Dealing with anxiety and dating
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Jendaysxo247
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- Joined: Fri Jan 06, 2006 7:17 pm
I have realized that I have avoided dating too. I keep telling myself when I'm done with this then I'll start dating. I don't have the confidence to attract the right guy and have been hurt or hurt others in the past. This is my first week in the program and I pray that this is one thing I will overcome. I want to be able to marry my best friend when that time is right. God keeps telling me he's out there so I've gotta believe and keep healing. Best wishes to you all who are in the same boat.
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Hi, everyone,
Don't forget the good stuff about yourself! We have anxiety, BUT we also lots and lots of good qualities and personality traits about ourselves. For example, I think I'm pretty creative. That creativity is great for my book design, cooking, playing with the kids, brainstorming with community projects or our farm business, etc. The problem arises when I use my creativity in a negative way such as catastrophic thinking about what MIGHT happen. That's when I get in trouble and think I'm going to pass out or throw up or whatever symptoms I might feel for the day.
I am married and I often talk with my husband about this issue (putting up with the anxiety) and I believe he's right on when he says this is just a little piece of me. He loves all the creativity and that means the "dark side" :p of that creativity.
Now that I've been thru the program, I know now why I used to feel nauseated dating someone new. And I'll never forget the first time my now husband cooked for me at his place. I had to rush to the bathroom because I thought I would gag.
Not because of the food, for that thought that "oh my gosh, I think he's the one!" And I don't mean that in a bad way--just the realization gave me a panic attack! LOL!
I encourage you to step beyond that circle of comfort....you never know who might be beyond the circle.
Peace to everyone on this precious present day!
Don't forget the good stuff about yourself! We have anxiety, BUT we also lots and lots of good qualities and personality traits about ourselves. For example, I think I'm pretty creative. That creativity is great for my book design, cooking, playing with the kids, brainstorming with community projects or our farm business, etc. The problem arises when I use my creativity in a negative way such as catastrophic thinking about what MIGHT happen. That's when I get in trouble and think I'm going to pass out or throw up or whatever symptoms I might feel for the day.
I am married and I often talk with my husband about this issue (putting up with the anxiety) and I believe he's right on when he says this is just a little piece of me. He loves all the creativity and that means the "dark side" :p of that creativity.
Now that I've been thru the program, I know now why I used to feel nauseated dating someone new. And I'll never forget the first time my now husband cooked for me at his place. I had to rush to the bathroom because I thought I would gag.
Not because of the food, for that thought that "oh my gosh, I think he's the one!" And I don't mean that in a bad way--just the realization gave me a panic attack! LOL! I encourage you to step beyond that circle of comfort....you never know who might be beyond the circle.
Peace to everyone on this precious present day!