I couldn't help but to see your post and feel somewhat connected to it myself. I am on my 4th marriage. I feel your pain. Good luck to you.Time for a Change - Wanting to leave my Fiance'
-
Guest
Wow. How can men get away with this stuff?? a part of me feels embarassed that I've stayed through all of this, but like I said earlier, I never realized the severity of my situation until I started to talk about it.
You only hear about stuff like this (men living double and tripple lives) on lifetime. I feel like I can make my own movie!
Misty
You only hear about stuff like this (men living double and tripple lives) on lifetime. I feel like I can make my own movie!
Misty
"O God, you are my God. Earnestly I seek you;my soul thirsts for you, my body longs for you, in a dry and weary land where there is no water. I have seen you in the sanctuary and beheld your power and your glory. Because your love is BETTER than life,my lips will glorify you. I will praise you as long as I live, and in your name, I will lift up my hands." Psalms 63
-
Guest
Hi Misty. Don't feel bad "you live and you learn", just don't keep making the same mistakes. I can write a book with all of the people that I know who's been in and who's still in this kind of relationship. But like I said before sometimes they end tragic so get away from this man. My friend and my sister.s friend were in triangles where at least one person was killed. These people are "control freaks", they like to have EVERYTHING their way and sometmes when they can't have things naturally their way, they can't handle that so they try to MAKE things the way they want them to be.
I'm not saying that this will happen to you but you cannot trust people like him. You've probably never REALLY known him anyway.
DeeDee.
I'm not saying that this will happen to you but you cannot trust people like him. You've probably never REALLY known him anyway.
DeeDee.
-
Guest
Misty,
I really sorry you are going through this. I know it hurts. I know I was too trusting and willing, and forgiving and blind...shall I go on?
We all go through these kinds or similar situations. I went through MANY jerks before I met my husband of 10 years. SO many lonely nights, heartbreaks, lies, games...it is something we live and learn from. My husband had to work hard to prove to me he was worthy of me..my time, my love, my commitment to him. This was after several serious relationships and living with someone, I told myself NEVER again! I lived and I learned. I learned to love myself first and NOT to take second best. I learned I rather be alone than settle just to be with someone. I rather not hurt anymore. I saw I offered nothing less than second to none to anyone I was with and eventually found someone that feels the same. It takes time. Hurts to dump something familiar, but for me it was for the better. Good things are around the corner...keep walking and do NOT turn back. Lose this joker!I have to TOTALLY agree with DeeDee...You probably never REALLY knew him anyway.
I really sorry you are going through this. I know it hurts. I know I was too trusting and willing, and forgiving and blind...shall I go on?
We all go through these kinds or similar situations. I went through MANY jerks before I met my husband of 10 years. SO many lonely nights, heartbreaks, lies, games...it is something we live and learn from. My husband had to work hard to prove to me he was worthy of me..my time, my love, my commitment to him. This was after several serious relationships and living with someone, I told myself NEVER again! I lived and I learned. I learned to love myself first and NOT to take second best. I learned I rather be alone than settle just to be with someone. I rather not hurt anymore. I saw I offered nothing less than second to none to anyone I was with and eventually found someone that feels the same. It takes time. Hurts to dump something familiar, but for me it was for the better. Good things are around the corner...keep walking and do NOT turn back. Lose this joker!I have to TOTALLY agree with DeeDee...You probably never REALLY knew him anyway.
-
Guest
I've made the decision to leave and not wait for things to possibly get better (which was the reason I stuck it out this long)
I don't feel depressed as much over my guilt for staying with him after all of this. You guys are absolutely right... I've lived through it and learned! I could write a book of what I've learned from this situation/relationship.
The biggest for me: As a spiritual woman who has accepted Christ and lives by the spirit (or trys to) My first life lesson was my choice to ignore that really still small voice from the spirit that something wasn't quite right with him. My trusting and naive (sp) nature led me away from what was really deep down in my heart about the situation.
I've tried for years to surpress the feelings and to lie to myself into believing he's really not that bad, he's a hard worker, good with cooking and providing, etc. But I'd rather have a man who has a heart after God, is faithful, honest, financially prudent, spiritual, etc. None of which he possesses.
I feel good now about my decision. It has been long over due :p
I can't tell you again how much I appreciate all of your sound advice
Misty
I don't feel depressed as much over my guilt for staying with him after all of this. You guys are absolutely right... I've lived through it and learned! I could write a book of what I've learned from this situation/relationship.
The biggest for me: As a spiritual woman who has accepted Christ and lives by the spirit (or trys to) My first life lesson was my choice to ignore that really still small voice from the spirit that something wasn't quite right with him. My trusting and naive (sp) nature led me away from what was really deep down in my heart about the situation.
I've tried for years to surpress the feelings and to lie to myself into believing he's really not that bad, he's a hard worker, good with cooking and providing, etc. But I'd rather have a man who has a heart after God, is faithful, honest, financially prudent, spiritual, etc. None of which he possesses.
I feel good now about my decision. It has been long over due :p
I can't tell you again how much I appreciate all of your sound advice
Misty
Misty,
I know it is really a tough decision to make. I think as somebody else said you seek counsel before you make this decision and also you need to make sure you have the support you will need from family and friends. Hang in there girl.
At the present, I am also dealing with the question is my husband bad for me. there have been things going on for the past year that have unsettled me about our relationship. there are things that just don't add up and I wonder if he had a longstanding affair or is having one or if I am simply just paranoid as all get out. Of course, there is alot more to this story. But I am not ready to go there.
Just thanks for sharing and I wanted you to know you are not the only thinking about leaving a relationship. I have such a hard time thinking my husband of almost 30 years would do that to me.
Take care, I know we will get through this.
At th
I know it is really a tough decision to make. I think as somebody else said you seek counsel before you make this decision and also you need to make sure you have the support you will need from family and friends. Hang in there girl.
At the present, I am also dealing with the question is my husband bad for me. there have been things going on for the past year that have unsettled me about our relationship. there are things that just don't add up and I wonder if he had a longstanding affair or is having one or if I am simply just paranoid as all get out. Of course, there is alot more to this story. But I am not ready to go there.
Just thanks for sharing and I wanted you to know you are not the only thinking about leaving a relationship. I have such a hard time thinking my husband of almost 30 years would do that to me.
Take care, I know we will get through this.
At th