Most of the time, I feel uncomfortable in social situations and I have to force myself to engage in them. I even go so far as to entirely avoid them. Funny thing is that I was in the food and beverage business for years. I could talk and interact and even have a good time in that situation easily. However, I discovered that that was my alter ego not me. Actually I was what you might call an impersonator.
Hope this helps . ..
Anyone feel super uncomfortable in social situations?
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Slick's Place...it's interesting how you said you had an alter ego and about impersonating. I think we should all take an acting class...seriously! How do all those hollywood stars do what they do. I'm not saying they aren't real but I think they probably use there acting skills sometimes to help them cope in certain situation. I watched something the other day that had Will Smith on it. He was talking about his new movie. He said it was hard to come home at night after filming all day because he had to get into the character. I believe he meant his "mind" because he said it was like he would have to tell his self okay, I'm at home now. Almost like he had to get his self back to realty( in the precious present moment). Just like the program teaches, our mind does'nt know a real thought from an imagined one. That's why we scare ourselves sometimes. It's all in the way we think. That is still something I'm struggling with.
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Hi everyone,tools, of any thing
I am new here and this is my first entry. I also have socail issues. I cannot even go out to eat without a panic attack. I a also a entertainer, a musician, so I do a lot of shows, and what happens is at some point before the show I will vomit. And I hate it with a passion! I am wondering "why am I like this?" So i purchased the program and i am taking steps. I need to get out of this trap. ASAP its time start livng... Nice to meet you all and please keep in touch
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Carolyn Dickman
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This is my first attempt to post on this message board. I like the topics and the opportunity to interact with folks dealing with the same issues as I am. It's hard to find someone to talk to who REALLY knows how you feel and what you mean unless they too have been depressed, are bipolar and have ADD. This topic of "Anyone feel super uncomfortable in social situations?" is an interesting one and I'm glad it has come up.
You see I am a pastor's wife and I have social anxiety. I have had to go for months now without once attending church - for any reason. Not a good thing for the preacher's wife! Bad position for me and my husband. People were watching closely. The fish bowl became very scary with all those eyes looking inside! But my anxiety heightened to the point I could not drive thus someone had to take me to the store or run errands. There were days I couldn't even as much as walk down the walkway to get my mail. I was afraid I would have to "talk" to someone.
I talked to my psychrist about this and asked her advice. She said it was part of depression and to be patient for it would pass. I feel I am some better but now I am in a manic mode. Manic modes always lead right into a downward spiral. So from past experiences I know to expect it and prepare myself for it. I just hope I get my Christmas things done before it gets here...hee, hee.
I have discovered through reading and talking to other people that social anxiety isn't that uncommon and folks that I would never have thought have had to deal with it through the years has shocked me. So you will get over this and through this valley.
There are days when I feel as though "...I walk through the valley of the shadow of death....". That valley is dark and lonely and there somewhere in the background all the time. It just won't go away.
You see I am a pastor's wife and I have social anxiety. I have had to go for months now without once attending church - for any reason. Not a good thing for the preacher's wife! Bad position for me and my husband. People were watching closely. The fish bowl became very scary with all those eyes looking inside! But my anxiety heightened to the point I could not drive thus someone had to take me to the store or run errands. There were days I couldn't even as much as walk down the walkway to get my mail. I was afraid I would have to "talk" to someone.
I talked to my psychrist about this and asked her advice. She said it was part of depression and to be patient for it would pass. I feel I am some better but now I am in a manic mode. Manic modes always lead right into a downward spiral. So from past experiences I know to expect it and prepare myself for it. I just hope I get my Christmas things done before it gets here...hee, hee.
I have discovered through reading and talking to other people that social anxiety isn't that uncommon and folks that I would never have thought have had to deal with it through the years has shocked me. So you will get over this and through this valley.
There are days when I feel as though "...I walk through the valley of the shadow of death....". That valley is dark and lonely and there somewhere in the background all the time. It just won't go away.
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Hi Mary Lynn, I know exactly how you feel. I feel very uncomfortable in social situations like every single person is staring at me and judging me. At family events I don't know what to talk about therefore don't really talk to anybody, then I come off as an anti-social prick. I too, avoid having to talk to people, at work if there is someone in the break room, I wait until they leave to grab a snack or something. Just wanted to let you know your not alone and I know exactly what you are talking about.
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