i know what you mean and men usully try to be the strong type that if they tell anything that it makes them weak. let me tell yo this as a man. if you let others know how you feel and they have been where you are now and have waked in your shoes and have overcome panic and anxiety and so can you..find others that you can relate too and talk it over with them and you will find peace and comfort and they will not laugh or call you names..if you hold it in it will make it worse. take care and have a good day and be blessed..
don
from a man that is not too proud too tell my story and it helped...if you get a chance please read my profile and it will fill you in thanks
Anyone kept there anxiety to themselves?
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pnfb57,
i know how hard it is to try and work and have anxiety. i had dealt with it for years and am now retired...it was to a point that i had walked away from many jobs and back then they did not know what it was or how to control it...i know that others take meds and work and it is in small doses..some take .5 xanax and even 1/2 of that. i know for a fact that the program works and gives you the skills and tools that you need to be able to do the things that you need to do and be albe to relax and sleep. even doctors and other professionals have it and deal with it in different ways.. you will be in our thoughts and prayers and i hope that this gives you hope and i know that you can overcome this..take care and be blessed and i will talk to you later..
from one that has been there and have used the skills and tools from the program to overcome it and with GODS help as well i did it and so can you..i just turned 62 this month and have come so far and i want you to be able to go on your journey of happiness..
don
i know how hard it is to try and work and have anxiety. i had dealt with it for years and am now retired...it was to a point that i had walked away from many jobs and back then they did not know what it was or how to control it...i know that others take meds and work and it is in small doses..some take .5 xanax and even 1/2 of that. i know for a fact that the program works and gives you the skills and tools that you need to be able to do the things that you need to do and be albe to relax and sleep. even doctors and other professionals have it and deal with it in different ways.. you will be in our thoughts and prayers and i hope that this gives you hope and i know that you can overcome this..take care and be blessed and i will talk to you later..
from one that has been there and have used the skills and tools from the program to overcome it and with GODS help as well i did it and so can you..i just turned 62 this month and have come so far and i want you to be able to go on your journey of happiness..
don
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Hi Celeron,
I agree with the others on this site that you may be surprised with the support you receive once you open up to your wife and family. However, the next time your wife makes fun of her aunt, why not engage her in a conversation? See if you can get her to talk about why she thinks it is funny, why there is no sympathy or understanding for her aunt. Perhaps this aunt has a history that you don't know about. At the very least, you might get your wife to start thinking in a more compassionate way... Pave the way for you, if you decide to tell her. I really have found that people are very accepting once you open up, everyone has either been there themselves or knows someone that has. That being said, I do have a lot of Irish friends (living in Boston, it's inevitable
) and I know from them that anxiety and depression are not as easily spoken about in Ireland as they are here. I guess you will have to gauge it and decide for yourself when it is the right time to tell your wife, if you do tell her. In the meantime, you have friends and support here.
pnfb57- we are here for you, too. You can do this!
I agree with the others on this site that you may be surprised with the support you receive once you open up to your wife and family. However, the next time your wife makes fun of her aunt, why not engage her in a conversation? See if you can get her to talk about why she thinks it is funny, why there is no sympathy or understanding for her aunt. Perhaps this aunt has a history that you don't know about. At the very least, you might get your wife to start thinking in a more compassionate way... Pave the way for you, if you decide to tell her. I really have found that people are very accepting once you open up, everyone has either been there themselves or knows someone that has. That being said, I do have a lot of Irish friends (living in Boston, it's inevitable
) and I know from them that anxiety and depression are not as easily spoken about in Ireland as they are here. I guess you will have to gauge it and decide for yourself when it is the right time to tell your wife, if you do tell her. In the meantime, you have friends and support here. pnfb57- we are here for you, too. You can do this!
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I was secretative about it for like 2.2 seconds in the beginning, lol. Seriously though, those in my inner circle/world = hus, my inlaws, & immediate close friends(I'm talking like friends for 25+ yrs) knew - I told them. I don't so much keep it as secret out of shame(I have no shame) as much as I tell who needs to know & those who dont - well, lol they dont'. I am private about me & my business, no more or less.
I never experienced any physical symptoms prior to my anxiety disorder triggering in APRIL 2005. It triggered after I had surgery for the 1st time. When it hit, it came hard & fast. There was no chance to hide it fr anyone, even my hubby - it forced my hand - I COULDN'T WORK. Fortunately, I had the mental where w/ all to take action, immediately: I printed a list of therapists covered under our med ins & went to my reg dr. She made a gen'l diagnosis & I then initiated therapy w/ a psychiatrist.
Sure, several of my inlaws didn't understand this "thing" that had befallen me - & I got mad & frustrated - I even cried at it - cause I knew it was real, I was feeling it. However, my recovery depended on me NOT GIVING A S...T what anyone thought - its wasted energy. I did what I had to do. I was on anxiety med 3x's per day & 2 sleep aids for severe sleep deprivation. I was told, by my reg dr & my psychiatrist(who didn't know eachother & have never spoken @ all) "lenore, yours is 1 of the worst cases of anxiety disorder I have ever seen" so that told me it was real. My husband knew - I couldn't have done this w/o his support. Sure, it was I who did all the work - but I am human & I needed the support. My husband didn't understand anxiety disorder, hell it tormented him everyday to see me in such pain & fear & not be able to do anything to help me - he couldn't take it away. My husband didn't live my childhood either - the very opposite actually. He did what he could: he went to every therapy session, waiting in waiting area, he listened - he held me when I was afraid or in pain & @ times, when discussing the details of events I was discussing in therapy - he cried w/ me. He also saw me working darn hard w/ this: I went to every single session, no matter how hard it was, I initiated journaling + I researched & read 16 books - then when I was ready to face myself - I brought up getting this program - for which he saw me working it every single day - it was my PRIORITY. My husband often says "that program is the best money we ever spent". My therapist told me "keep doing that program" - it was working - I WAS WORKING.
Unfortunately, there is a stigma attached to anxiety disorder & or depress in society. Pardon my language if you will - I DON'T GIVE A CRAP WHAT SOME NAY SAYERS THINK/FEEL/SAY about it. I know the truth. I know I EARNED MY RECOVERY FR ANXIETY DISORDER W/ <span class="ev_code_RED">more pain than they could ever imagine fr events I LITERALLY WENT THRU IN THE PAST & HAD TO RELIVE IN THERAPY. I earned it thru facing my past, facing myself & feeling the pain necessary for CHANGE to happen. My recovery speaks volumes about me & the work I've done - so what, folks are gonna say what they want anyhows - I really don't care.</span> For 3 yrs, I stayed home unable to work in a tradional sense - but trust you me, I WAS WORKING - a fact I had a hard time giving myself credit for. RECOVERY FR ANXIETY DISORDER IS WORK & DON'T YOU LET NO ONE TELL YOU DIFFERENT.
Again, w/ me its on a NEED TO KNOW BASIS. If someone were to ask me - I'D SAY IT w/o a doubt. I take pride in me & the courage I have shown in facing this - in taking it on & as hard & painful as it WAS - I continued. I am very proud of the woman I have become & gosh, for the 1st time in my adult life -I love me - I really & truly do. THAT IS PRICELESS TO ME.
Pls pls, I know its hard & frustrating when you have the NONBELIEVERS or the NAYSAYERS in your life & world. Don't listen to them, don't waste the energy trying to make them understand or GET IT - rather, use that energy to recover FOR YOU. I am recovered fr anxiety disorder - I haven't taken an anxiety med or any sleep aids in 1 1/2 yrs - THAT IS THE PROOF IN THE PUDDING GUYS - not what the nonbelievers say or think.
LENORE
I never experienced any physical symptoms prior to my anxiety disorder triggering in APRIL 2005. It triggered after I had surgery for the 1st time. When it hit, it came hard & fast. There was no chance to hide it fr anyone, even my hubby - it forced my hand - I COULDN'T WORK. Fortunately, I had the mental where w/ all to take action, immediately: I printed a list of therapists covered under our med ins & went to my reg dr. She made a gen'l diagnosis & I then initiated therapy w/ a psychiatrist.
Sure, several of my inlaws didn't understand this "thing" that had befallen me - & I got mad & frustrated - I even cried at it - cause I knew it was real, I was feeling it. However, my recovery depended on me NOT GIVING A S...T what anyone thought - its wasted energy. I did what I had to do. I was on anxiety med 3x's per day & 2 sleep aids for severe sleep deprivation. I was told, by my reg dr & my psychiatrist(who didn't know eachother & have never spoken @ all) "lenore, yours is 1 of the worst cases of anxiety disorder I have ever seen" so that told me it was real. My husband knew - I couldn't have done this w/o his support. Sure, it was I who did all the work - but I am human & I needed the support. My husband didn't understand anxiety disorder, hell it tormented him everyday to see me in such pain & fear & not be able to do anything to help me - he couldn't take it away. My husband didn't live my childhood either - the very opposite actually. He did what he could: he went to every therapy session, waiting in waiting area, he listened - he held me when I was afraid or in pain & @ times, when discussing the details of events I was discussing in therapy - he cried w/ me. He also saw me working darn hard w/ this: I went to every single session, no matter how hard it was, I initiated journaling + I researched & read 16 books - then when I was ready to face myself - I brought up getting this program - for which he saw me working it every single day - it was my PRIORITY. My husband often says "that program is the best money we ever spent". My therapist told me "keep doing that program" - it was working - I WAS WORKING.
Unfortunately, there is a stigma attached to anxiety disorder & or depress in society. Pardon my language if you will - I DON'T GIVE A CRAP WHAT SOME NAY SAYERS THINK/FEEL/SAY about it. I know the truth. I know I EARNED MY RECOVERY FR ANXIETY DISORDER W/ <span class="ev_code_RED">more pain than they could ever imagine fr events I LITERALLY WENT THRU IN THE PAST & HAD TO RELIVE IN THERAPY. I earned it thru facing my past, facing myself & feeling the pain necessary for CHANGE to happen. My recovery speaks volumes about me & the work I've done - so what, folks are gonna say what they want anyhows - I really don't care.</span> For 3 yrs, I stayed home unable to work in a tradional sense - but trust you me, I WAS WORKING - a fact I had a hard time giving myself credit for. RECOVERY FR ANXIETY DISORDER IS WORK & DON'T YOU LET NO ONE TELL YOU DIFFERENT.
Again, w/ me its on a NEED TO KNOW BASIS. If someone were to ask me - I'D SAY IT w/o a doubt. I take pride in me & the courage I have shown in facing this - in taking it on & as hard & painful as it WAS - I continued. I am very proud of the woman I have become & gosh, for the 1st time in my adult life -I love me - I really & truly do. THAT IS PRICELESS TO ME.
Pls pls, I know its hard & frustrating when you have the NONBELIEVERS or the NAYSAYERS in your life & world. Don't listen to them, don't waste the energy trying to make them understand or GET IT - rather, use that energy to recover FOR YOU. I am recovered fr anxiety disorder - I haven't taken an anxiety med or any sleep aids in 1 1/2 yrs - THAT IS THE PROOF IN THE PUDDING GUYS - not what the nonbelievers say or think.
LENORE
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I use to keep it quiet, but close friends, my wife are aware of my issues.
My friend since 4th grade and my best man has always known.
My mother-in-law and my biological mother are aware, but I have been more quiet with how bad the issue is to my dad and his wife since when I went tumbling down the hill in 8th grade it was my problem and not theirs! So, with regards to informing them, no way!
I think sometimes not being able to be open with them hurts. I have a lot of family issues (maybe for another post) that some people say have likely boiled over.
Just one of the many reasons I am likely suffering from anxiety.
My friend since 4th grade and my best man has always known.
My mother-in-law and my biological mother are aware, but I have been more quiet with how bad the issue is to my dad and his wife since when I went tumbling down the hill in 8th grade it was my problem and not theirs! So, with regards to informing them, no way!
I think sometimes not being able to be open with them hurts. I have a lot of family issues (maybe for another post) that some people say have likely boiled over.
Just one of the many reasons I am likely suffering from anxiety.