Sex!!!!!!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Mar 08, 2008 9:34 am

Cuttingirl: I am that EXACT same way. I thought that I was alone. I feel disgusted at sex and sometimes i do it even though I am not in the mood and its just awkward and uncomfortable. I hate it. and I don't know what to do!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Mar 08, 2008 12:03 pm

I think a lot of people use porn and sex as a way to get away from the fear and thoughts they go through on a daily basis. I found this is pretty common with people that have anxiety disorder.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Mar 08, 2008 12:09 pm

Ronda,

I don't think you read correctly. I said A LOT OF MEN AND WOMEN. And that's true no matter how much you don't want to believe it. I don't think i'm scaring men, I think it scares you. Maybe now you're probably questing your man, which was not my purpose, but it makes you feel uncomfortable. There's so many different kinds of people in the world.

I'm not talking about the pervert that may be standing on the side of the road watching children. I 'm talking about perverts-not pedophiles. Watching pornos are perverted. A pervert is a person that has perverse thoughts or does perverted things. A regular person can have pervese thoughts but a pervert enjoys his perversion. And going out and buying a porno and watching it, is enjoying and, reveling in your perversion - so that makes you a pervert.

Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying that all perverts are bad people. They are just doing what works for them. I love my boyfriend. He is a good and faithful man. And he let's me get away with everything.

He's a wonderful man. But he is perverted. And so is a lot of other men and women out in this lovely world.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Mar 08, 2008 12:22 pm

Originally posted by Mr. Positive:
I think a lot of people use porn and sex as a way to get away from the fear and thoughts they go through on a daily basis. I found this is pretty common with people that have anxiety disorder.

Sometimes I wish that was the case with me and I'm sure the fiancee would agree! It is weird how anxiety messes with us all in different ways. Some people recoil from sex, some gravitate towards it. I guess we're just all different.

EddyJ · Post by **EddyJ** » Sat Mar 08, 2008 2:54 pm

what if it never comes back? I try to explain to my boyfriend that its my anxiety and depression. he tries to understand but not always. I feel like there is this distance between us. Is this what its goin to be like?? sex should be enjoyable not to do it just to keep the relationship alive

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Mar 09, 2008 6:42 am

Originally posted by Mr. Positive:
I think a lot of people use porn and sex as a way to get away from the fear and thoughts they go through on a daily basis. I found this is pretty common with people that have anxiety disorder.

Exactly what I find myself doing. :u/

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Mar 09, 2008 8:34 am

Hey Dee Dee, I guess that our perspective on this is different! That's totally cool. To me, being a pervert is doing things that are 'un-natural' when compared to the majority of the world, so using the word 'pervert' doesn't (to me) apply to guys minds wandering to sex, thinking about sex regularly, or watching the occaisional bit of porn. I don't see anything abnormal in that.

Nope - no worries, I'm not concerned about my husband, or thinking anything differently about the men in my past because of anything you've said. I'm pretty confident about my interpretations of them.

I think what we're both trying to say is that there is stuff that falls within the realms of 'normal' and stuff that doesn't. Sometimes our brains get twisted around with the condition and it makes it harder to see things as 'normal' or behave in a way we think we should to be 'normal'.

The long and short of it is that your sex drive is related to having the condition for so many of us and by working on getting better the sex drive will return, normalize or stabilize.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Mar 09, 2008 9:45 am

Hi Ronda.

My sex drive is NOT a problem. MY SEX DRIVE IS GREAT!

and always has been, even when I was in my most anxious state.

Ronda,

I don't think you understand me, What I meant was that "perverts" go way too far with their actions. I think that others like jugray understood what I was trying to say.

Perverts go to the extreme in bed. That was what jugray and I were talking about. They start off doing some thing out of the ordinary and it progresses and gets stranger. So It's not all about watching porn.

I've watched pornos before but I never took it to an extreme. A lot of people hide out and secretly watch them away from their partners. They are obsessive with it. It's like a drug or alcohol addiction to them. Even if their patrners feel uncomfortable with it, they still cannot stop or even slow down with it. We all know what i'm talking about.

We tend to worry about things way too much here when we need to just learn to accept life and people as they come and also, we need to see people for who they are, that way we're not caught off guard when they do strange things. But only allow as much "weirdness" in your life as you feel you can handle.

Ronda, lighten up! I'm not trying to make you feel bad. Relax!

DeeDee.