and not letting things get you down. Yay you! I'm very glad you didn't get any of those jobs...... we CANNOT have you blown to smithereens! I repeat myself, something just for you will come along, hang in there!

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Tue May 18, 2010 10:50 pm

Originally posted by can'tdanceandcan'trelax:
Hello Charlie Brown! Just checking in - I believe something wonderful is in store for you, it will come. You sound like you are doing really well and not letting things get you down. Yay you! I'm very glad you didn't get any of those jobs...... we CANNOT have you blown to smithereens! I repeat myself, something just for you will come along, hang in there!

Thank you sooooooooooooooooooooooo much, can'tdanceandcan'trelax!

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Mon May 24, 2010 5:22 am

I am back being down and emotional exhausted.

Unfortunately larges chunks of Friday and Saturday sucked. Alot of this was my feeling bad about my money situation, and my project not working out. There were also children issues. Saturday evening I left my brother-in-law's by myself. My wife wanted to come home with me, but I told her I needed to be alone. She had a very, very minuscule part of the weekend going in the crapper, but that isn't why I returned home solo. When I am upset I need and want to be by myself.

Sometimes I wished I lived alone on a desert island or in a cabin. Very very often, I need a break from people.

Saturday night I was glad the Yankee game was on. It was therapy for me. I crashed early and barely went online yesterday. My wife came home yesterday, and I let out my feelings about the weekend. I am still emotionally exhausted.

I also got an email today from the recruiter from my last company concerning the interviews I did. They went with someone else. It figures.

manofmusic · Post by **manofmusic** » Mon May 24, 2010 7:45 am

I know what you mean Chuck. Sometimes a desert island (where money doesn't matter) sounds like a plan. When some people get into a depression, they like to spread it around, but some people like us like to get as far away from it all as possible. I said it before that I'm grateful to have a job, but there were times where I was out of a job and when it happened, it felt like I was the only one in the world without a job. It felt like no one else understood. .....know what I mean ?

This weekend is the Canadian long weekend. Yours is next weekend. Maybe this week, plan out something you and your better half can do this coming weekend. Keep your sights set on something positive. We can really run ourselves down with our thoughts. It can make us feel tired and depressed. Just focus on the positive stuff. There really is positive stuff out there that you can focus on.

Just breathe Chuck.