Nervous about returning to work
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Frances,
Thanks for the advice. Actually today I was motivated to not want to sit in the house. I got up and went to the post office, there was a huge line, practically out the door, but I made myself stay and wait. I went grocery shopping and then after that I went to get gas and was motivated to drive around for an half hour. I even stopped by the park to watch the geese. I then came home and took my dog for a 25min walk.
I think each day I will set goals for myself and stick to them. One of them being driving by my job or driving to my job and sitting in the parking a lot for awhile so I am used to the routine of still being there.
Thanks again for the advice. I will talk to my boss and see if we can come up with a plan.
Thanks for the advice. Actually today I was motivated to not want to sit in the house. I got up and went to the post office, there was a huge line, practically out the door, but I made myself stay and wait. I went grocery shopping and then after that I went to get gas and was motivated to drive around for an half hour. I even stopped by the park to watch the geese. I then came home and took my dog for a 25min walk.
I think each day I will set goals for myself and stick to them. One of them being driving by my job or driving to my job and sitting in the parking a lot for awhile so I am used to the routine of still being there.
Thanks again for the advice. I will talk to my boss and see if we can come up with a plan.
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Hi,
I'm bummed out over what your going through, but I'm also kind of feeling better about my own problem with this. My anxiety and depression got really bad in January of this year when I started my new job. I have had panic attacks where I just abruptly left and went home. I come in late and called off because of it. I've walked around the building with tears in my eyes and feeling terrible about myself. I can't believe I'm still there after 7 months. I eventually broke down and got on Lexapro to help me with the severe depression so I wouldn't leave in the middle of the day anymore. Your definately not the only one, and if you pay close attention at work you will notice other people there have similiar issues they just cover it up or handle it differently and with less emotion then we do. That's great that you are able to take time off. I don't have that option. Eventually you will have to go back and deal with the same thing, so I hope you get enough of the skills in to deal with it when you go back. I have been off of work for 5 days on vacation and I go back tomorrow. I feel a little anxious about it, but I know it's because I haven't been there in five days and I'm going to be ok.
I've been moving through the program very slowly and today I listened to tape 12, and I feel really good after listening to this tape. It's a hard one to swallow, but they speak the true and I think once you can hear the true and face it then you realize it's not as bad as you thought because now you know what you have to do. All we can do is keep plugging along until we get it right, and we will.
I'm bummed out over what your going through, but I'm also kind of feeling better about my own problem with this. My anxiety and depression got really bad in January of this year when I started my new job. I have had panic attacks where I just abruptly left and went home. I come in late and called off because of it. I've walked around the building with tears in my eyes and feeling terrible about myself. I can't believe I'm still there after 7 months. I eventually broke down and got on Lexapro to help me with the severe depression so I wouldn't leave in the middle of the day anymore. Your definately not the only one, and if you pay close attention at work you will notice other people there have similiar issues they just cover it up or handle it differently and with less emotion then we do. That's great that you are able to take time off. I don't have that option. Eventually you will have to go back and deal with the same thing, so I hope you get enough of the skills in to deal with it when you go back. I have been off of work for 5 days on vacation and I go back tomorrow. I feel a little anxious about it, but I know it's because I haven't been there in five days and I'm going to be ok.
I've been moving through the program very slowly and today I listened to tape 12, and I feel really good after listening to this tape. It's a hard one to swallow, but they speak the true and I think once you can hear the true and face it then you realize it's not as bad as you thought because now you know what you have to do. All we can do is keep plugging along until we get it right, and we will. -
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Hi there, I hope you return to work soon...
Just know that you are strong and get through this. I had a lot of work related issues over the years.
I've actually been doing a running tally in my head trying to figure out just how many jobs I've had (been offered, started, quit and been fired).
2 jobs fired me
I've had around 48 jobs (offers and jobs I've work at for at least 30 seconds)!!
I've been at my current job for the past years and I love it. I've also realized a lot about my "anxiety" and life...
I'm really at a good place and know that no matter I know life is what I make of it. If I'm stressed and crazy and say I'm going to have a bad day, then I will.
If I'm positive and open to new challenges, and say that I'll have a good day (then it'll probably be ok).
Just know that you are strong and get through this. I had a lot of work related issues over the years.
I've actually been doing a running tally in my head trying to figure out just how many jobs I've had (been offered, started, quit and been fired).
2 jobs fired me
I've had around 48 jobs (offers and jobs I've work at for at least 30 seconds)!!
I've been at my current job for the past years and I love it. I've also realized a lot about my "anxiety" and life...
I'm really at a good place and know that no matter I know life is what I make of it. If I'm stressed and crazy and say I'm going to have a bad day, then I will.
If I'm positive and open to new challenges, and say that I'll have a good day (then it'll probably be ok).
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I think being positive is the key. I know my job isn't the source, I make it that way with my negative thoughts. I need to realize that I like my job and if I am having a hard time it is because I am making it.
I think if we all remember to stay positive, we will do good.
Good luck to everyone, and especially at the job site.
I sometimes think that we are the strongest people in the world. I mean on a daily basis we go through feeling dizzy, confused, scared, sad, mad, anxious, nasaues, numb, bewildered and we still manage to function, drive a car, grocery shop, take care of our families etc... We are so mentally, emotionally, and physically and yet still manage to get back up there. I've been knocked down so many times I can't count but I've never not gotten back up.
I think I need to remember my inner strength more often.
I think if we all remember to stay positive, we will do good.
Good luck to everyone, and especially at the job site.
I sometimes think that we are the strongest people in the world. I mean on a daily basis we go through feeling dizzy, confused, scared, sad, mad, anxious, nasaues, numb, bewildered and we still manage to function, drive a car, grocery shop, take care of our families etc... We are so mentally, emotionally, and physically and yet still manage to get back up there. I've been knocked down so many times I can't count but I've never not gotten back up.
I think I need to remember my inner strength more often.
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Hi GI822,
I took a two week leave recommended by my doctor two months ago due to issues with going on Paxil. Although I cannot say if Paxil is part of the reason I am back to work successfully, I do know the program is a big part. While I was out, I literally threw myself into the program, listening to the relaxation session three times per day, listening to either the CD or the DVD every day, working out of the book, going out onto the forum, eating properly, and connecting with support people (my Dad, who is also recovering from anxiety, good friends, etc.) That being said, when it was time to go back to work, I was ready. I viewed it as a distraction, and that really worked for me. My boss was supportive, but still expected a lot from me upon my return. I came back to around 700 emails. I got about half-way through that and then the second day I was back we started in on a contractor hiring frenzy. I love to work really hard, but there were moments when I returned to basics, and said, even aloud, "breathe in, count to two, breathe out, count to four." I was very honest with people I knew I could trust, and even found a couple people said they struggled with the same thing. One gave me Lucinda's book to work along with the program. The other shared and supported. The outcome was that since I threw myself into the contractor issues so strongly, I discovered an area I want to learn more about. I discussed it with my boss this past Friday and she cleared me to work on learning more of what our outsourcing project manager does, and to become more involved in that area. A door opened! Today I talked to the project manager and got a very favorable response! So, think of an opportunity that may open, throw yourself into something, keep your mind really busy on that opportunity, and go for it! The worst that can happen is that you will be distracted from your anxiety for a while, and who knows, you may discover that you are really good at something you had never investigated before:)
Hope this cheers you and gives you hope!
Keep in touch!
Darb
I took a two week leave recommended by my doctor two months ago due to issues with going on Paxil. Although I cannot say if Paxil is part of the reason I am back to work successfully, I do know the program is a big part. While I was out, I literally threw myself into the program, listening to the relaxation session three times per day, listening to either the CD or the DVD every day, working out of the book, going out onto the forum, eating properly, and connecting with support people (my Dad, who is also recovering from anxiety, good friends, etc.) That being said, when it was time to go back to work, I was ready. I viewed it as a distraction, and that really worked for me. My boss was supportive, but still expected a lot from me upon my return. I came back to around 700 emails. I got about half-way through that and then the second day I was back we started in on a contractor hiring frenzy. I love to work really hard, but there were moments when I returned to basics, and said, even aloud, "breathe in, count to two, breathe out, count to four." I was very honest with people I knew I could trust, and even found a couple people said they struggled with the same thing. One gave me Lucinda's book to work along with the program. The other shared and supported. The outcome was that since I threw myself into the contractor issues so strongly, I discovered an area I want to learn more about. I discussed it with my boss this past Friday and she cleared me to work on learning more of what our outsourcing project manager does, and to become more involved in that area. A door opened! Today I talked to the project manager and got a very favorable response! So, think of an opportunity that may open, throw yourself into something, keep your mind really busy on that opportunity, and go for it! The worst that can happen is that you will be distracted from your anxiety for a while, and who knows, you may discover that you are really good at something you had never investigated before:)
Hope this cheers you and gives you hope!
Keep in touch!
Darb
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It's funny that I saw this post, because today I returned to work after having 2 months off for summer break. Last night I tossed and turned, my body ached, I even had several times I had to run to the bathroom. I took a melatonin tablet to help me sleep....no luck. I ended up taking a half of xanax....which I only take at a last resort....that didn't even work. I am on 10mg of paxil as well. I couldn't believe how severe my anxiety was, considering it had been so long since I have had it like this. I watched the clock until 5:30 AM.I got up went to work on No sleep. The whole time there I felt like I wasn't supose to be working there. I am a teacher's assistant....and being around teachers causes my anxiety to rage. I know it is my own issues and low self esteem, but I just can't deal with feeling like I am less than eveyone at work and it is because of my education or should I say lack of education. I searched for a job all summer...please Lord help me find a job where I feel compitent and apprecitaed.I just want to find what I am to do with my life, and love it! I am proud of all of us fighters....we are strong with what we all deal with. I just finished Lucinda's book Life without Limits this summer. I was sure I was going to to back to work, using the tools from the book....but I didn't! I guess I need more practice.Does anyone feel the way I do when they are at work, or in social situations? I just want to say to everyone I feel for what you are all going through, and I hope tomorrow is a better day for us all!!
God Bless,
Ivy
God Bless,
Ivy
From Whatever to Ivyheart: I'm a teacher and I have to say the day goes much better when I have an aide. Hang in there and learn as much as you can from your teacher. Most teachers enjoy a teacher aide who shows an interest in what is happening in the classroom and wants to know more. I'm sorry you aren't my aide because if you were--you would be most appreciated and I would make sure you knew it! Keep trying!!!!
