am i putting my anxiety and depression on relationship or is it me?

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anna24
I am sorry Anna that it has taken me a couple of days to get back to you. Honestly I am still navigating through this forum thing lol. I broke up with my fiance because although he was a fantastic guy as I said before. We actually had nothing in common and his personality I guess (well I actually know) was very negative and it drained the life out of me often and kept me anxious and stressed. Honestly I really believe in my particular case that my subconscious was screaming at me to get out, but my conscious mind was not listening. Anna reading your response to my post has really shed some light on this for me to respond back to you. I do remember my anxiety starting when I was dating this person and although I had never put it all together he was in fact contributing to my stress level and I was allowing him to. The thought of doing this for the rest of my life panicked me, but I stayed in denial for a long time as well. I honestly in my heartfelt opinion believe you need not make any life changing decisions about your relationship or anything else that is so near and dear to your heart until you have completed the program. the relationship will still be there for you but you will be looking at the situation from an under-reactor's point of view and it will make you neither anxious nor nauseous. When you can look at it from more of an objective point of view and less of an emotional point of view it will not have the same power over you that it does now. Anna this honestly could be your guy but you will not know that until you have taken some time out to help yourself get over this condition because you may very well feel entirely different after you have completed the program. Your indecisiveness is definitely I believe a symptom of this condition and nothing more and until that is on solid ground you cannot really make a life changing decision accurately because your thinking may very well be distorted. So in my opinion I believe I would wait and take some time off from decision making and just keep telling yourself I will think about this subject later and keep repeating that to yourself until your mind starts believing it and then the later just does not come. Anna if and when you make a decision to stay or leave , it should and will be without any anxiety and because you have so much of it over this issue that tells me that it is again a symptom of this condition and possibly nothing more than that. Remember you can send me a private message anytime you would like if you need to talk some more or on the forum as well.
Take care and let it go for now