ALEXSEI521: I am so happy you're doing what you can do to recover. I'd like to comment on 1 thing in particular that you said. You stated, <span class="ev_code_RED">"I did go to see a counselor and was told counseling would be a long drawn out process that would be difficult and probably not worth it since I have children and a husband to take care of. So that's out for me."</span>I don't know any counselor/therapist that would ever dare say something like that. Whoever told you that, if it was a counselor, should not be a counselor. Whoever told you that is MEDICALLY irresponsible & dead wrong -BIG TIME. How is RECOVERY not worth it? Sure, your married & a mom(God bless by the way) - is your health & totally being & existence contingent only on them? Yes you have responsibilite - however what about you? What about you taking care of you & what you need? I'm sure you're a great wife & mama - however, if you don't take care of yourself & do WHAT YOU NEED TO DO FOR YOU TO "RECOVER" FIRST, how can you be a good wife & mama? You say you were told "not worth it cause I have a hubby & children to take care of", that is wrong: while we all have responsibilites in life that require a very delicate balance - RECOVERY NEEDS TO BE A PRIORITY & IF YOU HAVE ISSUES OR PAST EVENTS THAT REQUIRE THE HELP OF A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL(therapist or counselor) - then that is what you need to do. Your health & mental/emotional well being should NOT be contingent on what your children & hubby need FIRST & ALWAYS. You need to take care of you too. Finally, <span class="ev_code_RED">there are issues that reach beyond the scope of this program - that which require the asst of a medical profess - such as a counselor or therapist. Let's say for example, you had SUCH ISSUES - you could read all the books in the world til the cows come home - that will not get you resolution in addressing these things. </span>Pls know, by no means am I implying books aren't great - they are: YOU ARE DOING GREAT THINGS - however, there are some events & issues that have emotional ramifications on us(events fr past - like childhood, etc) that require help beyond BOOKS & THIS PROGRAM. I needed to go to therapy for 20 intensive mths b/4 I was even ready for the program: all based on trauma I had experienced in childhood. JUST AS YOU NOTED & what I later learned - had I not addressed these events 1st - they would regurgitate themselves. I needed to separate the former victim I was THEN vs the woman I am NOW - so I could distinguish, separate, acknowledge, address, deal, heal & let go - THEN I COULD CHANGE MYSELF. Yes, I am married as well(10 yrs) - I haven't been blessed w/ children as of yet - UP TO GOD - LOL, I SAY MEN/HUSBANDS ARE 1/2 CHILD = TRAINING FOR WIVES TO BECOME MAMA'S Lol hahahahha. <span class="ev_code_RED">It was THERAPY + JOURNALING + RESEARCH: reading 16 books + LUCINDA'S PROGRAM - that allowed me to recover. Therapy & program(50% equally) are the reasons I am recovered - no more or less.</span>Of course it would be times consuming & hard. Respectfully, I don't know how old you are, but if you experienced for EXAMPLE ONLY several yrs of hurts/pains/sad-bad events in the past & lets say now you're 30(just a guess sweetie) - how on God's green earth would you expect to address THESE CUMULATIVE yrs of events & all respective surpressed emotions - overnight? It is hard, long, & yes very very painful - IS IT MORE PAINFUL THAN HOLD ON TO THESE THINGS & NOT ADDRESSING THEM ACCORDINGLY? I say no.
LUCINDA'S PROGRAM:
This program is a life saver, worth every penney & the absolute best investment you could make in yourself. You want to empower yourself? Purchase this program. This program SPELLS IT OUT so to speak. This program told me everything I didn't want to hear but all I DESPERATELY NEEDED TO HEAR. I obtained knowledge about the personalities traits condusive to anxiety disorder - MY PERSONALITY: she was so dead on, you'd swear Lucinda was my neighbor - honest folks: she explains the WHY'S. This is KEY - so you learn YOU ARE CREATING IT & YOU HAVE CONTROL/POWER OVER IT - it can't hurt you. You learn, IT IS A SERIES OF NEGATIVE LEARNED BEHAVIORS - if they are learned - they can be UNLEARNED as Carolyn says in the program. Then, as you are obtaining all this wealth of knowledge - you are also simultaneously LEARNING SKILLS to help you through heightened anxiety or a panic attack: THOSE SKILLS ARE PRICELESS. Combine both, you initiate CHANGE W/IN YOURSELF - It is all those things that lead to recovery.
Recovery isn't easy - it is hard fought - lots of work & just when you think you have done enough, it requires more. It is slow, methodical. I'm amazed - that folks(I was 1 of them prior to recovery) assume they should be able to rid themselves of yrs & yrs & yrs of neg learned behaviors in LIKE YESTERDAY - how? Is it painful? Is it hard? Is it frustrating? Yes, all those things & more. NOT MORE THAN HAVING DONE NOTHING @ ALL - Anxiety disorder @ its worst for me was HELL ON EARTH - inhibiting, paralizing, life restricting fear. Any thing I have done was worth NOT BEING IN THAT PLACE ANY MORE - I got there w/ the help of this program.
LENORE
