I Hate People

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Sep 01, 2009 6:42 pm

Shif -

On the lighter side, I've heard the other side of the "take a walk in your enemy's shoes for 24 hours" phrase. It's good advice. When you're done, you're 24 hours away from your enemy and they have no shoes!

LostGirl -

On a more serious note, I think Jill has hit on a very important point. I've read a number of your posts and can feel your pain. But I see a common thread in all of them. I'll try to be as gentle as possible and this may be hard to hear. If you want to get out of this, you can't be the victim anymore.

No matter how bad things are for us, there are always many more people that have it just as bad or worse. So the question is why do some of those people succeed and why do some of them fail. I think the most influential factor is attitude. If you believe you will fail, you will.

Take a moment and consider even your screen name and the picture you chose to use with it. Do they make you feel better or do they reinforce the negative way you already feel? Why would you want to continue to hurt yourself by choosing negative representations? I know how difficult it is to have a positive attitude when it is such a trial just to get through the day, but it's the only way to survive. There is so much truth to the saying that you are what you believe.

If you want to achieve your goals, you must take action and go after them. They won't come to you. It often won't be easy. Unfortunately, that is just part of life. We must play the cards we are dealt. Now is the time to put together an action plan to get you to where you want to be. You must believe in yourself and embrace a positive attitude as much as you can. If your first goal is to get a copy of the program, then you have to look into every avenue of how you might accomplish that. Jill had some very good suggestions which you might consider.

I'm not trying in any way to belittle you or talk down to you so please don't take offense. I'm only trying to share some of the insights I've picked up along my journey through panic and anxiety. We are all here to support you as much as we can, but only you can heal yourself. No one else can do it for you.

Be strong and remember to be kind to yourself.

Best of luck to you,
Jamie

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Sep 01, 2009 6:52 pm

Searunner you are a RIOT.

You even make containers of yogurt spill out in laughter. Okay bad attempt.

lostgirl, I agree with the victim mentality, and the choice of screen name and avatar, it's quite an attention-getter and obviously works, look at all the responses you are getting, but sadly I am not sure you take much of them to heart.

I'm still trying to understand how it's someone else's fault when you hit him from behind? If he stopped in front of you it sounds like you might have been tailgating and then you hit him and now you are upset with him, the insurance company and the attorney? How is that?

And I don't mean to be hurtful, but this was just an observation. Maybe I read it wrong or it wasn't explained the way it really happened, so please forgive me for misunderstanding.

DO SOMETHING.

Fight back, or something. Don't let your anger win in this. Kick your anger's butt and get happy. It doesn't always come naturally, it takes work sometimes. Find all of Searunner's jokes, that's a start.

It all lies within you, grab the brass ring. (searunner I know you are thinking up a good one right now, don't you dare.)

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Sep 01, 2009 7:18 pm

LostGirl -

One more very important thing. I don't know your state of mind, but PLEASE, PLEASE don't consider hurting yourself or suicide as an option. It's NOT on the list of thing to try. If you are seriously considering this, please seek medical attention IMMEDIATELY.

All my best,
Jamie

Shif -

I try my best! I've done my job if I can make someone at least smile. Of course, I get a bonus if I can make something shoot out their nose when they laugh.

I have succeeded on that one more than a few times...

Take care,
Jamie

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Sep 01, 2009 7:20 pm

Girl
I totally know how you feel. I was also someone
who had major anger issues. I learned them from my Dad he was a big nasty mean guy. Then he almost died from diabetes complications and he turned his life around for the good. I didn't have a near death experience but I ruined alot
of relationships with everyone avoiding me since I was told it was like walking on egg shells to be around me. That sucked. I gave it to God and asked him to help me see when I was getting mad and I found out that I didn't usually blow up out of nowhere it was usually after I let things sit and roll around in my brain for a while and THEN God Forbid someone said something I didn't want to hear? Then BAM I would go off. I chased people down in my car
when I thought they were bad drivers to tell them off I confronted people in the store that cut me off with their cart or bumped into me. I was a pain in the BUTT haha. I have learned so much to just give some people some slack. I think it was one night I saw the news that a guy was drunk driving and he got pulled over for almost killing people and it ends up he was having a heart attack and losing consciousness. I felt so terrible. I realized then I need to give others the same patience that I want when I am feeling like crap ya know? Anyway sorry you are stressing so bad right now. I hope your Dad starts to chill out. I'll keep him in my prayers. You too if you want? PM me anytime okay?
Jill~

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Sep 02, 2009 7:29 pm

I'm glad you understand Jill. It is hard to get over anger.. and i've cried and prayed alot of times myself. Though its extremely hard to control it when someone keeps constantly pushing you over and over like you can't escape.

And i do take things very seriously. I have been around alot of negative people and alot of negative bad things have happened i'm not saying that oh i have it worse than anyone else, no but that doesn't mean that i can handle the things that happened no. My mind adn the way i think isnt like it use to be anymore and its hard to control my thoughts.
But that night i told myself i had enough that things are out of control with my mind and the body symptoms with my skin crawling everytime i put clothes on and everything going fast so i decided to get on medication so things won't get worse. That doesn't mean i'm not going to stop trying to get this program or keep helping myself. And the doctor doesn't want me on them forever. Just so i can handle things and be stable on my journey to recovery.

Shifrah- He pulled out in front of us while we were driving and stopped like an idiot not paying attention. That is what happened. And i AM doing something about my problem.

SeaRunner- I am not a victim, i am posting my feelings onto this community board because that is what people on here do. (Though i know i can get angry and worked up most of the time i do type on here im dealing with an anxiety attack.. & i'm sorry if any of my messages affended you or anyone else) I let out alot of stuff here that i can't anywhere else. And yeah i admit i have anger issues and i'm extemely overemotional though i may not have it that worse but its still an issue i'm trying to fix. And about my username and picture the reason why i picked them isn't because i am thinking negative. I dislike myself alot and i feel lost as a person. And no..i don't think i am going to commit suicide .

But thank you all for your advice i will definatly try my best to take it past the negative thoughts and anger.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Sep 03, 2009 2:33 am

Shifrah- He pulled out in front of us while we were driving and stopped like an idiot not paying attention. That is what happened. And i AM doing something about my problem.

Oh, I see now. I wonder if that was a scam, I've heard of people doing that.

Hope you feel better soon. Great that you are tackling your issues. Just remember it won't be comfortable, you'll feel anxious and terrible but it's the only way to get over them.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Sep 04, 2009 7:52 am

You need to rid your life of the negativity by stop talking to people who bring drama into your life and place yourself into a more positive environment.

You're becoming easily angered and irritated with people cause there are things going on with you that you may not know how to react to.

Let all of that go and take each day as a way to be happier. I can relate to your pain, I've been there done that years ago and I realized that all my anger and frustration was only hurting myself more. You can choose to be upset or choose to be happy. I chose to be happy.

I know it's easier said than done but you seem like a strong person and you're entitled to be happy. It's good to vent to release any emotions and remember to always be kind to yourself no matter how hard it gets. If you ever feel out of control, do try to seek comfort in others. Good luck to you.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Sep 07, 2009 4:39 pm

Thanx Shifrah. I know its hard for me to even get back in a car without shaking i get so scared. But i've decided to get on antidepressants with my doctor for my strong anxiety. Though i'm still going to be doing this program at the same time just so i can get it under control and deal with it then taper off when i can handle it better.

And i do try to stay away from negative people. But sometimes i think alot of negative things and worry ALOT. so hopefully the medicine will get my anxiety and worry under control.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Sep 07, 2009 10:53 pm

calm down and take deep breaths...
don't be so angry because if you stay in this state of madness you will just idle and the other people do move on.
take care

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Sep 13, 2009 5:05 pm

We all feel that way sometimes. You have to let it go because if you dwell on it, the anger will consume you.