agoraphobic feeling lonely
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Guest
Unfortunately, your friends might not have the maturity level or the all around understanding of someone who is agoraphobic. I know before I had anxiety disorder/agoraphobia I would be like 'what's the big deal?', 'why are you afraid to go down the street' etc... etc...
I'm 26 and the friends I have now are very supportive. Some of them don't understand the extent of it, but they are supportive. My family is also supportive.
It's tough when you meet new people and they want you to go out. I started a new job last year and there were a lot of people in my age group. I found just being honest was the best way to go about it. Like one of my fear's is also going down the city. I live outside of Philadelphia. When people would ask me to go out to a club with them down town I would say, "Oh I don't go downtown, it causes me a lot of anxiety and it's too crowded'. 'I'm more of a fan of local bars.' And they were fine with that answer. And if they weren't, so what.
I think everyone has problems, whether be with them or a family member. I would keep talking to the guy at the grocery store. If he asks you to do something, tell him to come over your house and watch a movie. Keep going out of the house, even if it's a mintue down the road. You'll get through this, it just takes time.
Good luck!
I'm 26 and the friends I have now are very supportive. Some of them don't understand the extent of it, but they are supportive. My family is also supportive.
It's tough when you meet new people and they want you to go out. I started a new job last year and there were a lot of people in my age group. I found just being honest was the best way to go about it. Like one of my fear's is also going down the city. I live outside of Philadelphia. When people would ask me to go out to a club with them down town I would say, "Oh I don't go downtown, it causes me a lot of anxiety and it's too crowded'. 'I'm more of a fan of local bars.' And they were fine with that answer. And if they weren't, so what.
I think everyone has problems, whether be with them or a family member. I would keep talking to the guy at the grocery store. If he asks you to do something, tell him to come over your house and watch a movie. Keep going out of the house, even if it's a mintue down the road. You'll get through this, it just takes time.
Good luck!
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Guest
I know how you feel. I graduated high school in 2000. I still have 2 friends from high school who I hang out at my house with. I told both of them a couple of years ago about what it is I have and what I go through and they understand for the most part. They can't understand completely though because unless you've gone through what we're going through there's no way to fully understand it. They are both like brothers to me and are about the only people who can make me laugh when I'm feeling down.
My agorophobia has gotten so bad that I don't go anywhere now. Every now and then I might drive down the road but that's it. Last year someone tried to set me up with a girl and I was hesitant but told that person that if they wanted to they could. A few days later though I told that person about what it is I go through and told them to tell the girl that I wouldn't be able to go out with them because I didn't want to make my problems her problems as well.
I would just talk with each friend and tell them what it is you go through.
My agorophobia has gotten so bad that I don't go anywhere now. Every now and then I might drive down the road but that's it. Last year someone tried to set me up with a girl and I was hesitant but told that person that if they wanted to they could. A few days later though I told that person about what it is I go through and told them to tell the girl that I wouldn't be able to go out with them because I didn't want to make my problems her problems as well.
I would just talk with each friend and tell them what it is you go through.