Mom making all of the plans

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I didn't realize I was doing it either. My boyfriend pointed it out and I got very upset with him because I felt he was criticizing myfamily and because everything had always "worked" like this, I didn't think anything was wrong. But after thinking about it for a good long time on my own, I started to realize that I was doing everything that my parents asked because I never wanted to upset them or disappoint them.

Cuttingirl, you're right, I'm in that place now too where I feel like I can't control how they're going to react but at least I'm taking care of myself. I'm still there for them but I don't want to be manipulated or expected. As well, the situation with your boyfriend, I'm sad to say I use to be like that. if my boyfriend wanted a night to himself, I would take it personally, even though it had nothing to do with me. We've since re-established our relationship and I feel really good having my own time too. Sounds like you guys need some new boundaries.