i need help, im soo confused?

Gman5256 · Post by **Gman5256** » Wed Feb 06, 2008 5:08 pm

LEEANN - Hang in there Leeann. We're all in this together. The important positive thing to focus on is that your tests came back normal. You're good! And you're right, in part the anxiety is what got you sick but in reality...it was you that got you sick. I'm just realizing this...we are our own enemy. We need to change our way of thinking and realize that anxiety will NOT hurt us. It will pass.

ANGELACHRISS - Hang in there girl. Lenore's message really is an inspiration to us all. One thing that I hope you can get through after reading your posts is that meds are ok and can help you get better. Remember, if it's a chemical imbalance there is nothing you can do physically to become better and may need the meds to balance you out. I can, however, appreciate your concern about becoming addicted. Just a thought.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Feb 07, 2008 3:15 am

I saw all your comments and I felt I can get help from all of you;

I have the program about 2 yrs ago and I did hear all the sessions and sometimes i hear them again and again, and I have been taking lexapro for 2 yrs and i have been learning and doing better, but I scared my self because in my work I was going to travel alone and the symtoms appeared and the climbed more and more and finally the trip wqas cancelled and my symtoms got worse so I am trying to calm down but is very hard, i feel i can't move on, i needed to take some relaxing pills just a little dose, but i feel tired at work I can not concentrate and i am falling asleep in front of my Computer, do you have any advice? I do not want to lose my faith, cause this is horrible.

God bless us all!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Feb 07, 2008 9:18 am

thank you so much M,
i do have to get it through my thick skull. im trying real hard. i did it before, i know i can do it again. its just hard, but im very thankful this time around, i know of this program and i know im not alone. thank you

LeeAnne, i know what its like to delay dr. visits. i did the same thing too. i survived breast cancer, a car accident, and back then, i dont remember having this anxiety. everyone around me said i was so strong, for dealing with this at a young age (21). but now, i dont mind going to the dr. (only if i know why im going), if i have to go and i DONT know whats wrong, the anxiety flares..i delayed my mammogram, for 2yrs. and regular check ups. and when i did it, to find out im fine/ok. i feel better. but this anxiety doesnt seem to go away. i know im young and healthy, but it doesnt seem to click yet. and i know its anxiety thats keeping me down and sick, and very irritable. in time i know its going to pass, but life lessons arent easy. thank you

Joe~ i know meds are ok. but for me, its more mental, meaning, i wanna know im having these symptoms BEFORE, i take meds. if meds are my only options, then i will definetly consider it. but all i hear from everyone including dr.s is that its anxiety and stress. and that there are cures without meds. and thats what im doing now. but definetly, unless i hear otherwise, and that the only cure for anxiety is meds. then ill take them.

Villik~ i feel u too, i know what its like to be one minute fine and feeling good, free of anxiety, then it hits back agian, if not worst. i dont recall having anxiety, til 2003, it hit hard (panic atttack) it took a couple of months of therapy, and home remedies to help me. and it did, then in dec of 2006 it hit again, this time worst. and i been dealing with it since, it comes and goes. i was doing good for 2 months on the program,, then i had a downward spiral. there was something that triggered our symptoms. in your case, what was it about the flight that scared you. and knowing it was cancelled, did it make u feel a lil bit better.. i will admit it is hard to shake off the symptoms. all i can really say is listen to the program agian. and continue the breathing.. are u continuing to exercise, watch what u eat, jounaling, relaxation? if not see what ur doing differently then before. u find ur answer. as far as meds. i dont like them. i try to avoid as much as possible. but hey do what ever makes u feel good. ok. try to find other remedies as far as falling asleep.. read a book listen to soft music, or warm milk(ewww). but u got the idea. good luck ok..

thanks again to all of you for your help and support. much love, and god bless..

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Feb 07, 2008 10:54 am

Thanks i found out something that made me disconect from my anxiety and see it in the front of my face, I felt how the anxiety went away when I realized that if I did the job I need to do it was like magic it melt, and now I can say that my fear and anxiety is because i do not want to fail in my new job situation and that infaltes the fear of traveling and being alone, strange but true, everybody look at the reason in the back, to see what are you trying not to deal with.

Thanks to all and the Lord is my light and my salvation

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Feb 08, 2008 1:30 am

Originally posted by ~*schnauzermom*~:
I tried other methods before relying on my PhD to fix me, my husband and family to bump me along, friends to support me, but I found that NO ONE could fix me but me.

I'm starting to realize this. I'm relying on others too much to help me feel better. I need to learn to rely on myself. And, for some reason that's the hardest part for me. At church they set me up in a mentor program but decided to have me be the mentor and it freaked me out. I didn't think I could be a mentor to anyone. After awhile we found we both have panic attacks but she's doing well so she's been supporting me.

does a guilty concience affect anxiety?

Then I feel guilty for doing that because I'm supposed to be her mentor! She says I do mentor her on other things and that it is fine but the guilt I feel about it is not helping my anxiety. I also feel guilt about having to work and not be home with the kids. . seems I feel guilty about a lot of things like you mentioned and that makes it worse!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Feb 12, 2008 1:06 pm

I'm starting to realize this. I'm relying on others too much to help me feel better. I need to learn to rely on myself. And, for some reason that's the hardest part for me. At church they set me up in a mentor program but decided to have me be the mentor and it freaked me out. I didn't think I could be a mentor to anyone. After awhile we found we both have panic attacks but she's doing well so she's been supporting me.

It is great to have someone with you that understands that can give you that vote of confidence that we at times need when things just seem unbearable, but YES in the end it is all up to us to fix us. It is the thinking we do that breaks us or makes us. Chris, soothe yourself like you soothe your children after they fall off their bike or when they get into a disagreement with their best friend. I KNOW you are a GREAT mother...use some of that mom magic on YOU for a change! I thought all that soothe the inner child was a bunch of bunk. My old therapist had me do that and it worked. Close your eyes and talk to yourself like you talk to your child then they are hurting. I bet you are a wonderful mentor at church!