Extreme Anxiety (11 weeks postpartum)

[Andreadreams]

dreaming good -- It sounds as if you have a lot on your plate right now. I am a mother of 3 -- 5 and under -- and personally, I would hold off a bit until you get these other things taken care of. I say that because having a baby is such a life altering event -- it is a positive one, but I think you would enjoy it more if things were running a bit smoothly, especially between you and your hubby. But, it is quite normal to have the concerns you have. It is good to look at everything because having a baby affects everything. Maybe take one situation at a time and see what you can come up with to resolve it or make you feel better about it instead of trying to tackle everything at once. Maybe something like this week work with your husband and see how things can be better there; next week or even next month, work on a plan for childcare when you have to go back to work; and so forth. Take "baby steps". Your anxiety about being a good mother -- that's a toughy. I am a mother and I am still very anxious about that. I have days where I just feel like a complete failure, but then there are days that I feel like I can pat myself on the back. That just never goes away -- I think any good mother worries about being a good mother, does that make sense? Thus, I think you will be a good Mommy.