Anxiety is back
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DedDeb- I think you would be pretty abnormal if you didn't have at least some anxiety over what is happening with your Mom right now. It's an upsetting situation. I wish I were "one of those people" also who wouldn't be affected so much when things go wrong but I guess I'm not- otherwise I wouldn't be in the program working on how to not overreact. I haven't gone thru the whole program yet so I don't have any wise words to help you right now. I wish I did. I do remember taking care of my sister after a hip surgery and she was just so mean and nasty to me I wanted to go home and never go back. The physical therapist told me to be patient because my sister was in pain and extremely frustrated and I was the closest target. Lucky me! I took a little time to myself and felt very guilty but it gave both of us a break. She got nicer and I got calmer. I hope your day ends on a little better note.
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Thank You BoonOriginally posted by Boon:
DebDeb,
Allow yourself to get out of your head for awhile. You just need a little break.
The STOP, breath work and attention shift will really help you to relax. The calm breath can release a lot of tension and placing your attention outside of your head - whistling, journaling, singing, talking with someone, cleaning, etc. really helps. Be persistent.
It also helps to lay on the floor with your legs up the wall. Consciously bring those shoulders down and do the calm breath.
If you can remember that "the breath is all there is" you will be moved to use the calm technique all the time.
I will try these calming techniques- I forgot how to breathe again
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uGH I Know the feeling. Take a walk or a quickOriginally posted by jugray:
My anxiety is at an all time high today as well. I was doing soo well. Then this morning I kinda felt weird when i woke up. I got to work and the colleagues started acting like nazis, and then the kids showed up and were out of control. Now my neck is like a rock and I have a knot in my lower back. My face is wrenched up and grimaced and I cannot relax. I don't have the relaxation cd with me today and I'm about one stupid comment away from blowing my top!!! Why????
break.
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Be compassionate to yourself, listen to your self-talk. Say: "I am going through a rough time right now. ANYONE would be stressed with all of these things happening all at once. I am strong, I can handle it. I will just take one thing at a time, and not try to worry about everything at once." With everything happening at once - and it does or they wouldn't have come up with that saying when it rains it pours - my self-talk tends to go like this: I can't handle it! (yes, I can. It won't be fun handling it, but I will get through it one day/hour/minute at a time). This sucks, no one else has it this bad. (well, actually almost anyone would agree with me that this sucks, but there are still a lot of things that could be worse. I'll make it worse if I keep telling myself how awful it is). Why did this happen? Or This wouldn't have happened if only... (I can't change the past. It is wasted energy going over it. I will be positive and see what is the best thing to do from here). Good luck, I hope your day got better.
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